income support nightmare !!!!!

kaya64

cvm1978 wrote: »

thank you kaya64. i take your advice. i will stop my partner stopping over. i can understand how that looks. i was saying to him the other day about him not stopping. there is no need for it.
i feel like i have been judged on this forum, and i thank you for speaking out. x

Your welcome , I understand what your saying when you call him your partner , life can be complicated at times and it isn't just an easy thing to split from your childs father .

HappyMJ

cvm1978 wrote: »

i will b back on tomorrow night. i thought a partner and a boyfriend meant the same thing!?!?

Nope...they are completely different. No technical difference really in most peoples minds but if you mention partner when he's actually just a boyfriend then that will ring alarm bells in the investigators minds.

Loanranger

Why don't you discuss with your partner that he should support you? Have you done this?

kaya64

I would like to point out also , that having a child is a joint responsibility and some parents even when they are seperated share holidays together and weekend trips so the children can have a happy upbringing , I think parents who do this are being caring and loving , afterall the child needs security and as normal upbringing as possible .

kaya64

Loanranger wrote: »

Why don't you discuss with your partner that he should support you? Have you done this?

Whys should he support her when they are not together ?
Support the child yes ,but she isn't his responsibility when they have split .

Loanranger

Yes, Kaya64, I agree but there may be fraud involved here and she is under investigation. As long as she is asking the state to support her rather than her partner then those issues are irrelevant.

Loanranger

They have not split! He stays over, they eat together, go out together, she refers to him as her partner.
If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it is duck. They are a couple by her own admission.

kaya64

Loanranger wrote: »

Yes, Kaya64, I agree but there may be fraud involved here and she is under investigation. As long as she is asking the state to support her rather than her partner then those issues are irrelevant.

well someone has definatley reported her from what I can make out , but things may be just as she is saying .

When my husband was out of work for two years from 1990-1992 the job centre got him a scheme fitting carpets and everytime he signed on he was told to watch his back as someone was reporting him to fraud squad as the guy who was training used to pick him up and drop him off , and some jealous soul thought he was working on the side , we were being honest and yet someone was jealous , you get what I mean ?

kaya64

Loanranger wrote: »

They have not split! He stays over, they eat together, go out together, she refers to him as her partner.
If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it is duck. They are a couple by her own admission.

He is the father of her child though , and a father should act like a father , which means going on shopping trips together and eating a meal together which is good for a child to see , even if they have split , its better to have some normality in childrens lives even when parents are no longer together .

kaya64

Personally I would refer to an ex partner as ex , but maybe because they have a child together she refers to him as her partner .
I don't like to sit in judgement and I am sure the ivestigation team will sort it out .