Homelessness at 34 weeks pregnant?

Dunroamin

daska wrote: »

Saw the following and thought of this thread

Teenage plus: The new adolescence
Remarkable new research suggests that conventional assumptions about how we mature are wrong – and that young people do not become true adults until they are 24

(I haven't read it yet)

Most people were dead by that point in the Middle Ages!

daska

Dunroamin wrote: »

Well, obviously, you need to take additional precautions/abstain if you're on the pill and have food poisoning or if a condom splits! IT DOESN'T SPEAK WELL FOR YOUR FRIENDS' COMMON SENSE MUCH LESS THE ATTRIBUTES YOU QUOTE0 if they didn't know that! (Oops!)

In the first case she was hospitalised for food poisoning, not a lot of sex going on AFTER she fell ill and she was ill enough that considering whether she might be at risk of pregnancy wasn't the highest priority. Outcome was an abortion.

And in the second case the GP was unable to fit a copper IUD and the morning after pill didn't do it's job. She chose to have a termination.

What's not sensible about the contraceptive choices in either situation? (I didn't include the steps taken afterwards because they weren't relevant to the initial reason for them falling pregnant in the first place.)

FWIW living in a rural area at the time I needed emergency contraception, and having done the frantic dash around the local area searching for a pharmacy willing to dispense it, the assumption by some people that it's a simple thing to get hold of is laughable. It certainly wasn't my experience.

fredandwilma

RiaPenido wrote: »

Let me start off by saying that my situation is not ideal... And that I did not know what board to post this on?

I'm 18 years old and 34 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend works full time and brings home a decent wage. We live at his parents house in outer west London but we are getting kicked out in about a week.

We've made a homeless application to the council that has been accepted. Our housing officer is saying we will be put in Bed and Breakfast accommodation for up to 6 months until they have found us a housing association flat. From my research I've gathered that it is actually illegal for them to put us in the B and B for more than 6 weeks. Is this true?

We've also looked at privately renting but as we are both 18 and haven't got savings or anything really no one sees us as suitable tenants. I don't know how to facilitate getting a place and as it is a lot of effort I've decided to just wait around for the council to help us.

Could they actually leave me and my newborn baby in a bed and breakfast? They always told us they'd find us a temporary place in a hostel or a flat. Does anyone have any experience of this?

Basically I just need some advice... I've tried every possible avenue. We don't claim any benefits either so I'm not sure what we'd be entitled to to help us pay for the b and b?

Thanks x

Does anyone remember what the original post to this thread was?


I find it quite remarkable this thread hasn't been locked.

OP - I feel for you if you are still reading this thread, ( on the assumption this whole thread isn't a wind up,) whatever thoughts people have about you, contraception or the state of the nation and social housing.


OP - I hope everything works out for you xx

Amanda65

fredandwilma wrote: »

Does anyone remember what the original post to this thread was?


I find it quite remarkable this thread hasn't been locked.

OP - I feel for you if you are still reading this thread, ( on the assumption this whole thread isn't a wind up,) whatever thoughts people have about you, contraception or the state of the nation and social housing.


OP - I hope everything works out for you xx

Sadly it has gone so off track I think even if OP does come back she'll struggle to find the advice some of us were (constructively but not 'flowering' it up) to give.

FatVonD

fredandwilma wrote: »

Does anyone remember what the original post to this thread was?


I find it quite remarkable this thread hasn't been locked.

OP - I feel for you if you are still reading this thread, ( on the assumption this whole thread isn't a wind up,) whatever thoughts people have about you, contraception or the state of the nation and social housing.


OP - I hope everything works out for you xx

That's the way of most threads on here, I see nothing so outrageous that the thread should be locked?

daska

fredandwilma wrote: »

Does anyone remember what the original post to this thread was?


I find it quite remarkable this thread hasn't been locked.

OP - I feel for you if you are still reading this thread, ( on the assumption this whole thread isn't a wind up,) whatever thoughts people have about you, contraception or the state of the nation and social housing.


OP - I hope everything works out for you xx

Good point, sorry. Actually she got some really good advice at the beginning about how to feed her family etc but personally I doubt she's looked at the thread for a long while.

fredandwilma

FatVonD wrote: »

That's the way of most threads on here, I see nothing so outrageous that the thread should be locked?

I didn't say outrageous. I said remarkable.

Thats me done with this thread.


Have fun

mummyoftwomonkeys

You have had plenty of time to sort yourself out but you have chosen not to. There are lots of forms of contraception out there if you are not ready for a baby you use one. I have 2 sons we have never lived in a council house, we started off in a one bed flat and when we tried for a family we moved to a bigger flat. We don't have a huge amount of money but pay our own way. My mother in law told me her husbands niece WOULD be offered a council house purely because she lived with her husband in a bedroom of her mothers house and was expecting a baby, they were both working and last I heard she was privately renting a house because surprise surprise being pregnant and not organising housing doesn't automatically make you entitled to a council house!! sorry but posts like this make me rather annoyed

jellyhead

Well the OP isn't the only person posting in this forum who wants, or lives in, a council house. She's a kid though, so she's an easy target.

Plenty of adults post in this forum when they find themselves unexpectedly pregnant - I did, and got nothing but support and I know it wasn't just because I had a mortgage, husband and a small baby already, it was because a lot of people on here are genuinely nice and supportive, and happy to give advice. A second baby meant I couldn't afford to go back to work once my maternity leave ended, so it was bad timing but nobody shouted at me for not using extra methods of contraception.

I remember how I felt when I lost that baby and a relative said it was a blessing in disguise because I couldn't afford the baby anyway, it wouldn't have had its own bedroom and now I could afford to go back to work.

The OP will be feeling love for her baby like I did for the one I lost, she doesn't need to be told so bluntly that she shouldn't have got herself into such a mess. These are real people with feelings posting on here, and some people are just cruel when they are hiding behind a keyboard

Taadaa

Indeed. People 'say' things on forums that they would never, in a million years, say to someone's face. There a loads of lovely people on here, (the majority in fact) but this forum is one of the worst I've come across for snidey comments and judgements. Second only to a forum of bridezillas I used when I was getting married, actually!!