Wouldn't life be simple if we all just thought the same?!

System

your lucky your other half listens to you. Mine never listens and spends his time moaning when things go pearshaped.

aliasojo

Lol Judi, clearly he doesn't listen or I wouldn't have started this thread.

anguk

euronorris wrote: »

And woe betide if you try to point it out to him either. Even though it's just for future reference, I've found that OH reacts as though I've just said 'You're sh*t and everything you do is sh*t!'! In reality I've said 'Oh, darling, in future could you not do/do x, y or z because of a, b or c reason.'.

And then later (like weeks later), he's forgotten all about it. We may be watching something on TV, or I'm relaying a story to him, and he'll say something like 'Don't know why he reacted like that. I wouldn't. You can just tell me, so I know.'. Cue lots of :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:from me.

Thing is, I KNOW I do the same sometimes. :whistle:

My OH is exactly the same, trying to point out anything to him is like questioning his whole masculinity and intelligence. And he has the selective hearing thing, he only hears what interests him or what he wants to hear.

The one thing that annoys me the most is when I've asked him several times to do or not do something, he'll say I'm nagging! He doesn't seem to comprehend that if he just did the thing I'd asked in the first place I wouldn't have to keep asking! I mean really how difficult is it for a grown man to understand "please don't leave wet towels on the bed"? It seems a perfectly simple, reasonable request yet he still keeps doing it again and again! :mad: And if I keep asking then I'm nagging! :eek:

They really are a different species.

VfM4meplse

Reading this thread reminds me excatly why I'm better off without.

Although tbf they do save on heating costs at night .

catch_me_if_you_can

aliasojo wrote: »

He's obviously one of those people for whom action, and actually seeing something firsthand, makes more of an impression than simple speech.

So....bearing that in mind.....I suggest you very carefully fold the duvet in half on the bed tonight, so you have half under you and half over you.

He may then realise what removing a needed heat source actually means.

I do similar. I wake up with half the duvet over me, the other half on the floor while OH is shivering next to me... :rotfl:

aliasojo

anguk wrote: »

I mean really how difficult is it for a grown man to understand "please don't leave wet towels on the bed"? It seems a perfectly simple, reasonable request yet he still keeps doing it again and again! :mad: And if I keep asking then I'm nagging! :eek:

*Jumps up and down in excited support*

Wet towels on bed. With you.

jetplane

In his mind he thinks he's great, kind and considerate. You are having a down day, he thinks I will take kids out of her way and give her some space. I'm brilliant she will think I'm so considerate. :A

I will invite daughters friend as she is quite isolated and that way they can entertain themselves and I score brownie points with DD too. :T

Then he remembers oh no can't afford to take a friend I will show my wife that I listen and care and I will suggest friend brings some money.:p

Your reaction dumfounds him and he now thinks Oh Lordy I will have to make her laugh so that the b0llicking I get when I get home won't be so bad.:(

Sometimes I say to my husband do you think we should sit down and discuss this and he hears sit down I am going to lecture you :rotfl:

And other times when he asks me if it's allright to do something I look at him and say what you asking me for I'm not your mother :eek:
Damn him why can't he read my mind

jetplane

aliasojo wrote: »

*Jumps up and down in excited support*

Wet towels on bed. With you.

OMG Yes
Why do they do this?

londonsurrey

If a habitat were designed solely for use by men like these, what features would it have? Completely tiled rooms? Waterproof beds? A wardrobe area nowhere near a bed? Forget the wardrobes, have a room with piles of clothes?

jetplane

anguk wrote: »

The one thing that annoys me the most is when I've asked him several times to do or not do something, he'll say I'm nagging! He doesn't seem to comprehend that if he just did the thing I'd asked in the first place I wouldn't have to keep asking!

They really are a different species.

Nagging is a word made up by men to try to deflect from not doing something. When really they know that you shouldn't have had to ask them more than once, if at all.