Groom calls off wedding

sassyblue

Ron_Cook wrote: »

All the documentation went to the groom to be and bride as they were living together for two years and they actually signed for things with us paying. There are loads of other things we paid deposits on such as the wedding car, cake etc and our daughter also paid around £2000 for her wedding dress and he has paid nothing at all.

The £3000 was paid on my credit card so is there a remote chance that rule 75 applies here? Not much hope I know, but any straw I can clutch at gives me hope....

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There may be a litle problem here as the contract is in their names, however if the venue are happy to speak to you about it that's ok.... but make it clear that any reimbursement goes back to your credit card NOT as a cheque to him - he could bank it himself that being the case.

daska

I do hope he bought her a really expensive engagement ring, legally that is hers to keep/dispose of as she will.

I suspect the money you've paid would be regarded as a gift to the couple (unless you can prove otherwise) so you are probably reliant on him feeling extremely guilty to get any recompense from him if you're unsuccessful with the venue.

fluffnutter

Legally, you have no right to expect the groom to contribute. Morally, however, he's a shit. Not necessarily because he called the wedding off (which might well be the best thing to do. Plus we don't know the full story), but because he did it the day after such a large sum was paid.

Perhaps I'm being unfair, perhaps he didn't know. Or perhaps it was this very act (uh oh! things are actually real now!) that made him panic and realise he didn't want to go through with the wedding.

The only thing you can do, OP, is ask for a contribution and see what he says.

Silk

Well if was me and the venue refused a refund I would have the event reduced down to a private party to the value of monies paid out up to now.
Invite the Bride to be's family and friends and cellebrate the lucky escape and toast her good fortune at finding out now before it was too late

pimento

You say they live together? Does he have an assets still at the shared home that could offset the deposit?

pimento

I also like Silk's idea.

Acc72

When was the wedding date ? - eg. if it is June 2013 then you will hopefully stand more chance of a refund than if it is June 2012.

As others have said, you need to get a copy of the contract and look at the cancellation policy (then politely work on the approriate person to recover as much as possible - even maybe in excess of their policy) - also, making sure that the refund goes to you (or at least your daughter).

As you have not yet taken delivery of the car, dress, cake etc. then you need to do the same there as well (I am sure that the suppliers have experience of cancelled weddings).

You also mention that your daughter and her ex live together although you don't say if this is rented or mortgaged ?

Your daughter needs to be on the ball with all financial agreements - especially those in both names - to make sure that she is not left expected to make further payments.

onlyroz

I think your best bet is in persuing some recompense from the venue - e.g. if there is enough notice and they can get in another wedding for the same day, then in theory they should pay you back at least some of the money.

Horace

daska wrote: »

I do hope he bought her a really expensive engagement ring, legally that is hers to keep/dispose of as she will.

I suspect the money you've paid would be regarded as a gift to the couple (unless you can prove otherwise) so you are probably reliant on him feeling extremely guilty to get any recompense from him if you're unsuccessful with the venue.

Sorry Daska you are incorrect - the engagement ring legally belongs to the giver of the ring and not the receiver therefore she should return the ring to him, it only becomes truly her's after they marry.

I would be inclined to write to the groom asking for a contribution to the costs of the wedding that he called off. Although I doubt you will get anywhere.

I know it is stressful but I think your daughter should be contacting the venue and other suppliers to say that the wedding was called off by the groom and that she has been left to cancel the arrangements - the suppliers maybe more sympathetic towards a tearful bride. I know you have provided the cash but as the bride and groom's names are on the contracts the contracts made have been made by them.

Mado

Silk wrote: »

Well if was me and the venue refused a refund I would have the event reduced down to a private party to the value of monies paid out up to now.
Invite the Bride to be's family and friends and cellebrate the lucky escape and toast her good fortune at finding out now before it was too late

:TLovely idea.
And much cheaper than a divorce!:cool:

Horace wrote: »

Sorry Daska you are incorrect - the engagement ring legally belongs to the giver of the ring and not the receiver therefore she should return the ring to him, it only becomes truly her's after they marry.

I always thought that once the gift is given, it belongs to the recipient.
Can you provide any backup that states it belongs to the "giver"?