Daily thread for 3rd March 07

Horasio

Hi everyone:)

Up earlier got another viewing at 11.30am, nice and sunny just now. Then going out for a drive whilst we have a courtesy car

I hope they turn up. The OH of the Wednesday's viewer didn't turn up yesterday and she was half an hour arriving on her first viewing and had to call to ask when they would arrive both times. She seemed so keen, so wonder what sick game they are playing:(

So off to tidy the house again:(

Hugs to who needs them and best wishes to anyone who has a special day today

Horasio

moggins wrote:

Thanks for all the hugs, they are really appreciated. We really talked last night and although you all think I'm wonderful I can now see exactly where he is coming from and wonder how I could have been so blind and stupid. He is right, I do have control and trust issues (mostly down to my godawful childhood) but I've put him through so much that he won't change his mind. I pleaded with him this morning to give me just two months to make the changes I need to make to me, to go back to the doctor and get back on my happy pills and to seek counselling for both us and myself. By the way he's been avoiding me since though I think the answer is no. He's going off to his parents in Shropshire for a few days.

As a family we have so much to lose if he goes and I don't think I realised how much I love him until last night and how much he does support me in day to day life. I've been such a cow and I deserve everything I get now

NO YOU DON'T!!!

You have deep issues which need a person you can trust to help you through them!

It makes me so angry when men transfer everything onto women!:mad:

You have issues and he isn't doing his bit to assist. Marriage is a two way thing and OK he may need a break for a few days but it is his problem too and he needs to show more empathy.

I too have childhood issues and I get really stroppy when people don't seem to care and blame me!

If he ends up staying there, remember we are all here to support you and you are strong and will be better off emotionally in the long run.

(((Extra big hugs)))

comping_cat

CCStar wrote:

NO YOU DON'T!!!

You have deep issues which need a person you can trust to help you through them!

It makes me so angry when men transfer everything onto women!:mad:

You have issues and he isn't doing his bit to assist. Marriage is a two way thing and OK he may need a break for a few days but it is his problem too and he needs to show more empathy.

I too have childhood issues and I get really stroppy when people don't seem to care and blame me!

If he ends up staying there, remember we are all here to support you and you are strong and will be better off emotionally in the long run.

(((Extra big hugs)))

Moggins, i was just finishing reading the thread before posting, and i was feeling exactly like CCStar after reading your post. Im sure there are things you have done, but from your previous posts that i have read, you certainly dont deserve all the blame being shifted onto you.You have been through more than most of us, and prob things that he knows about that we dont too. I know too well what its like to have trust issues, and again, from your previous posts i can see you have put those aside on numerous occassions to accomadate him.
I can only offer my love and good wishes to you, and i hope whatever happens will work out the best in the long run - the first couple of weeks are the hardest but im sure things will be fine - you will have the support of everyone on here and i so hope that things work out for the best.
I hope my words have come across ok (im not the best at it) but i so wanted you to know that you are not alone, and that you shouldnt be taking all the blame, and i hope things will be better soon xxxx

bellsbells

big hugs to all who need them - moggins especially:grouphug:

I have done my shopping hopefully for the month now, except top ups of milk, bread and veg. The one advantage of DS being such an early riser is that I can get the supermarket done before it gets really busy. I am spending a couple of hours alone on the allotment this morning - whilst it is lovely having DS with me he needs some watching, so I will be able to get a lot done by myself. This afternoon I have a friend of DS over for a baking session. This is a lot more complicated than it sounds as his friend is allergic to wheat, gluten, dairy, eggs, and nuts. I have all the ingredients sorted for a vegan chocolate cake, with the wheat flour exchanged for wheat free/gluten free. I have gluten free baking powder, stork margarine to make the 'butter' icing, soya milk and everything else nut free.

It should be a fun if messy afternoon!

Have a nice saturday everyone:j

Blairweech

(((((Moggins))))), hope you can work things out

JackieO - Hope you and Ben have a fantastic time - I must admit I am quite envious!!

Right, there is a load of washng on and both balconies are open as its gloriously mild and sunny here. I expect it'll chuck down later though. Still, in the meantime, the flat gets aired and my washing will get dried on the airer outside when its done.

Going to pop into town this morning, have to get odds and sods from Wilkos and some fruit and veg from the market. Then later it's tackling the ironing pile, finishing the budget and listing on Ebay - there is a Mothers Day thing I need to get on there.

The maintenance people have rang about our washing machine - they need a date to come and fit it, but of course I am at work all day now and OH is out on placement, so we won't be here to let them in! Might give the key to the neighbour, or ask to go into work late one day.

comping_cat

Good morning everyone,

clairfun - glad you have finally exchanged!!!

bargain babe - any news on the school placement yet???

JackieO - enjoy your weekend, i also love Disney, im sure you will have a lovely time with DGS.

dlb - my DS is not happy this morning, the other team cancelled todays league match, not just because of the weather (it is blue skies here this morning, so couldve been played) but because they thought our lads are too good, and didnt want their lads to become disheartened!!!! Mind you, it has been over a year since our lads have been beaten, so i can see why they are scared, but DS wants to play, not sit at home, especially when it is lovely outside!!!! Hope that your coach sorts the other team out!!!

skystar - enjoy your dinner :rolleyes:

Well, the tablets gave me 3 hours sleep instead of 2, so dont think i will bother trying them again - but i did have a lie in until 9, so feeling a bit more relaxed today. Mt mum is due here soon, so i have to run up and have a shower as im still in my pjs!!!

Later DS and i are off to the football, they normally loose when we go and watch, but im hoping they wont today - we are also going the next couple of weekends so i hope we wont be too much of a bad luck jinx!!!

Not sure what we will be having for dinner tonight, mum normally brings a food parcel with her so hopefully there will be something we can use, as i have nothing planned (really must get back onto meal planning this week, as well as the flylady challenge, ive let them both slip lately).


Right, off for my shower - ((HUGS)) to anyone who wants or needs one (especially moggins)

Have a lovely day,
Take care xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Ladygrim

catowen wrote:

Moggins, i was just finishing reading the thread before posting, and i was feeling exactly like CCStar after reading your post. Im sure there are things you have done, but from your previous posts that i have read, you certainly dont deserve all the blame being shifted onto you.You have been through more than most of us, and prob things that he knows about that we dont too. I know too well what its like to have trust issues, and again, from your previous posts i can see you have put those aside on numerous occassions to accomadate him.
I can only offer my love and good wishes to you, and i hope whatever happens will work out the best in the long run - the first couple of weeks are the hardest but im sure things will be fine - you will have the support of everyone on here and i so hope that things work out for the best.
I hope my words have come across ok (im not the best at it) but i so wanted you to know that you are not alone, and that you shouldnt be taking all the blame, and i hope things will be better soon xxxx

I agree with catowen. Marriage is a two-way street. If one person has problems, then the other must be there to help/support. Its a shame your DH doesnt have the bottle to stand up to his responsibilities. I hope his mother tells him off for abandoning his family this way.
Just remember, MSE is here to help you. We are your friends and we will always be here for you.
Sending you tonnes of virtual hugs and support :grouphug:
LG

cattie1

hi everyone.
I am not getting the chance to get on here much as I am so busy at work, after today though I am on holiday for a week!:j
dlb that's disgraceful-good luck to your team I hope the win and show them!
jackieo I hope you have a really nice time.
skystar good luck for your father in law-and enjoy the meal-sound as though it will be a culinary delight!
I am off out tonight with work-but in all honesty am not looking forward to it!
I have barely any money and it is such a waste but it is 2 lads leaving do's so I have to make an appearance!
I hope everyone is ok, have a good day.
hugs to everyone (especially moggins)

Penny-Pincher!!

Moggins-You dont deserve this! We all love you and you are a strong, wonderful and thoughtful woman and mother. I dont understand why you and the kids have to move out, surely any decent father would move out and allow the children a roof over their heads. By the sounds of it, your hubby is being very selfish and it is not fair! Wasnt it your husband who be-littled you infront of his friends about your boob?

Sorry if the above sounds harsh....but you are wonderful and dont deserve this. We are all !!!!!$s at time....but so what...isnt that a womens prerogative:rotfl:

Please keep talking to us, we are here to support you as you dont need to be alone ATM.

Thinking of you lots.

PP
xx

Dumyat

hello everyone.
another day of housework, studying and not a lot else. depending on the weather might go out somewhere later....or might not

moggins - dont blame yourself. ok you may have made mistakes (we all do)....but I'm sure he has too. I know from odd things you have mentioned here life has not been easy for you. I wish you well. xxxx