❄❄ Let It Snow ❄❄ :: Christmas 2012 Chatter Thread

ReformedShopaholic

Thank you to everyone for your kind words and support. Its always surprising to me how many people go through this...what is the point of hurting someone so much?

Well I know he has always fancied her. He just said he was being friendly at first helping her through the break up, but then it got to communicating everyday. To be honest I'm past ranting, I'm mostly a pathetic puddle lately(which I hate myself for). He said he would never have done anything physically but he accepts that what he did do has hurt me. Seeing the "lets keep it a secret" and the personal stuff he has told her is what's doing my head in and then of course wondering what else has been said that I didn't get to see. Its done a real number on my self esteem.

I think there is something in the just texting for the thrill and feeling wanted.
When we first got together he was always trying to make out he was some kind of player and lasses would always go to him if his friends had broken up with them, his responses were always flirty but to be honest I always saw it as the insecure actions of a guy who loved/wanted the attention off women. But I thought 3 years down the line he was happy with me. Now I just feel like he doesn't care about anybody but himself.

He wants us to deal with it by trying to forget about it and just move on.
He said he wants to be with me and not throw our 3 years away, as if he wanted to be with her wouldn't he have left when I saw the messages and just said "yeah you have caught me, something's going on and I want to be with her"

The presents under the tree I just don't even want since they were only bought after I had found out. To me they are just things that will remind me how he only shopped for me once whatever 'it' was was discovered.

Ruth_honey

Really should be tidying the house & other Christmas prep things, but really cannot be bothered with it. It's just stressing me out, so I've made myself a hot chocolate (some Tia Maria MAY have found its way into the mug), put on my snowmen slipper socks & Santa hat (ok, I have been wearing this all day) and I'm gonna lie on the sofa and read one of the festive books I got out from the library earlier. Might even put a Xmas film on in the background. And if I fall asleep...well, it doesn't matter. Hopefully the kitten will come and have a snooze with me too.

Snugglebunny8

Reformed Shopaholic Im so sorry this has happened to you honey, Im sending you lots of cyber hugs! it is a horrible horrible feeling, even when you trust somebody and know deep down that nothing more has happened, you still get that horrible stab in your stomach dont you? similar sort of situation occured with me many years ago (ancient I know!! ) it started the same, as in trying to be a friend to somebody who needed a shoulder and that is all it ever was, but I remember the feeling like it was yesterday. As others have said, if we can help in any way, or if you want a shout or to talk, just pm or post, hopefully we can help you feel better or talk you through I found I would talk myself around, feel better, then suddenly go back to square one adn start feeling upset all over again

All I can say is go with your gut intinct, if you trust him then your gut instinct will be right, but dont let anyone tell you you dont have a right to feel the way you do, it still feels awful and you feel betrayed by the secretive nature of the chats, and you are entitled to feel that way, have you told him how the situation has made you feel? I hope he can reassure you and you can move on, in the meantime I hope you can have a lovely Christmas xxxx

CupOfChai

ReformedShopaholic, big hugs to you, that is so awful.

I hope everyone is managing to keep their stress levels under control! I never did come and tell you how Pretend Christmas went, well we had it last weekend and it was absolutely fantastic. I ate far too much, drank fizz all day and got very spoilt .

Now I am extremely excited all over again, because tomorrow I'm going back up home for Real Christmas. I've done a list, worked out my timings and have collected my train tickets already, so tonight I have to pack, want to quickly phone home to check plans and so my mam and I can squeal "See you tomorrow!" at each other, and I'm going to curl up with a wee drink and just chill feeling Christmassy and excited this evening because I have to get an early train tomorrow.

Snugglebunny8

crikey, I can't believe its 21st december! Im all done other than af ew cards to pop through some doors, and I did a supermarket top up for bead (UB 26th) Milk (30th) and potatoes, though the oranges and clems wont last long enough so will despatch hubby on sunday for more of those!

am a bit miffed one gift I ordered on 6th hasnt arriv ed, for ds's friend, I then saw the delivery window was 2 weeks, which it didnt say at time of order, 11th to 24th! means I cant open a complaint til after Christmas and can't get the item in store, but can't really do much about it now other than let him mum know and see if it arries tomorrow

am feeling really stressy, had gas people in today fitting the new radiators which really bothred my as I hate having people in doing work and there were 2 of them! lovely guys did good job but still makes me feel stressed!

moneysavingmumofone

ReformedShopaholic-What a rotteh thing to happen, especially just before christmas. I can only imagine how you feel but please do stick around as we will all do all we can to cheer you a little. x


my3girls-Sorry to hear about your neighbour, Im sure there is nothing you could have done if he passed away peacefully in his sleep. xxx P.S Thanks for the Polish help, I forgot to do a card in the end lol!

Nanamia-Glad your DGD had a fab birthday! Thankyou for the cherry scone recipe. So funny that you are the same age as my mum and your birthday is 2 days before hers! Spooky! My tooth is still agony, mainly at night. Stomach/back feeling a bit better this afternoon finally and am going to the drs soon to pick up different antibiotics. Im so so pleased your DSIL is making such great progress!

OMO-my birthday is 12th March. x

Hope everyone who is ill gets much better soon. xxx Sorry have not been very good at catching up, have been on auto pilot, hate being ill!!

moneysavingmumofone

Snugglebunny-I hope the pressie turns up before christmas, I was stressing as I had a long list of things to arrive but luckily most have arrived today and yesterday! Have never seen so many postmen out on the streets lol! Still waiting anxiously for my emails saying my tesco photo orders are instore though eek! x

his_missus

NOOOOOO! Hubby has decided that he doesn't want to go the SM to buy the food tomorrow as he's scared he'll pick up the wrong things - sounds like a lame excuse to me, we only need catfood and some fresh bits. So, we're heading to Mr A's after work as I don't want to be setting foot in a shop this weekend or Monday.

Only 94minutes til I finish for the hols

emalou88

Wish me luck ladies, tonight I have to do the Christmas food shop. I'm currently compiling a list!

ReformedShopaholic

I really don't want to go to the supermarket this weekend! Food shopping is the only thing I haven't really been organised with. Although I did buy the prawns, seafood sauce, stuffing and batter mix(Yorkshire puds never go right from scratch) a few weeks ago and the turkey last week, its other stuff we have run out of. The usual bread and milk, eggs. Was thinking I would just pop to the market for the salad and veg tomorrow, but now a supermarket trip is looking likely. Although I reckon I could just pop to the corner shop for those things really.