Overheard cruel threats by neighbour to her child

Molly41

Just wondered if you had progressed this issue?

System

mygirllollypop wrote: »

If I were you I would ring them, When I was alone with my eldest and really struggling to cope I wish someone had rung on my little girls behalf because I was so depressed and had no-one around to help that we just fell to peices.

I ended up ringing them myself and asking for help, to which they were no use, but bet if someone else had rung instead they would of been alot quicker to do something.

Luckily my counsellor did after I broke down during a session and it was the best thing that happened for me & her. I still feel guilty at how bad things got but we are moving on leaps and bounds since, They put us in touch with the local childrens centre and accessing that and the continued support really saved our lives.

I know people see SS as this awful people that just come and take your children but its not like that.

The Mum may just be really struggling and not know how to cope and it is really difficult to admit you need a little bit of help.

Just wanted to say well done to you for being brave enough to get help when you were struggling. (I hope that doesn't come off as patronising, I really mean it!)

emylou

Blue_Elephant wrote: »

The neighbour is a new one - therefore no one may have had time to get to know the family, the kids may not even be registered with dentists etc yet if they've just moved in. The teachers may not have got to know the kids yet and may even assume that the little girl is withdrawn as she's simply moved house and doesn't know anyone.

Who's to say that they haven't moved house because some "busy body curtain twitcher" actually said something?

Emotional abuse is so much harder to spot and is so much harder to pinpoint the line where it stops being sheer frustration and starts being abuse. That doesn't make it any less valid, and I agree with most here, report it. If it's nothing, you'll have embarrassed the mother for an afternoon. If it isn't, you'll have done some good for those kids.

I haven't had much chance to speak to the nieghbours because of working etc but I have to say they didn't really come across as "chatting over the garden fence" kind of people!

I called NSPCC after my initial post, I gave as much detail as I had at the time. I was able to call back the next day as I had recognised the girls' school bag & had been told that giving more information would be helpful.

Thanks for all your views.

MandM90

emylou wrote: »

I haven't had much chance to speak to the nieghbours because of working etc but I have to say they didn't really come across as "chatting over the garden fence" kind of people!

I called NSPCC after my initial post, I gave as much detail as I had at the time. I was able to call back the next day as I had recognised the girls' school bag & had been told that giving more information would be helpful.

Thanks for all your views.

Brilliant. I really hope they manage to get to the bottom of it.

Penny-Pincher!!

emylou wrote: »

I haven't had much chance to speak to the nieghbours because of working etc but I have to say they didn't really come across as "chatting over the garden fence" kind of people!

I called NSPCC after my initial post, I gave as much detail as I had at the time. I was able to call back the next day as I had recognised the girls' school bag & had been told that giving more information would be helpful.

Thanks for all your views.

Great news! It must have been very difficult to come to this decision, but you've done the right thing. Maybe the mother just needs a little support or guidance on being a parent as many don't have a clue.

Thank you for doing the decent thing:T:T:T

Jet

Really wish someone had bothered to phone SS when I was a child. In my experience talking to the neighbour will just drive the abuse underground and the likelihood is it will be worse because the child "will have humiliated her" in the mothers eyes.