My Quitting Smoking Diary - yours too!

Sue-UU

Hi anablle!

Just came on and saw your first sentence and really whoooopppeeed with absolute joy!!! :j :T:T :j I am so very delighted for you, feeling so much happier is going to be such a boost for you from here on!!!

WELL DONE on being a week and 2 days fag-free!!!!!! :T Marvellous!!!!

I definitely agree with your thoughts re your friend. It'll be good for you to have a catch-up with her....but not while you're vulnerable as there's far too much to risk!

How about a chat on the phone, but ask her not to talk ciggies for a while at least. Being your friend - she will understand.

Sooo well done, anablle, you sound a changed lass! :grinheart

Hugs, Sue *wandering off to SPC with HUGE smile*

warez22

Anablle

Well done you on recognising your triggers. That's half the battle I reckon.

You saw a situation and took positive action to avoid a possible relapse. Do you know what that means:

that you are well on your way to being a non-smoker. Well done. Good feeling isnt it.

Hope you continue in the same vein, you sound strong.

Onwards and upwards.

Me? Elastic band on wrist for another battle of wills tonight!

Kizzy01

Well done everyone your doing great:j I've not had such a good day today although I still haven't smoked but I have wanted to so badly. I guess I have allowed myself to feel pretty cocky and smug the last couple of days and maybe today was payback time I have felt a kind of sadness all day for no reason at all other than I have wanted to smoke, and even though I should feel proud of myself I just feel sad. I've also felt a simmering irritability and have had to really be conscious of not snapping at people, but I have snapped when normally little things would not have bothered me and have had to apologise a couple of times today. I know I have upset a very good friend too as I had to tell her of some things that she needed to improve upon in the work place ( I was just the messenger please don't shoot me ! ) and in hindsight I probably could have handled it better and been more diplomatic but tbh didn't have the patience that I usually would have. I will definitely have to phone her tomorrow to try to put things right. Hoping my mood improves tomorrow or I might just stay in bed night all

Sue-UU

Hi Kizzy and wonderful news on getting to 1 week and 1 day, superb!!! :T

Take a deep breath, forget the day just passed, have a good night's sleep and then apologise to your friend tomorrow for perhaps not being quite so tactful as you probably could have been. However, she's you friend and no doubt she knows a little of what you're going through - if not explain it and ask her to forgive you.

Sadness is a very natural feeling after having stopped smoking. The trouble is that (remember the PM) fags become our good friend during all the time we smoked. After all we could never go anywhere without them, or do anything without the rotten little beasts - but they still fooled us into believing them to be our dear friends!! :eek:

Almost laughable in some ways, but back then they tricked our brains and mind into believing we couldn't live life without them. Now we've stopped using them our brains aren't yet as convinced as we are that they've gone from our lives - little wonder then that really....we're grieving for our departed 'friend'.

Think of all the daily things you can now get through because you've let him go! Not easy some days, I know, but then usually the following day will see you feeling so much better - and another day further from ridding yourself of that evil [STRIKE]!!!!!![/STRIKE] little devil!!!! :j

This is why you're as you've been today, Kizzy, it's not anythig which will plague you for ages, just today...possibly another, we're all different so that may vary a bit. However, you, and all the other girls here, will get past this and be just as happy as you'd hoped.

With regards to wanting a ciggy - or your mind (and remnants of Nic) making you think you did, you have all the tips on the PM, use them!

Keep sipping water, eating fruit, exercising, thinking wonderful thoughts of wonderful times gone by or dreams for the future.

Also, another added this morning from warez, is to put an elastic band on your wrist, then every time you think you want one...twang that band!!! It'll certainly distract you from any darned fag!

Now, go on to sleep and don't allow those white sticks to rule your life any more! How dare they!! They've tried for so long to take away your health, make you spend cash and set light to it!!!!! :eek:

That' it though! Now smile as you look ahead to tomorrow and all your tomorrows FREE from that awful, rotten BAD FRIEND!!!! :j
Sleep well, Kizzy and don't worry anymore about today, it just is not worth it.

Hugs, Sue xxx

warez22

Ah Kizzy, I know exactly how you feel. Little voice in your head going 'fag, fag, FAG, FAG, now, now, NOW, NOW'

Don't beat yourself up about what has happened, just try to put it right when you can. Try not to get sucked down by it, cos we know where that will lead! (maybe).

Dust yourself off, get up early tomorrow and give yourself a pat on the back that after having a sh** day, you got through it fag free.

I haven't been tested that way yet, like you have, so can only admire you for your strength and resolve at being so objective as to what and why caused you to feel the way you did.

Well done and I hope I do as well as you when I have a sh** day. Hope you have a better day tomorrow.:)

Kizzy01

Thank you so much sue and warez. I am really grateful for your kind words and reassurance. I didn't sleep that well last night either kept on churning over the events of the day and came to the conclusion that I wasn't such a tactful, patient,friend yesterday, however it's a fine line between being someone's friend and having to step into the bosses shoes and tell someone that we really like, things that they don't want to hear, but sadly it was my job to have to do that, and although i could have been a little more diplomatic unfortunately it had to be said,but that doesn't mean I'm a horrible person or a bad friend either, and I will phone her today and speak to her. I will not hang on to those feelings of sadness and regret though as I could easily have used that as the excuse I needed and at one point had borrowed a cig from someone, and had it in my hand. I decided to wait 10 mins and if I still really wanted it I would have smoked it. ( so glad I never) the person I borrowed it from spoke to me after and knows me well( better than I know myself I fear:rotfl: ) and she knew that if she had said no to me I WOULD have bought some and she's right ! And it was the fact that I could have one that stopped me IYKWIM so onwards and upwards ...today is a new day and another day smoke free best wishes to you all x

warez22

Morning All!

Well done Kizzy01 on moving on from the hideous day you had yesterday. Today will be plain sailing.

I had a fab day last night until my OH came home from work. Money is really tight at the moment, same as for everyone, and he had bought some work clothes. I was fuming and let him know. He knew he had done wrong and I could feel the anger boiling up inside me. Now normally, the first thing I would have done would have been to go outside in a huff and smoke a fag. But I didnt! I would be lying if I said it didnt cross my mind, cos it did, but that is all it did - cross my mind. No huge urge, just a passing thought.

That has probably been my biggest tester so far, me being in a angry frame of mind and not using fags as my emotional crutch.

Also, in the past, if something like that has happened, I have used it as an excuse to start smoking, but I didnt this time so I have now concluded that it must mean THAT I AM ACTUALLY GOING TO DO IT THIS TIME.

All the triggers have been there but I have been strong enough to ignore them.

Also, I would recommend the elastic band around the wrist. I used it a couple of times last night and it really does take the edge off of that 'I want a fag NOW'.

My OH is a 30 a dayer confirmed smoker (or so I thought). He went to the Doctor yesterday for something unrelated, and the Doctor brought up smoking like they do and my OH said he wasnt ready to give up YET! He came home and discussed the options he would have when he is ready. How cool is that. That means that my giving up has inspired him to give it a go. I never thought I would ever have the discussion with him about him putting his neck out by saying he wants to give up.

Just imagine if just one other person gave up smoking as a result of us all having given up and so on what a legacy that would be.

Good luck all today, hope you all fill it with fun things to do and crush that little monster that will be popping up every now and again.:T

Sue-UU

Kizzy01 wrote: »

The person I borrowed it from spoke to me after and knows me well( better than I know myself I fear ) and she knew that if she had said no to me I WOULD have bought some and she's right ! And it was the fact that I could have one that stopped me IYKWIM so onwards and upwards ...today is a new day and another day smoke free

Hi Kizzy, I see you're thankfully feeling much better and in control today, don't worry about the friend though, because as you say things need to be said, especially in the workplace. Don't worry about tact and panic either as, for a while after stopping smoking, both fly out the window! Well, what else could anyone expect!

Excellent work of the friend who let you have the one so you could think about it...and come to your senses (!!).. ...rather than you buy a whole packet and quite possibly risk being back where you started from! Please tell her she did exactly the right thing!

Another new day today, Kizzy, (wet and freezing here, but...) grasp it with both hands and be happy!

Sue xx

warez22 wrote: »

He knew he had done wrong and I could feel the anger boiling up inside me. Now normally, the first thing I would have done would have been to go outside in a huff and smoke a fag. But I didnt!

Also, in the past, if something like that has happened, I have used it as an excuse to start smoking, but I didnt this time so I have now concluded that it must mean THAT I AM ACTUALLY GOING TO DO IT THIS TIME.

Also, I would recommend the elastic band around the wrist. I used it a couple of times last night and it really does take the edge off of that 'I want a fag NOW'.

Just imagine if just one other person gave up smoking as a result of us all having given up and so on what a legacy that would be.

Hi warez, didn't you handle that anger moment with brilliance!!! :T Anger or not, it's still one of those habit ones and you got over it without the need to be helped! You kept control and won!!

I think those times are a real test to our resilience, but we can all get through them! Those are the times when we should be given a boxer's punch bag...oh what a relief that would be! :rotfl:

Yes you're getting through those test times and doing well. I can quite easily see why they say it takes a whole year to say "I'm quit" because we need to experience all the normal things throughout an entire year, that's when we can then emerge triumphant and really feel we've done it!! Saying that though, it's amazing just how quickly a year can pass.

Now look just what an amazing influence you've had on your OH!! :j It would be absolutely wonderful if he too were to stop, you'd be so much healthier....and the money you'd have would be phenomenal!!!! :eek: Fingers crossed and let's hope!

Daz, one of our quitters from a couple of years ago PMed me last year to say that as a result of him quitting through the thread, his Wife and at least a couple of other family members quit too!!!! :j:j:j:j That was music to my ears......

.....so be prepared folks, it's bound t have a knock on effect!! Great to think we can be instrumental in others wanting to be free from all that nasty nicotine!!!!! :grinheart

Sue xx


A splendid last paragraph from warez, folks, please take note.

<<<"Good luck all today, hope you all fill it with fun things to do and crush that little monster that will be popping up every now and again.">>>

Sue x

warez22

Morning All!

12 days! Can't believe it. Is it getting any easier? I think so. Do I think I will smoke again? I don't know.

What I do know is yesterday I was a right mardy so and so. Really miserable, snappy, grumpy, you name it, that was me. Why? I really don't know. But I blamed it on giving up fags. It probably was that. But when do you stop blaming everything on giving up fags?

Or is this just me post fags. A moody mare?

Today I dont feel so bad, but when will life become happy again?

All sounds very dramatic I know, but when does the pursuit of giving up fags stay in the background and not be all consuming?

I want to be HAPPY. I am soooo happy that I have given up but I am not happy that I am not always happy!!!!

But through all of my dark musings, starting up smoking doesnt figure in there. I think I am going through the bereavement/acceptance bit of permanently saying goodbye to the dreaded weed.

So all in all doing really well, hope everyone else is getting through each day and winning the war against fags.

Good luck everybody and lets win this tactical game that is fag evasion!

Sparticus*

Hi everyone,
Thought I'd pop my head here as it's been a while.

My SilkQuit meter has gained more attention lately, currently it reads: sober time 11months 4 weeks, 12hrs, amount saved £1772, cigarettes not smoked 4725, life saved 2W 2D 9H 45m. Woo-hoo!!
:j :beer: :rotfl:

It's been one of the best personal achievements I've made and honestly couldn't have done it without this forum. I found reading the older posts so encouraging and supportive - the success rate here is quite extraordinary! A big thanks to Sue who really is such a rock :T

Stay strong and wishing you all the best in your own journeys in finally quitting the weed!!

sp*x