Daughter invited on holiday

aliasojo

I wonder if the family would feel obligated to go have a meal they weren't actually going to have just for daughter's sake?

I'm trying to imagine how I would feel if daughter's friend did this. I would think it was very kind, but I'd be a bit embarrassed.

I think the hamper idea is a great one and much more suitable.

I think you're very kind for thinking about the other Mum btw.

CH27

I always gave the mum & dad a bottle of wine & a bunch of flowers on their return and I always sent a bag of goodies with my son.

Alias_Omega

3 Nights in Mablethorpe sound like they are staying at the Haven site.

You can spend an endless amount of cash in that place, as you have to walk through the arcades to get to the swimming pool/entertainment rooms. The outside stuff like karting/trampolines etc all require payment.

McKneff

Hamper of goodies sounds like a good idea to me. I presume the mum would tell your DD to keep the money in her pocket if she offered to pay, to be honest.

Hamper of coke, crisps, munchies etc.
And a bunch of flowers, bottle of wine for mum when they get home.

My reply may have been different if they were going away for a week or more.

Hope they have a good time Valli

nickyhutch

I'd be mortified if I invited DS's friend and they offered to pay for a meal out. Much more welcome (and less embarrassing) would be a few bottles of wine, family bags of crisps and nuts and a tin of Celebrations or similar.

And at 16, I wouldn't be paying for DD's spending money, she should have her own!

We went to a caravan in the South of France last year and DS brought along 2 friends (all 17 at the time). Because we were going for 2 weeks, their mothers insisted on giving us £50 each, the boys got the train and plane down themselves (paid for themselves while we drove) and the 2 x £50 went back to them as I gave it back to them for tea out a few nights.

Valli

faerie~spangles wrote: »

You don't have a spare £100.

Stop fretting. Your kid was invited so that their kid would have a 'good' time in their company.

That was a tongue-in-cheek comment;)
No I'm not fretting; just want to show some consideration, and am wondering what other think/would do in a similar situation.

DD will have her own spending money.

Was thinking that maybe DD could pay for a takeaway one night then; but the goodies idea sound good.

Yes, it's Haven.

I don't for a minute think they would have invited DD had money been tight - if we were taking a friend and a meal (or similar) was offered I would decline gracefully but allow, say, ice creams to be bought. As it happens I won't be having a holiday this year as I have had a new kitchen installed and money is tight in Villa Valli.

Anyway I'm really liking the goodies suggestion.

Thank you all.

Lunar_Eclipse

Valli wrote: »

Q1 - is this a good idea?

Q2 - How much?

Yes, I think it's a good idea. (We did this as children ourselves incidentally.)

I would say £100 given the nature of the holiday. Although you'll need to prepare in advance: you couldn't buy 6 people a 2/3 course meal with drinks in Pizza Express for example and you won't want your daughter to find herself in an embarrassing situation.

I would also consider taking the mum a bottle of wine & some choccies when you drop your daughter off, as 'coping' supplies! Someone did this for me recently when my daughter had a sleepover and I thought it was such a lovely gesture.

p-pincher

Hi
I think its a nice idea. We've been to haven in mablethorpe a couple of times, infact it the kids favourite holidays. Even beats disneyland paris according to them! If your looking for a nice meal for your daughter to go to I can wholeheartedly reccommend this place http://www.thebeck.co.uk/. We've only ever been for the Sunday carvery, though they do it in the week and I can honestly say its one of the nicest Sunday dinners I have ever had. There's no prices online but it wasn't very expensive x

gibson123

Rather than have the whole going out for a meal and a child paying scenario, why don't you pay for admission to an attraction. I see there is a seal sanctuary and a family ticket costs £18, perhaps you can buy on line or there may be other attractions or activities close by.

aliasojo

gibson123 wrote: »

Rather than have the whole going out for a meal and a child paying scenario, why don't you pay for admission to an attraction. I see there is a seal sanctuary and a family ticket costs £18, perhaps you can buy on line or there may be other attractions or activities close by.

That's a nice idea.

One thing I would say though is to run it by the other Mum in case she has the 3 days planned out already.