Losing 1400 when partner moves in

apoorlykitten

slammed for doing the right thing. i work all what i can ! what part in that dont you understand. if and its a massive IF, IF i could get a different job with better pay and more hours i bloody would. find me one so you ponsy bitter twitsed idiots can sleep better at night for fear of a single mother working part time and getting tax credits( which i flippin entilted too ) to support her family
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jesus talking to you lots is like talking to a brick wall.

i was simply saying that its stupid the way it works. and i can see why people choose to live apart.

miamoo

I have a friend who was in a very similar situation, her OH moved in with her an her 2 children but they were better off, as he paid £800 a month on his private rent plus all the bills.
Her rent/bills/shopping/ctax was only £800 a month, so even though she lost her benefits, they weren't any worse off.

He wont actually save himself money, but he will have less outgoings of his own and therefore he will have more money to put in the pot.

Dontknowanymore

apoorlykitten wrote: »

slammed for doing the right thing. i work all what i can ! what part in that dont you understand. if and its a massive IF, IF i could get a different job with better pay and more hours i bloody would. find me one so you ponsy bitter twitsed idiots can sleep better at night for fear of a single mother working part time and getting tax credits( which i flippin entilted too ) to support her family
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jesus talking to you lots is like talking to a brick wall.

i was simply saying that its stupid the way it works. and i can see why people choose to live apart.

Chill out!
I am far from ponsey, I am a single mum to 2 young boys and live in a council flat, and currently looking for a full time job. I'm not slating you for having worked and claimed tax credits, I just dont get your mentality when you say you will be worse off when you clearly wont.

CornishWildFlower

apoorlykitten wrote: »

slammed for doing the right thing. i work all what i can ! what part in that dont you understand. if and its a massive IF, IF i could get a different job with better pay and more hours i bloody would. find me one so you ponsy bitter twitsed idiots can sleep better at night for fear of a single mother working part time and getting tax credits( which i flippin entilted too ) to support her family
!

jesus talking to you lots is like talking to a brick wall.

i was simply saying that its stupid the way it works. and i can see why people choose to live apart.

Damn right I'm bitter, OH works days and I work nights so that, between us, there is always someone here for the children. The upshot of that is, that I get ONE afternoon a week (Sunday) with both my husband and children all in the house at the same time.

For LESS disposable income than you.

McKneff

If your children are teenagers, why not encourage them to get little jobs so they can provide their own pocket money, Saturday/Sunday jobs, paper delivery, milk delivery.

Could you look for a full time job and get everyone to contribute to the housework.

shedboy94

apoorlykitten wrote: »

slammed for doing the right thing. i work all what i can ! what part in that dont you understand. if and its a massive IF, IF i could get a different job with better pay and more hours i bloody would. find me one so you ponsy bitter twitsed idiots can sleep better at night for fear of a single mother working part time and getting tax credits( which i flippin entilted too ) to support her family
!

jesus talking to you lots is like talking to a brick wall.

i was simply saying that its stupid the way it works. and i can see why people choose to live apart.

So what exactly are you wanting to hear?
You stated in your OP you wanted advise, of which there has been plenty. If you don't like what you are reading then perhaps you should cease posting on this thread?

Dontknowanymore

McKneff wrote: »

If your children are teenagers, why not encourage them to get little jobs so they can provide their own pocket money, Saturday/Sunday jobs, paper delivery, milk delivery.

Could you look for a full time job and get everyone to contribute to the housework.

She works part time so she can look after her sisters kids for free......

Googlewhacker

apoorlykitten wrote: »

i also agree that i probaly do get too much 'free' money. i earn 108 a week ish i get cb 150 ctc a week. 270 a month wtc and i get 80% of my housing paid and i only pay 120 a year ct. i am however getting what im entitled too.
maybe if they re thought the system i wouldnt be worrying about my partner living with me.

No, no doubt you would be moaning you weren't getting enough help in the first place.

The government is in a no win situation

Sparklebabey

apoorlykitten wrote: »

i was simply saying that its stupid the way it works. and i can see why people choose to live apart.

No one is disagreeing with you...merely trying to make you think of ways to see things in a different light. But you keep swatting suggestions away.

You asked for advice and you got it. The fact you don't like it doesn't mean it's valid.

I'll ask again...how old are your kids?

If you want to continue to provide free childcare and work p/t then that's fine....but you really can't moan about being skint can you?

Googlewhacker

apoorlykitten wrote: »

slammed for doing the right thing. i work all what i can ! what part in that dont you understand. if and its a massive IF, IF i could get a different job with better pay and more hours i bloody would. find me one so you ponsy bitter twitsed idiots can sleep better at night for fear of a single mother working part time and getting tax credits( which i flippin entilted too ) to support her family
!

jesus talking to you lots is like talking to a brick wall.

i was simply saying that its stupid the way it works. and i can see why people choose to live apart.

Charge your sisters £200 each a month to look after their kids, thats £400 extra a month! (taxable though I guess)