Daughter invited on holiday

cte1111

I would be less than impressed if a child accompanying us on holiday arrived with a hamper of sweets etc as I'd rather my kids didn't eat those, especially not on a long car journey. So then I would have to take away the 'goodies' and have everyone moan / seem ungrateful.

I think making sure your daughter has plenty of money to buy bits for herself and giving the Mum a present on her return (or offering to feed her cat / water her plants whilst they're away) would be preferable.

ska_lover

My teenager brought a friend on holiday a couple of years back - and the parents contributed towards the food/fuel - they gave us £50. I thought that was a really nice touch, as we hadn't expected that. They also ensured that their teen had enough spending money and additionally money to pay their own way when we all went out for a meal.

It worked out really well

newcook

Im sure a bottle or 2 of wine with chocolates will be received graciously – DD (or you) could even give it with a bit of tongue in cheek ‘this is for you as a thank you – mom says you might need it taking so many kids away’!

Cat501

nickyhutch wrote: »

And at 16, I wouldn't be paying for DD's spending money, she should have her own!

From where? She's only 16! Really don't want to be offensive but I think that's pretty mean unless she's actually out working

Another vote for the hamper and wine idea here! Especially the wine:p cte1111 I take your point about the car journey, but I'd hazard a guess that a lot of parents may relax any "rules" they might have about sweets while on holiday. Besides, the older ones are 16 and can make their own decisions I would think

Hope your DD has a fab time Valli:)

choccyface2006

I love the goody box idea and think I will do this when my daughter goes away camping with her friend and her parents next month, thanks for the suggestion!

Sarah

Dunroamin

Cat501 wrote: »

From where? She's only 16! Really don't want to be offensive but I think that's pretty mean unless she's actually out working
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Most 16 year olds receive an allowance/pocket money out of which one would hope they put some by for things like holiday spending

Dunroamin

cte1111 wrote: »

I would be less than impressed if a child accompanying us on holiday arrived with a hamper of sweets etc as I'd rather my kids didn't eat those, especially not on a long car journey. So then I would have to take away the 'goodies' and have everyone moan / seem ungrateful.
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I think that's a really good point.

In addition, wouldn't this be more of a treat for the other children than for the other mother who's really the one who deserves it.

Cat501

Dunroamin wrote: »

Most 16 year olds receive an allowance/pocket money out of which one would hope they put some by for things like holiday spending

Well yeah, there are some things I'd definitely expect a 16 year old with a decent allowance to budget for. Nights out and stuff. But not an unexpected holiday. We're all different but I think a 16 year old has enough years of budgeting and worrying ahead of them without having to keep a contingency fund from their pocket money. Wages would be a different matter for me, but even then, is it so wrong to treat your kids on a special occasion like a holiday if you can, whatever age they are?

But like I said, we're all different

cte1111

Cat501 wrote: »

Another vote for the hamper and wine idea here! Especially the wine:p cte1111 I take your point about the car journey, but I'd hazard a guess that a lot of parents may relax any "rules" they might have about sweets while on holiday. Besides, the older ones are 16 and can make their own decisions I would think

I agree about relaxing rules on holiday but on the sweets front I unfortunately talk from experience. A well meaning relative gave my DD a selection of goodies to keep her occupied on a trip. This included sweets and chocolates. She ate them all then was hyper, followed by sick and whingy. It was not a great start to the holiday, hence my comments.

Cat501

cte1111 wrote: »

I agree about relaxing rules on holiday but on the sweets front I unfortunately talk from experience. A well meaning relative gave my DD a selection of goodies to keep her occupied on a trip. This included sweets and chocolates. She ate them all then was hyper, followed by sick and whingy. It was not a great start to the holiday, hence my comments.

Oh dear! Yep, definitely a case for rationing (in the case of younger kids) or saying "on your own head be it" for older ones....and keeping sweets away from car journeys altogether!