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littlemissconfused

(can't post under usual name in case h2b sees!)

i went to have a perusal of wedding dresses yesterday with my mum. first shop i went to was lovely and really helpful women advised me on a number of different styles. tried a few on, all looked 'fine', then tried THE ONE on and it was gorgeous! strangers were gasping as i came out the changing rooms (in a good way i hope!) and my mum started crying. i must admit, it did look stunning!

so we bought it! i'd read loads saying when you find 'the one' you'll know etc, just didn't expect it to be ont he first look!

anyway, it's at the shop ready for my fittings.

only problem is i'm starting to have doubts. you see the thing is... it is red! it is a christmas wedding and i am a typical english rose (pale!) so i was having some trouble with ivory and my skin tone and the red looked amazing with my skin. but the more i think about it i think oh god... do i really want to get married in red?!!

it did look fab and the style and fit is perfect but i feel like i was slightly pressured into getting it in red and not ivory (they didn't have one in stock so i couldn't try it on in that colour).

it wasn't very MSE either (mum paid) but now i'm starting to wish i'd gone for the ivory! but it's too late, we've paid in full. is there anything i can do???

any advice re negotiating the ivory (which by the way is £300 more!) or from brides who have married in red. i think part of it may be 'what will people think' and that it needs confidence to be carried off and i'll be worrying until the wedding now. i haven't told h2b about colour/style and what if he doesn't like it....

Carrera74

I'm not sure about the regotiating the dress but I'm a typical english rose too and I'm dreading trying the 'traditional' colour wedding dresses on as I know I'll look pasty in them. Red sounds great and as you said it looked fab and I'm sure the colour will look great against your skin tone

I went to a wedding show not long ago and the final dress was a red one and it looked stunning. Everyone gasped when she came out. It looked fabulous

squashy

I say, if the red one made you and everone else think "YES" then this is the one you should go for.

When I got married I was determined to throw convention out the window and we had a real hotchpotch of styles...although I got married in a castle so it felt "right" for me to have a princessy antique ivory dress complete with heaving bosom lol. But we had our meal in a tapas bar and chucked a few CDs on while we danced the night away....no speeches just lots of hugs for my nearest and dearest....

I say stop worrying about what Auntie Mavis will think and GO FOR IT!

jamgirl

when i got married 14yrs ago nearly everyone got married in white/ivory.
i didn't suit either colour.

i really wanted red but couldn't find one anywhere. i eventually found someone to make me one but when i was in the shop looking at materials i found a gorgeous deep gold colour. it was gorgeous and thats what i had. everyone was shocked but in a nice way and it made me feel even more special because it wasn't a common colour (although it has become more common now) i didn't tell my hubbie to be but i did tell my priest.....lol. we were getting married in a catholic church and i didn't want the priest to faint cos i wasn't in white. :eek: he was fine about it and told me afterwards he thought the dress was beautiful.

so i would say go for it. you know its the one. forget about other peoples reactions. if you like it and your mum does then its the right dress

Savvy_Sue

We were at a wedding last year where the bride wore a scarlet meringue. It looked stunning!

You go for it girl, but I know if it was me I'd drop hints to h2b that my dress wasn't going to be the usual colour!

andycarmi

All I can say is go for what YOU want and not what you THINK other people will think!!!

Ask yourself... Will I regret it if I don't wear it?

Also I love red wedding dresses but you have to feel comfortable in the dress. Also you will feel diffrent on the day when everything comes together.

I remember when I put mine on in the shop for fitting I was thinking after was it "to much" there is a place for everything...

Also If your Mum paid she must have loved it too. How much do you value her opioion? Is she the kind of Mum who would tell you if she thought it wasn't for you?

Something to think about. HTH

Molanole

First things first, It's your day. And from what I can tell you must have looked absolutely stunning. When my sister was trying on her dresses there were loads that were lovely but only one where my mum cried. Needless to say that's the one she wore.

You're probably having nerves about the fact that you can't put it on to reassure yourself. I'm sure this feeling will go away when you have your next fitting and when it comes to the day and your whole look is sorted it will all come together no doubt.

Don't be conformist if you don't want to be. And personally I think with it being a Christmas wedding you can get away with Red as it is in keeping with the season.

I say go for it!!!

mom23

If your having doubts i would go back to the shop on your own or with a friend and re try the dress before it's to late!!
I should imagine if you go back and find you are not happy with the dress the shop will sort somthing out,(this must happen loads of times!!)
I wouldn't be swayed by anyone, you have to feel good and happy in it.
When i got married my mum and dad didn't have much money but i still ended up with a lovely dress,the only prob was i was able to buy and bring home straight away and although i left dress at mums i did keep trying it on and by the time the wedding day came i didn't feel special in it!!!(in fact i really didn't like it,i look back now and i did look like a merangue(sp)

TBH red is not a colour i would go for but that's me!!
You have to think about the photo's and in 10 yrs time are you going to look at your wed photo and think :eek:
What about going for a gold colour!!
ooh eck i don't think i'm much help:rotfl:

vickyj

I have photographed a wedding where the bride wore a red dress and i have to say it was my favourite to date. She looked soo stunning and her individality shone through. this was 2 years ago and i still look through those pictures and glow.
dont forget folks the camera loves red
Vicky @ photonix

Nenen

If you go back and talk to the shop owner/manager you'll probably find that what you're experiencing is not at all unusual and I would hope that they'll do their best to help you.

After we'd paid for our wedding rings (many years ago) I got 'second thoughts' about the style and worried endlessly until my dh-to-be took me back to the shop to see if they would be prepared to help. I didn't think they'd be prepared to let me change my mind but actually they were absolutely lovely and said that it was common to have people change their mind and they were more than happy to exchange them as long as they hadn't already been resized. Maybe your dress shop would say the same or at least let you try the dress on again to help you feel better.

Personally I think red will be gorgeous... a lovely winter colour. If it is tradition you are worried about, white has only been the tradtional colour in this country for a relatively short period of time. Red is traditional among many cultures. I bet you'll look stunning:T :T :T

pookienoodle

Hi I would go back to the shop (or another that stocks it) and try the ivory and the red on so you can compare. chances are that the red will be the one you go for, but you must be sure. the second time you try a dress on you should know its the one.
every red dress I have ever seen ( in the flesh or in bridal magazines ) have always been STUNNING. and as the previous poster says the camera does lov e red.
good luck