DSD hit by a car!

daska

I promise I'm not nagging LOL, it's a bit difficult to nag anyway given that we don't live together - but it was still me who drove to the hospital and I'm knackered today because of it.

I just wanted to check that I wasn't completely mad for thinking that it should be reported - regardless of whether or not she chooses to claim for compensation.

duchy

Presumably it's a job she wanted.......so it's a lesson in consequence -even if you don't ever get the real story. She's sixteen the learning curve gets steeper-both for them....and for us allowing them to make their mistakes too

Lots of teenagers think ambulance chasing claims companies are bloodsuckers -and if she thinks you might want her to claim compensation from Granny -which would be awful as it's her friend's granny-that might be another reason she's keeping stum ? As she doesn't live with you though surely the decision is her mother's ? What does she think about it al ?

MandM90

Person_one wrote: »

I think you should just drop it, she's 17 not 7 and if she doesn't want to call the police its up to her, not you.

If she's not badly injured why will there be a financial burden on you and why would it affect her chances with the job?

You sound like you've got yourself all wound up here but the main thing is that she's ok, so just calm down a bit!

Whatever happened; irresponsible underage/teen driver or dappy old lady - as a person that both drives and walks my daughter to school I want to know that when these things happen they get reported. It was a seventeen year old in a minor accident this time, what if it is a three year old in a serious one the next?

daska

Hmmm, not sure about that, legally it's the driver's responsibility to report, which I doubt has happened. (And DSD was removed from her mother several years ago.) And I know all her family (bar her mum) feel similarly about ambulance chasing, there would be no support for her claiming compensation if there wasn't a substantial impact.

And yes, I do understand that reporting her friend's granny won't make her popular but, at the same time (if I'm correct in my deductions) this woman lives on a busy road between the school and the bus stop and has hundreds of kids walking past her house. So you could argue that if she's been reversing out of her drive every day and this is the first time she's hit anyone she's probably doing rather well but the question remains as to why is she reversing into a major road? Conversely, if her ability to drive is becoming impaired, then another accident is more rather than less likely, especially if she is in the habit of reversing into a major road. Either way round what she's doing is and will continue to be potentially dangerous.

Taadaa

Difficult situation. She won't want to upset her friend - I think that is the crux of it, rather than not wanting to report an old lady. The argument about her not being able to start work is a moot point in relation to whether she should report it or not. If you are thinking compensation due to loss of income...well she doesn't actually have an income at the moment, and I am not sure how a claim would work, although obviously she can claim for personal injury. BUT, this would only put more strain on the relationship with her friend. This is clearly of more worth to her than the value of reporting it to the police. I think I would let it drop if I were in your position. Yes, the granny shouldn't have been reversing into a main road - and she should be told this when the situation has calmed.

peachyprice

Do you know the granny? If so, contact her.

If it was her driving she needs to know that she's injured your SD and she NEEDS to report it.

If it wasn't her driving she needs to know that someone was driving her car and has caused an accident in her name.

Either way, whether your SD likes it or not, you need to contact the granny to get the full story, then you can decide whther or not to report her. What you can't do is nothing just because your SD doesn't want you to.

pimento

daska wrote: »

...this woman lives on a busy road between the school and the bus stop and has hundreds of kids walking past her house. So you could argue that if she's been reversing out of her drive every day and this is the first time she's hit anyone she's probably doing rather well but the question remains as to why is she reversing into a major road? Conversely, if her ability to drive is becoming impaired, then another accident is more rather than less likely, especially if she is in the habit of reversing into a major road. Either way round what she's doing is and will continue to be potentially dangerous.

Perhaps her drive isn't big enough to turn around on.

When you say old granny, are we talking an 80 year old or a 50 year old?
An 80 year old might need a re-test but a 50 year old is hardly the decrepit wreck you're describing.

Buttonmoons

It is actually possible to be reversed on, I was! When I was 10 I was on my chopper bicycle, and there was a tiny road leading into a private cul de sac, car wide pretty much, I looked to cross and their was a person halfway up and was driving forwards, so I got on my bike to cycle across, and I dunno what she had done/was on, but she just put her car in reversed and ploughed me down. My head smashed off the kerb, and I had a huge red bruise/graze on my leg where her wheel had caught me. I was more upset about the fact my chopper bicycle was totally mangled! I had to go for brain scan etc as my vision was all double.

Btw, when she had seen what she had done she said "Are you ok?" I didn't reply as I was stunned and she drove off! Police never caught her either.

Does sound to me like she doesn't want to get her friends Granny in trouble, or they were horsing around.

heartbreak_star

Incidentally, the highway code advises strongly against reversing into a major road, if the police see it they will generally stop you and advise against it, and this situation could be classed as careless driving and therefore a prosecution offence I think?

EDIT: Rule 177 is the thing I'm thinking of!

HBS x

pimento

heartbreak_star wrote: »

Incidentally, the highway code advises strongly against reversing into a major road, if the police see it they will generally stop you and advise against it, and this situation could be classed as careless driving and therefore a prosecution offence I think?

HBS x

If the option is to stop on a major road and reverse into the drive, sometimes it's a lesser of two evils.