Groom calls off wedding

scottishchick27

Perhaps the venue will return all of your deposit seeing as you paid it one day and then cancelled the next, do they do a seven day cooling off period?

Dangermac

Ron_Cook wrote: »

We as the parents of the bride agreed to pay for the costs of our daughters wedding this year. However the groom decided he didn't want to get married the day after we paid 50% of the wedding package costs to the venue. Now I've contacted the venue and asked if we can have some money back as we've paid out over £4,300 and am awaiting the return of the wedding manager from holiday to learn the amount the venue are prepared to return.

Should we shoulder all of the cancellation costs or should the groom? Or should they be split 50/50?

Really tough one. Ultimately, it is unlikely that the groom is contractually liable, unless there was some sort of formal agreement in place.

Morally, I think that the groom should contribute to whatever extent is reasonable.

I guess that this is such a subjective situation that there will be many differing points of view.

Unfortunately, legal and moral responsibilites are two completely seperate things.

DM

McKneff

It may be that if they can re let the venue they will return your deposit less a little admin fee.

Section 75 on your cc doesnt apply under these circumstances Im afraid.

I bet he doesnt come anywhere near your house now eh.......

JodyBPM

Legally, as the person who signed the agreements to pay, you are responsible for the bills.

Morally, it's a much grayer area. Obviously, if your daughter is absolutely perfect, never put a step wrong, and the groom to be just "changed his mind" then he would be responsible morally (but not legally).

But life is never, ever that black and white.

If they aren't right together, then a few £K is a cheap price to pay it all off.

If he's a decent bloke, then maybe ask him to make a contribution, and hopefully he will do so.

Without actually being in the (ex) relationship though, there's no way of knowing whose "fault" the calling off of the wedding was.

whitewing

If they signed the paperwork, is there a danger that refund will be paid to them not you?

bigmomma051204

what a toad. Shame you cant make him pay it all back!

Because, he must have been feeling the doubts etc the day BEFORE he decided to cancel. The day he KNEW you would be paying the deposit on. So for the sake of 24hrs, he could have saved you a fortune! What a pig! :mad:

smartpicture

There was a case on here a while ago where someone had to cancel a wedding venue. It was said then that legally, the venue had an obligation to attempt to re-let the date, and if they managed to do so they could only charge you for their out-of-pocket expenses. You need to research this.

tea_lover

Ron_Cook wrote: »

We originally paid a deposit of £1300 to the venue followed by a further £3000 last week. All the documentation went to the groom to be and bride as they were living together for two years and they actually signed for things with us paying.

So the contract wasn't in your name?

peachyprice

grannybroon wrote: »

We had wedding cancellation insurance for my daughter's wedding which thankfully we didn't require!

Wedding insurance doesn't cover cancellation due to disinclination to marry.

OP, can you clarify please. You say you paid, but all the paperwork went to your daughter and her ex. Was all the paperwork in their name, with you just supplying the credit card?

rpc

JodyBPM wrote: »

Legally, as the person who signed the agreements to pay, you are responsible for the bills.

OP said the bride and groom signed the agreements and OP just paid.

I'm not sure, realistically, you will see any of this money but an objective and formal letter to the groom might be worth a go. You could take the view that groom and bride are 50/50 so try to claim back half (he'll blame the breakdown on her, she on him).