Weekly Flylady Thread 30th April 2012

macpep1

flying_fresian wrote: »

Macpep do you work for a large company? You might find that there is a company policy covering dependants illnesses. In my organisation I think (no kids so can't swear to it) that we get a couple of days a year for dependants illnesses which are paid and any further absences are unpaid. Your office may be the same. Could you ask to amend the absence to a holiday instead so you don't lose out financially?

I do, I had a sleepless night last night, I am going to email HR this morning to ask them exactly what the policy is as there was nothing in the employee handbook about it. I am going to ask for a word in his office this morning as I feel its discrimination & I am being punished for having a sick child, as I said, If I had been ill, he would still have cancelled his meeting & I would have been paid :mad: I only have 3 days left for the year, I have my two weeks summer, christmas & keep the rest for nursery trips, docs, dentist appointments etc

Morning all :wave:

Kazm - I replied ( I think, after a long reply, I I hit send, and had to re-log in, in by that time it was 11.40)

Hope you are all well, very wet weather here today, I am not looking forward to work today but realise that I cannot be treated like this anymore, they are walking over the top of me & its affecting my home life now as well, its not on. NEed to grab a list & see what I can score off if any.

Enjoy your day everyone, send me some vibes to give me strength to confront the bully at 9am (start at 8 but need my :coffee: first.)

Monday - Bit of everything to kick start the week
level one
Hoover and mop the worst bits - Top Landing & my room
Level Two
Meal plan for the week – need to eat up whats in inside freezer so I can defrost
HHPaperwork/replying to emails/paying bills go through old folder & shred
Level three
Give sinks and toilets a scrub - Ensuite
Clean WM and/or DW filters

Tuesday - Master Bedroom
level one
Hoover (under the bed too if possible)
Level Two
Dust at least one surface
Sort somebodies undies and get rid of anything holey or lacking elastic – DD’s, her bum cheeks are hanging out some of them now :eek:
Level three
Change the bed if it needs it- weekend
Wipe some light switches
Extras
Catch up on phone calls
Sort any nail polishes ready for summer, binning any that resemble glue

Wednesday - Kitchen and Dining Room
Level one
Clear and wipe the worksurfaces
Shine your sink
Level two
Wipe the hob and front of the oven
Level three
15 minutes flinging
HHMe time
Dust behind, underneath something that rarely gets done
Extras
Catch up on what you've missed this week
Spend sometime chatting with a child, OH, anyone you'd like to

Slowdown

You are all fantastic!
A whole range of wonderful ideas.
Though I rather like Pigpen's bin idea, I too would capitulate before the bin men arrived. I have paid for most of the stuff and would find it rather hard to chuck it away.
I am really taken with the idea of filling up baskets and dumping it in their rooms, and I'm going to include the dirty cups and dishes left around the place too. Thanks for the tip Kazmeister. It will be an evening collection and I will have nothing to do with it after it passes the portals of their caves. (which is what their rooms look like most of the time)
I also like the idea of dealing out the jobs two at a time such as gtx suggested. Iam going to put a whiteboard in the kitchen and put two jobs each on them. If they don't do them by the specified time then they lose £1 per job from their allowance. Iam going to be strong and stick it out with the complaints and arguments.
When that is up and running I will turn to the greater chores such as cooking and washing and incorporate those too like Save Dosh.
Thank you all for your excellent advice and I will let you know how it goes.
Kind regards
Slowdown:)

mooomin

Before you speak to him, write down what's upsetting you and your arguments. Remember, from his point of view, you weren't in the office meaning he had to cancel a meeting, and you weren't even sick. He might not understand where you're coming from unless it's clearly explained/presented to you especially if there's a generational gap.

Hope it all goes well for you. Xxx

mummyroysof3

Monday - Bit of everything to kick start the week
Clean WM and/or DW filters

Tuesday - Master Bedroom
Dust at least one surface
Polish any mirrors or clean the window

Wednesday - Kitchen and Dining Room
Wipe the hob and front of the oven
Dust behind, underneath something that rarely gets done

Thursday Bathrooms and office/study like places
Clean the sinks and toilets including the pedestals front and back

juliejim

Morning All

Macpep - hugs and strong vibes heading your way.

FF - HHmetime - Half Hour me time - ie doing what you want to do - soak inthe bath with a bottle of wine, crafting, just put your feet up with a magazine - it's up to you.

I didn't end up doing anything last night - ended up having long talks with DH - over the phone as obv he's not here in the week so nothing got done. I'm just about to do a HHI and then I'll get dinners done and it'll be pretty much time for work. DS has football tonight but apart from that I'm hoping to manage to get a few things done.

Have a good day all

Hugs

Jue

mooomin

juliejim wrote: »

FF - HHmetime - Half Hour me time - ie doing what you want to do - soak inthe bath with a bottle of wine, crafting, just put your feet up with a magazine - it's up to you.

Aaahhh I see!! By the time I get back from Fat Club tonight there will be just enough time to make my dinner then it'll be two hours of Me Time - watching The Apprentice and Grey's Anatomy is always my rocking Wednesday night

ClaireT13

Morning

Macpep - if you do work for a large company, just ask to see your boss and tell him out of courtesy that you will be contacting HR to check your rights regarding leave for sick children. That way he knows you are looking into it and doesn't feel you are going behind his back. I find it hard to believe that there wouldn't be a policy and that you would be entitled - there was someone who I managed before that had no-one around and was allowed lots more paid time off than you have had. It could be that your boss was just annoyed and did this in the heat of the moment because he was annoyed about his meeting and the policy will sort this out. Not accepta ble to put you through this stress :mad:

Slowdown - good luck with your mission. I have a DH who says, we've lived like this for 10 years, no point trying to change and 2 DS's 4 & 5 who will turn out just like him if I don't do something now. We now have 2 x 5 minutes clear up time at night and that sorts it out but I'm at a different stage with my kids. I like the bin bags but think I would put them in the loft - I couldn't throw things I had paid good money for!

Busy day yesterday, a couple of unexpected visitors so I got all my list done but not a lot from this list. So, I'm out 08.30-3.30 today so I'll see what I can get done:

Monday - Bit of everything to kick start the week
Level Two
HHPaperwork/replying to emails/paying bills
Level three
Clean WM and/or DW filters

Tuesday - Master Bedroom
level one
Clear the floor, put all clothes away
Hoover (under the bed too if possible)
Level Two
Dust at least one surface
Polish any mirrors or clean the window
Sort somebodies undies and get rid of anything holey or lacking elastic
Level three
Wipe some light switches
Extras
Sort any nail polishes ready for summer, binning any that resemble glue

Wednesday - Kitchen and Dining Room
Level one
Clear and wipe the worksurfaces
Shine your sink
Level two
Wipe the hob and front of the oven
Descale the kettle, iron etc
Sort your recipes/cookbooks and look for inspiration
Level three
15 minutes flinging
HHMe time
Dust behind, underneath something that rarely gets done
Extras
Catch up on what you've missed this week
Spend sometime chatting with a child, OH, anyone you'd like to

My list:

1. Pull lunches together
2. DW
3. WM
4. TD
5. Help at school
6. Work
7. Take friend birthday present
8. Put bins out

Best get cracking! Have a good day everyone!

Claire

lil_me

Morning

Didn't do great yesterday and busy busy again today so I'll try to do some now, then another batch when I get in tonight.

My own mini list for today

Finish kitchen - this has become a long challenge!
Fill some more of the wall unit - currently boxes across the floor
Have an hours study time
3 drier loads - sick of rain!
1 washer load
Decide what to do with dining table - think I might clear it into a box!

vanilla

Morning all, managed a good bit yesterday as well as looking after Eva. Plan is to keep going today and a trip into town to get a few things done.

I'll update my list later...:D

Thanks for all the well done's for DD, she's so chuffed..

bossymoo

Am at the paid stuff early again but some were done last night...

Wednesday - Kitchen and Dining Room
Level one
Clear and wipe the worksurfaces (done)
Shine your sink (done)
Level two
Wipe the hob and front of the oven (done)
Descale the kettle, iron etc
Sort your recipes/cookbooks and look for inspiration
Level three
15 minutes flinging (will clear out the kiddie shelf, too many plastic cups and spoons...)
HHMe time (not likely...)
Dust behind, underneath something that rarely gets done (will pull the shoe cupboard out in the dining room and clean under)
Extras
Catch up on what you've missed this week (kids ironing done, just mine to finish)
Spend sometime chatting with a child, OH, anyone you'd like to (had a nice chat with mum last night, it's my wedding anniversary tomorrow and I'm feeling a bit down so that helped)

Hoping to be home for 3 so will get some bits done before I do the nursery run. Will catch up with everyones posts later. Hugs all round, whether you want them or not!!!