Pregnant. How are we going to manage??????

Spendless

I didn't start dating my husband till I was in my 30s, we both owned our own houses and I still went thru I OMG what am I doing about having a baby and getting married too.

You will be fine, congratulations.


seven day weekend - wasn't best pleased last year when I thought I was at just 40 , so 53 :eek: I was banking on scares like that being long gone by then

alanalea

I cried when I found out I was pregnant- I'd only just moved in with my OH and we'd only been together for 5 months (must of been the moving in party )

I was a newly qualified midwife (of 1 year) and when we worked it out it was cheaper for me to stay at home with dd than put her in a nursery.

You do cope, we've done it. We nearly lost our house due to DH ex wife and we were living on £10 for food a week, but we got there. OK things aren't flush now and we've lost a lot of freedom with being a new couple- but we wouldn't be without our daughter (now 19 months) for the world!

And CONGRATULATIONS

ness_w

Please don't worry, we went through a lot of these concerns with my first pregnancy even though it was planned. Babies don't have to be very expensive, it's teenagers that cost money! Really, the feeling you get when the baby arrives will outweigh any concerns you have now. Lots of people continue studying after a break for a baby so there's no reason your partner shouldn't qualify after a hiatus.

Congratulations to you!

Ness (mother of six and still standing so I know what I'm talking about here!)

vodkagirl001

I just want to say congratz :beer:

Try not to worry - you will get used to the idea and get all giddy at some point! I'd like to say though, one tip we learned (im currently 34 weeks) is to buy some things EVERY pay day. Nappies/wipes etc are a good lot to start with, were stocked up so we wont have to buy any for about 3 months which is good seen as SMP is so rubbish! Also can I recommend a) not to buy to many clothes in new borm & 0-3 months as if you have family and friends they will buy you LOADS once its born and b) ASDA's are good for cheap Body suits and vests and little things like that (something like £3.50 for 7 plain suits, £2 for 5 vests, 0.75p for 3 pairs scratch mits and £1.50 for booties or along them lines) - it does not have to all be designer!!

you will be fine, as said you will cope, just remember, only buy what you need, not what is perceived to be needed by the media!

Good luck for the future

lil_me

Congratulations, you will be fine, don't panic.

madhouseof4

Congratulations to you both, you will be fine, honest!

I was in a similar situation, OH & I had been together for 4 years, but had only been in our 1st hourse together for 9 months, were going through a REALLY rough patch, on the verge of calling it a day etc, when I found out I was expecting our 1st. I was not long tunred 22. I cried, swore and was kind of hoping that i would miscarry, as horrible as that sounds. When i started bleeding at 7 weeks, I completely freaked out and I realised then that this baby was mine, was ours and I wanted it and wanted things to workl for us as a family. Our son arrived 3 weeks before I turned 23, we were made up and things were not as bad as we were expecting. 3 years and 1 month later, our second son entered the world, we were thrilled. The bubble burst as we realised our boy was poorly at 9 months and now, I am a full time stay at home mother and although we struggle some months, it is soooo worth it when I look at my boys, we are both filled with pride.

Give it time, you will be too, I would put money on it if I were a gamblin' mum!

grahamliza4

OMG it's going to great and you have no idea!!!!!

Until you actually get the baby home and realise you're a 'family' you'll feel like that I expect.

BUT ITS SO SO SO GREAT SO HANG IN THERE!!!!

I had to tell OH I was pregnant 8WEEKS after we met (oops). And he was all horrified and 'I still want to go to the pub every night....' but he soon grew up and we got over the shock and now several things puzzle me

1) What on earth did i spend all my money on before I had kids?
2) Why did i need so many clothes? And such expensive ones...?!
3) Why did I need to go out EVERY weekend?
4) What do people do all evening and weekend before kids? (I clean up and try to get some work done!)

Before I really didnt earn a lot and always thought i had no money but TBH I spent it all on rubbish. Going out, clothes, cars, etc. Now we earn bit more and still have no money but at least I know where its going! (nappies, food, house, etc)

DONT LISTEN TO PEOPLE WHO SAY YOUR LIFE IS OVER.
This is in fact the beginning and it's what life's all about really. You won't understand what i mean yet but soon you will. Friends come over and say to me 'oohhh you look so dowdy and you never go out...poor thing, made a mistake there didnt you?'. But they are all so wrong and we pity them when they leave as they don't understand yet that this is 'the meaning of life'.

Yeah I may sound mad but if you understand show your support and hit the 'thanks' button. You know you're out there!

Children dont come into the world needing a lot. I always thought I'd wait till I was 35 and on £80k so I could send them to private school!!!!!!! My 7m olds fave toy is a plastic ladle, and 2yr old likes old mini wheelbarrow that was in the garden when we moved in. Kids do not want a lot. You find its always the spoiled ones shouting 'I want!' in Tescos

So this is a very good thing and please look forward - I don't know where I'd be without my two kids (now 2yrs and 7m). (and no I'm not a simpleton who had nothing better to do - IQ 145, mensa member, PQ Accountant, doing OU science degree)

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:T

bobsa1

Congratulations, it will be hard, but it will be fine. Give OH a big hug, square your shoulders and get on with it.

You won't always be skint, your income will increase, OH can finish her nursing, just not when you thought she would.

Give yourselves chance to get used to the idea and in a couple of weeks you will feel better about it!

Dumyat

first of all congratulations.

my husband and I had a major shock when I found out I was expecting 17 years ago. we were married but living in a one bedroomed flat (very small really a one person flat) he was finishing his training...had an interview for his first job that very week I found out. we had planned to both be working full time, to move house, to have loads of holidays and all of a sudden we were stranded. So he was on the bottom of his grade, I had to half my hours, we had to stay in a tiny flat for a year until we got on our financial feet again. It was hard but we got by. Even when we moved things were tough, but we managed. when you have a baby you do save money in some ways. the social life is severely curtailed, foreign holidays are out the window, and the family are usually desperate to spoil the little one....so I let them

best of luck. I'm sure you will warm to the idea once the shock has worn off.

seven-day-weekend

Spendless wrote:

seven day weekend - wasn't best pleased last year when I thought I was at just 40 , so 53 :eek: I was banking on scares like that being long gone by then

Didn't start my menopause until I was over 54!:eek: :rotfl:

(Sorry OP, too much informatiion there for you I think!).