Friends hubby caught being 'overly friendly' with another women. Should I mention it?

spendingmad

Yes - I think I might have a word with him. It may make him think harder if I speak to him, as I am also more likely to speak to his wife.

Need to think about what I say as I do not want him to go underground with it, but also it may well be innocent (unlikely I feel).

19lottie82

A bit of advice my mum always gave me was.....

"Believe nothing of what you hear, and only half of what you see."

You are relying on chinese whispers here. Keep out of it.
Even if you had definite proof, I'd still think very carefully before jumping in with both feet.

benb76

I'm going to go against all the other opinions above and say that you should speak to his wife, your friend. It certainly has all the hallmarks of an affair, so maybe ask her whether or not she has any concerns, then maybe mention that he has been seen being over friendly. One of the worst things about being the partner who is cheated on is that you're always the last to know, and it really hurts.

meg72

OP I feel for you its a hard call to make, some years ago I was in this position, I didnt tell my friend and when she eventually discovered her partner was having an affair she never forgave me. She said she felt betrayed by her friends as well as him.

ItchyFeet

It might not be the popular view but if i were the wife i'd definately want to know.

alleycat`

ItchyFeet wrote: »

It might not be the popular view but if i were the wife i'd definately want to know.

You'd want to know what?

That your friend got a story that her husband may, or may not, have touched some womans bottom via a 3rd party?

There is a rough description of who that woman is and nobody knows under what circumstances it may or may not have occured?

I can see that ending well.

VfM4meplse

Keep quiet but be there for your friend when she needs you. If it turns out to be an affair, and she asks you if you knew, just say that you don't pay attenton to idle gossip.

go_cat

Get your dh to have a quiet word along the lines of... Do you know I was told the strangest thing the other day someone saw you touching another women's bottom I know you would never cheat on X but you know how rumours start !!

This may be enough toward him off if he is doing anything if he isn't then they can laugh about it!

somethingcorporate

This could end so badly for you, I'd stay well clear.

AbbieCadabra

spendingmad wrote: »

Yes - I think I might have a word with him. It may make him think harder if I speak to him, as I am also more likely to speak to his wife.

Need to think about what I say as I do not want him to go underground with it, but also it may well be innocent (unlikely I feel).

have i mis-understood your earlier post? i thought you had already spoken to him as you said it was actually him that had told you about the rumours & he just thought it was funny??

if he's already said that to you, i'd leave well alone now. he knows what people are saying, it's up to him if he wants to carry on with whatever he's doing. unless you see something yourself, then i'd be speaking to his wife.