income support nightmare !!!!!

Loanranger

He's working and not supporting his partner and his child. Is there a reason for that?

kaya64

Surely it is responsible of the parents to try and bring the child up and share shopping trips together , eat a few meals and at least try and make a secure and happy upbringing , they are both responsible for the child and I think they are entitled to share time altogether as a family.
Families do split up , but for the sake of the child these parents are trying to be as normal as possible .
Credit due to them , this site is full of people who think only the money side and not the emotional side of things , I can;t see this lady doing anything wrong .

The only thing I would not do personally is allow my ex partner to stay over even for one night , but of course that is just me , but I think sharing time together as a family is a good thing and somebody is jealous of them and has phoned up like another poster has suggested .

faerie~spangles

cvm1978 wrote: »

faerie spangles- no he works- if you read my previous posts which i assume you have- i have said he works. so no- we are not taking the p*** out of the system.

He works, you are claiming benefits as a single parent (yes)

He is your partner (yes)

Be prepared to pay back a lot of the monies received in benefits you have been awarded.

HappyMJ

cvm1978 wrote: »

i understand what your saying happymj. but ive always declared him as my partner when ive declared dates. we lived together for 6 months, and all we ever did was argue. we are better off apart, where he goes home each night except the 2 nights a month. do you work for the benefits system? how do you know so much about the guidelines/ rules ???

You would be much better off calling him the ex from now on. Let him see his child and you do something else whilst he is seeing his child. If you want to try to do things and make the relationship work then explain that to the investigators. You can have a boyfriend who occasionally stays over and doesn't contribute anything but a partner is not permitted...and to throw some more strange things into this you can stay at his every now and again and that seems to be OK as he isn't claiming anything.

Prior experience. It's all guidelines and you will need a solicitor to help you out of this one if they decide to take it to court.

Have you looked into what benefits you would get if you did have him as a partner on all your claims? You might find it's not that much different.

Loanranger

Kaya64, the family hasn't split up, she describes him as her partner.

kaya64

Loanranger wrote: »

He's working and not supporting his partner and his child. Is there a reason for that?

If you read her post she said he pays for the child, why should he pay for her also ??

cvm1978

thank you kaya64. i take your advice. i will stop my partner stopping over. i can understand how that looks. i was saying to him the other day about him not stopping. there is no need for it.
i feel like i have been judged on this forum, and i thank you for speaking out. x

kaya64

Loanranger wrote: »

Kaya64, the family hasn't split up, she describes him as her partner.

I know what you mean , and yes if they have split then he is ex partner . But maybe it is only for the child sake .

faerie~spangles

I'm not having a go at you.

One of my OH's colleagues was caught in a similar situation and his partner had to pay back £15,000.

cvm1978

i will b back on tomorrow night. i thought a partner and a boyfriend meant the same thing!?!?