income support nightmare !!!!!

midnight_express

cvm1978 wrote: »

thanks mum2one. happymj -- why cant i? what reason is there that i cant have a partner that lives elsewhere? he pays nothing into my house, he has no belongings here. he has no post/ bills coming to my address. i declare all dates that he stops to income support and i get letters confirming that the information ive given doesnt effect my benefit. but im just questioning the responses from the income support staff who give different answers when i ask.

In spite of the fact that you are in a relationship and have a child together. Any man who doesn't support his family is scum. I'd dump the loser if I was you.

The staff can't give you a defintive answer because there isn't one.

Torry_Quine

cvm1978 wrote: »

thanks mum2one. happymj -- why cant i? what reason is there that i cant have a partner that lives elsewhere? he pays nothing into my house, he has no belongings here. he has no post/ bills coming to my address. i declare all dates that he stops to income support and i get letters confirming that the information ive given doesnt effect my benefit. but im just questioning the responses from the income support staff who give different answers when i ask.

It seems strange to me that you have a partner who is the father of your daughter and yet you don't feel connected enough to live together or at least share responsibility for costs. I'm not trying to be judgemental, honestly, I just can't understand this scenario.

midnight_express

cvm1978 wrote: »

mum2one --- ive been keeping a diary of the times he arrives, and what times he leaves since september last year when he moved out. since i know how the investigation teams work, i doubt it would help me tho - because they never ask for specific dates! i have my solicitor on the case, but im just confused more now, as im not being told im not allowed to have a partner who lives elsewhere. its a joke. they put people on these benefits every day. they dont tell or give you the rules of the benefit until you have done something wrong. even when u ask, u dont get straight forward answers. i asked my advisor- and she couldnt even tell me the rules.

They don't put you on benefits - you choose to be a claimant.
You can stop claiming anytime you like and live your live anyway you choose.

cvm1978

i understand what your saying happymj. but ive always declared him as my partner when ive declared dates. we lived together for 6 months, and all we ever did was argue. we are better off apart, where he goes home each night except the 2 nights a month. do you work for the benefits system? how do you know so much about the guidelines/ rules ???

faerie~spangles

I'm confused.

He's your partner (yes)

He pays child maintenance (yes)

He stays over (yes)

You do regular family stuff together i.e. shopping, share meals presumably socialise (yes)

You're claiming benefits as a single person (yes)

If he's unemployed and claiming benefits then you are both taking the p1$$ out of the system.

cvm1978

so basically what your saying is that im not allowed to have a partner when im on benefits? we've tried living together - that didnt work. we live at seperate properties and remain partners- that isnt allowed? ! ? !

Loanranger

He is your partner, you have a child. Why isn't he supporting you both?

Torry_Quine

cvm1978 wrote: »

so basically what your saying is that im not allowed to have a partner when im on benefits? we've tried living together - that didnt work. we live at seperate properties and remain partners- that isnt allowed? ! ? !

No-one is saying that at all. If however you are deemed to be a couple then you will need to claim as such rather than as a single person.

cvm1978

faerie spangles- no he works- if you read my previous posts which i assume you have- i have said he works. so no- we are not taking the p*** out of the system.

cvm1978

well thats the impression i am getting. if income support were as usefull with the information as you people are i wouldnt be in this situation i am in now. the investigator told me during interviews my partner could stop. im being told so many different conflicting answers i seriously dont know what to do.