Wouldn't life be simple if we all just thought the same?!

aliasojo

I don't care if it would be boring. I'd settle for hassle free.

Trivial thing (in the whole scheme of things) happened today. I'm surprised how much it annoyed me though.

OH means well but doesn't usually have his brain in gear when his mouth moves.

He suggested taking daughter and a friend out a few days ago...Easter hols/bored kid etc etc. We live in the middle of nowhere so have to drive to next town to pick up friend then drive further to activity. By the time the afternoon was over we'd shelled out over £50.

Was silently unimpressed but went with the flow and when we came home I made it clear to OH that we couldn't afford to do this kind of thing very often. I also told daughter that if we invite someone somewhere, we pay for it but if she and her pals get together and decide they are all going *wherever*, then they would all just pay for themselves. In that situation I would happily give them a lift but I wouldn't be expecting to pay for them all. Daughter thought that was fair and that was the end of the conversation. The one glaring hole in that theory is that we don't live in the same town as her school or her pals so she doesn't get to hang out with them and is kinda forgotten about when they make plans.

Fast forward to today and I'm not in a good place. Kids are getting me down and I'm fed up with the tediously boring, mind numbing existence that is my life. OH announces he is taking daughter out to give us both a break (nice thought) and he's asked her friend to come too, but he's asked the friend to pay for herself. I'm mortified. He clearly hasn't understood the 'you invite, you pay' rule that we have always lived by.

I got daughter to phone friend back and say she'd got the wrong end of the stick and she didn't need money after all. This is a friend whose parents have taken our daughter out too and paid for her so there's no way I would take money off the girl in this instance.

OH is standing looking confused because all he remembers is 'we're skint, we can't afford it'. Which is fair enough but he seems to have ignored the fact that if we can't afford it, we just don't do it at all! By the time he's driven the 60 + miles involved, paid for the activity and the obligatory food, no doubt it'll be another £30 at least. He should never have suggested it in the first place! When he got up this morning he was going out for a walk with daughter. Why the heck he couldn't have stuck at that I don't know!

It's so simple in my head. Why isn't it the same for everyone else? :rotfl:

I think I'll give up with the debt repayment thing and just chuck my hat in the party ring with everyone else. At least then I'd have a life and I wouldn't be the baddie all the time.

*goes off grumbling, in search of chocolate*

euronorris

Ha! My OH does similar stuff sometimes. And then I'm the one accused of only hearing what I want to hear sometimes! hahahaha

Just a thought, is there nothing free they can do? Have a photography day (ie, go to some pretty places and take pictures)? Visit a country park? Have a picnic? Have a nice walk? Bike ride etc etc?

luxor4t

Is your OH related to mine?

aliasojo

euronorris wrote: »

Ha! My OH does similar stuff sometimes. And then I'm the one accused of only hearing what I want to hear sometimes! hahahaha

Just a thought, is there nothing free they can do? Have a photography day (ie, go to some pretty places and take pictures)? Visit a country park? Have a picnic? Have a nice walk? Bike ride etc etc?

The place we live right now is tiny with one local corner shop.

There are a number of nice walks but when you're 12, there's only so many walks you can go on without becoming bored to tears. Sandwiches or no sandwiches.

We've pretty much done all we can here with regards to low or no cost stuff. That's probably why OH has been veering towards 'stuff' iyswim.

The best of it is, I liked him when I got up this morning. :rotfl:

picnmix

I feel where you are coming from, you are not alone.

We're pretty skint this month and I have just spent the entire morning batch baking/cooking ready for the onslaught of school work etc. My DD has just informed me that daddy said we can go to "X" on Sunday and I said,"oh darling you must have got the wrong end of the stick" only to have other DD back this up. The place in question is miles away, will cost about 80 quid for the day out, the kids will fall asleep on the way home so won't be tucked up in bed on time ready for school the next day. It honestly beggars belief sometimes. I know he has said it for all the right reasons, but doesn't think of the practicalities/cost of this things.

Sambucus_Nigra

aliasojo wrote: »

...he's asked her friend to come too, but he's asked the friend to pay for herself. ...

:eek:

Oh dear - he doesn't get it does he?

Catti

aliasojo wrote: »

There are a number of nice walks but when you're 12, there's only so many walks you can go on without becoming bored to tears. Sandwiches or no sandwiches.

Geocaching - every walk is a treasure hunt!!!

aliasojo

No, he really doesn't.

He thought he was being 'sensible' (because of our financial status) but he was really only being a bit blinkered.

LandyAndy

Wouldn't life be simple if we all just thought the same?!

Yes.

aliasojo

Catti wrote: »

Geocaching - every walk is a treasure hunt!!!

We got a gps geocaching thingy cheap from Amazon at Xmas.

There's one listed walk in our area. It's the same walk we do every day with the dog. :rotfl:

Spendless

At the risk of sounding incredibly sexist it's fellas. Logic, attention to detail and common sense fly out the window!!

A friend is paying for a group of us to go on a spa day and I'm invited. She texted me some suggestions of dates and also suggested a diff month -which I thought unusual cos 1st time diff month has been suggested. DH called at this friends last night and came back saying that he thought the alternative month was due to someone going who works in a school. Straight away I thought host hasn't realised that the 'May' 1/2 term has been put back a week this year due to Jubilee. I tried explaining this to DH who interrupted me, then when i said he hadn't let me finish he just kept shaking his head whilst I was talking (so I now know where our 12yo gets this from :mad:). In the end I sent friend a message on fb and this morning found reply that she'd now realised it. So I sent a text message to hubby to tell him I'd been right in what I'd suggested and guess what he's left his works mobile at home!!