Living for the Present...after all who doesn't love a gift!

debtfreewannabe321

please-let-me-be-lucky wrote: »

:mad: to your DH's selfish behaviour. It's so not fair on you, hugs Xx

:beer: to wine and chocolate. I will raise a virtual glass with you (don't have any in the house due to my DH's previous problem with it!). Chin chin Xx

I think what's upset me more is the fact I already knew as did all the other 'wives' and they know me & dh have had problems before and some of them just love to drop DH in it with me. I'm sure they cause half of the problems we have they tell me what my own DH has planned with their hubbys and he doesn't. It makes me feel stupid. And I don't like him doing that to me. THEN one of the wives that dropped dh in it posted to her fb about how gushingly in love she was with her husband and then half hour later he posted that he was enjoying a cider in his garden with his beautiful wife. WHILST mine was disappearing away from me to spend time with anyone but me maybe i'm too sensitive



Wine is nice though wish my tummy ache would go so I could enjoy the chocolate too :rotfl:

please-let-me-be-lucky

I'd feel the same . Infact I did several times in the past. The situation is carp and needs addressed with your DH, however, trying to be the voice of reason here, try to look at it rationally. How much of how you are feeling is time of the month related? Or because the other wives have made it more of an issue than it would have been? Did DH not tell you because he knew you'd be upset or because you'd try to stop him (there is a difference, honest), is DH simply being selfish and putting himself first or does he "want to be with anyone" but you?

Hope you feel better soon Xx

shinner

MEN are a selfish breed they only think of what they want or what they think they need. Think it is because we always pick the pieces up and they just expect. Chin up my wine amazing. xx

grannyx2

Hugs honey, some people can just be so thoughtless at times

Just remember posting how in love you are on face book doesnt make it true. If you are having that great a time with your spouse, why are you on social media. Something not quite right with that scenario. Who are they trying to convince?

OH needs a kick up his rear for helping to make you feel like this

Granny x

*Robin*

((Hugs)) from me too.

Think you're definitely justified in focussing on your own debts first, given how sneaky DH is being..

Hope you can ignore the other wives who appear to get a kick out of unsettling you; that says more about cracks in their own relationships than anything else - happy people don't usually b!tch...

Eager_Elephant

((DFW))

Have you been taking your Agnus???? :rotfl:

From reading your diary it appears that DH goes out every payday so why not make a mental note for next pay day so you are prepared for it?

I think you need to sit down with DH and talk about a budget etc. I now he is not very good at talking but something has to be done before you split up again.

My DH was a right royal pain last week and ordered 2 things from ebay that weren't really needed :eek:. I went mad and when I checked his account he had spent some bill money and 4 standing orders bounced (only for £1 each and the charge is £10 - slaps head smiley!!).
I asked him why he did it and he said he had checked his account and had money - I said yes but it was for bills - he said he did not know and I said that is because you can't manage your money so I look after it for you :eek::mad:

Anyway he refused to discuss it, went bright red and sat on the sofa all silent - this is the I am guilty look but won't say anything further otherwise I get myself in to more trouble. :rotfl:

So I have decided that he can have £30 per month spends - no questions asked. He has a spare account with a debit card so he can have that and I have told him that also. I have removed all cards and bank accounts from Paypal so hopefully everything will run smoothly :rotfl:

(I know £30 is hardly anything but we have hardly any money and all bills/shopping is covered and DH is too poorly to go to a pub etc so I think it is enough!!)

slm6002

Lets just say i know how you feel. Hope his hangover is payback for it! Its June but where is the sun? Hope you have a great weekend

debtfreewannabe321

Afternoon :j

Well I had a bit of a lie in this morning after spending all night cuddled up to my very own hot water bottle (DS2! :rotfl: very :money:) DH rolled in around 1am this morning. I found out from my friend that he'd gone back to hers at 11.30 after pub kicked them out and woke her up and they drank all her wine :eek: i'd have been :mad: so very glad our house is furthest from pub ....I asked him this morning what time he got home (to see if his accounts tallied up with what I already knew) and he told me he didn't know but he was very drunk and had fallen asleep on the sofa which is a good job cos he'd have wasted his time climbing the stairs only to be sent back down again!

This morning I sent ds2 down at 6.30 to see daddy he got up with him fed him and the dog and made me breakfast in bed at around 9am I think him and his buddies had a chat about us wives and have realised we tell each other EVERYTHING and there is actually no point in lying. But we'll see i actually believe compulsive lying is ingrained in my DH. Especially to his own wife it seems.

Well today anyway is a NSD. He's taken the kids to the zoo and i've stayed at home as I didn't fancy the zoo again plus I want to finish all the washing, drying and have people due to pick stuff up from me.

I'm going to check my bank account in a mo and see how much spare I have as DH has given me more money and I hadn't accounted for it after last month's fiasco with money. I intend of spending it immediately before he asks for it back or decides to allocate to another pub session. I will be spending it on a debt.

I have joined pets at home VIP club and have received a card & some key fobs and a 10% off voucher so i'm going to get him some food with that next week when he's in for his jabs (only wasting one lot of petrol then) i'm going down a brand on his food as he's a fussy little s0d anyway and doesn't even like the fish4dogs that we bought (organic and high meat content) I will go back to JWB i think as he hated that equally as much and it's a good mid-brand i think without the cereals and still a highish meat content in it -not that this matters anyway as he won't eat the darned stuff without some form of meat all over it anyway!!! I usually use a tin of tuna a week and put a teensy bit on each meal!

Planned spends this week mean a trip into town as I want the health shop for toothpaste (without fluoride and other chemicals in) and I want to see if I can buy some form of shampoo without sulfates in (am thinking a shampoo bar like soap but not sure where to buy it) I also need some more deodorant which I buy from sainsbug (without aluminium) -for conditioner I've just taken an old shampoo bottle and thrown 3/4 white vinegar in 1/4 water and a spoon of cider vinegar in. Just used it on my hair and it's lovely and soft :T didn't use much either :T.... I also need some new foundation that will be a cheapy from b00ts probably. I've been putting these buys off since the month before last but the way I see it is I made the money to cover most of this and only need a small amount (prob take from grocery budget) extra which will still be less than DH spent last night on a few beers! other planned spends are farm shop for fruit, veg & eggs. The dog's jabs which money has been saved for from tenant. And I think that's it?! I do have a 10p off petrol voucher so i'm tempted to put a whole tank in and make it last the month but I somehow think it's safer to put £25 a week in as if it's not in there then I don't have DH making silly trips to local shops/work as there is 'loads of petrol' (he seems to forget the petrol has to last 30 days!)

I've been asked if i'd like to do a boot fair tomorrow with a friend so be half price entry but i'm not sure weather isn't looking great and I don't have an awful lot to sell really and what I do have is going quite well on FB with no fees...whereas I will have to pay around £8 tomorrow to get in! Think it's a no brainer really so will tell friend I'm not going to do it just yet, perhaps if things aren't selling a month down the line then I will try one just to get rid of it all

Think that is all from me. I'm rightly having a lazy day. I deserve it! AND EE I am still taking the tablets which is why DH remained in tact as did my house, glasses, plates and walls :rotfl::rotfl: I think they are working wonders I now just think about doing the things rather than seeing red, doing it and then crying cos I wish I hadn't done it :T I've recommended them to everyone I know :rotfl::rotfl:

pennywisepoundstupid

Try Lush for the shampoo bars and they use all natural products, you can also buy online.

Enjoy your quiet day.

debtfreewannabe321

pennywisepoundstupid wrote: »

Try Lush for the shampoo bars and they use all natural products, you can also buy online.

Enjoy your quiet day.

oh thanks penny i'll have a look! It was a friend that mentioned them and I never thought to ask where to buy them

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