Too disabled and too young to move out!

LadyMorticia

gaogier wrote: »

My mum was signed off work due to some other form of mental health by the GP, who won't sign her back onto work due to her having too many bad days and medication not helping much. Also she got electrocuted by some electricians bad work, and has bad nerve damage, and can't pick up heavy items - anything more than 1kg. - Her job is a Site manager for a school, and general repair person..

If your mum can't do any heavy lifting and can only lift up to a max of 1kg, then how can she lift you up when you fall?

GlasweJen

LM the dog picks him up! I'm not sure what part mum plays in this. Perhaps the cats fetch mum who goes to get the dog?

anguk

I'm my husband's carer and it would be an absolute nightmare if he lived somewhere else and I had to keep dashing over, it's much easier to care for someone if you live in the same house.

I can understand that you're a young adult and want privacy but I think it would be much easier all round if you stayed in the family home for the time being. From what you've said your disability is only temporary after you've had your operations, would it not be easier for everyone if you stayed at home for a few more years. Hopefully by then your operations will have been successful and there would be no need for you to have a bungalow or carers and it would be easier for you to find somewhere to live.

jackieb

Emmzi wrote: »

TBH you sound very self centred and selfish.

You are only thinking about you,not the poor sods who give up chunks of their lives to look after you. you haven't once said what's in it for them - just that instead of popping downstairs to help they now have to drive whenever you need them.

This can be one of the classic signs of Asperger's. That's how some people with Asperger's come across to others.

ngozi79

Hi, I'm a local so understand your need to be in Portchester! I also understand that whilst completely flat, most of the flats in Portsmouth itself would have quite restricted access anyway, plus its too far for you.

You might want to check, but I think the border for Portsmouth / Fareham Councils actually meet halfway along the area that you are looking, at about where Mother Kelly's is. So potentially you could find a property under PCC from there, all the way along to Cosham. I can understand why anything south of the Hilsea roundabout would be a nightmare!

Have you thought about Knowle village? Its reasonably flat there, although not much going on, and may be a bit far for your support.

Good luck with it all!

gaogier

GlasweJen wrote: »

LM the dog picks him up! I'm not sure what part mum plays in this. Perhaps the cats fetch mum who goes to get the dog?

The dog helps me when I fall, however my mum is the one who knows what to do, either get pain killers, an ice pack, etc.

anguk wrote: »

I'm my husband's carer and it would be an absolute nightmare if he lived somewhere else and I had to keep dashing over, it's much easier to care for someone if you live in the same house.

I can understand that you're a young adult and want privacy but I think it would be much easier all round if you stayed in the family home for the time being. From what you've said your disability is only temporary after you've had your operations, would it not be easier for everyone if you stayed at home for a few more years. Hopefully by then your operations will have been successful and there would be no need for you to have a bungalow or carers and it would be easier for you to find somewhere to live.

I am not temporary disabled, thats the problem if I had just 1 bad leg then when they operate and fix it, even though its only a temporary fix, I still have the other leg that can't hold me. When I say hold me, I mean my ankles give away when walking. Even in these I fall - http://www.braceshop.com/productcart/pc/catalog/images_aircast/base/aircastwalkerfamily.jpg - its my ankles that take the damage and they only prevent damage being done to the ankles. Then I have knees and hip problems as well as a slight spinal problem which could get worse if I am not careful. If I add up how many operations I need at least, 7 operations which require about 1 year each, and thats if everything works, (I need 3 operations on my ankles)

ngozi79 wrote: »

Hi, I'm a local so understand your need to be in Portchester! I also understand that whilst completely flat, most of the flats in Portsmouth itself would have quite restricted access anyway, plus its too far for you.

You might want to check, but I think the border for Portsmouth / Fareham Councils actually meet halfway along the area that you are looking, at about where Mother Kelly's is. So potentially you could find a property under PCC from there, all the way along to Cosham. I can understand why anything south of the Hilsea roundabout would be a nightmare!

Have you thought about Knowle village? Its reasonably flat there, although not much going on, and may be a bit far for your support.

Good luck with it all!

Yeah, I plan to see what my options are in fareham also Where is Knowle Village?

ngozi79

gaogier wrote: »

Yeah, I plan to see what my options are in fareham also Where is Knowle Village?

Its just north of Fareham, on the other side of the motorway, so probably too far, but there are lots of new builds and HA properties there.

sunnyone

gaogier wrote: »

Yes, I have mental problems - I am psychotic all though they think it maybe Asperger's - or another form of high functioning Autism

Psychosis is not a feature of Aspergers or any form of high functioning autism.

Even trolls know that and stop PMing me, I dont read PMs from trolls either.

gaogier

sunnyone wrote: »

Psychosis is not a feature of Aspergers or any form of high functioning autism.

Even trolls know that and stop PMing me, I dont read PMs from trolls either.

I only PMed you once to say sorry, I don't mean to troll, if you can point out where trolling takes place it would be great.

My problem is I type how I talk, which you don't know whats going on in my head, and I presume you do, and keep talking - On the internet people class this as trolling maybe?

I saw someone about 2 months ago, about my aspergers syndrome, however the people who had my request for support sent me to the psychotic people, No idea why, but due to being sent there I am having to be reassessed, and told I might have some other form of high functioning autism. From what I understand, they can't access my records due to some thing from the Data Protection act, the guy wont release them from child to adult support.

My point does not seem be getting across very well, maybe you need to be local to understand like ngozi79 seems to understand why its just not practical here.

jackieb

gaogier wrote: »

I only PMed you once to say sorry, I don't mean to troll, if you can point out where trolling takes place it would be great.

My problem is I type how I talk, which you don't know whats going on in my head, and I presume you do, and keep talking - On the internet people class this as trolling maybe?

I saw someone about 2 months ago, about my aspergers syndrome, however the people who had my request for support sent me to the psychotic people, No idea why, but due to being sent there I am having to be reassessed, and told I might have some other form of high functioning autism. From what I understand, they can't access my records due to some thing from the Data Protection act, the guy wont release them from child to adult support.

My point does not seem be getting across very well, maybe you need to be local to understand like ngozi79 seems to understand why its just not practical here.

My son and daughter were both sent to see psychologists before they got their diagnosis. Maybe it's quite common. You don't need to class yourself as psychotic just because you've been to see a psychologist. x

I do think a few posters are being a bit unfair to the OP. This is one reason why I worry about my own children because of how they might come across to people who don't realise the quirks of a person with asperger's.