How did you decide on a third Child?

mishkanorman

We, or more accurately I , always wanted 3 if our 2nd was a boy like our first. He was and for years we on/off tried and had periods when we stopped as it wasnt practical to get pregnant.

That resulted in me feeling more and more broody, 4 years down the line I decided enough was enough, the feeling didnt go away and although money will be tight I couldnt live with the feeling any more (in the back of my mind I also kept thinking how totally gutted I would be if we came into some money and it turned out we could have afforded it after all but had left it to late )

I fell pregnant last year and sadly had to end the pregnancy due to abnormalities, that made me 100% sure I wanted another, husband agreed but has also said he would be happy as we are,

Anyway, our third is due in september - Ive totally followed my heart so hopefully it wont bite us in the bum

Threebabes

We weren't planning no. 3 and she is 9 the end of this year. We adore her, our lives are all the better for having her in it. I love having the 3 kids and wouldn't change it. Financially its tougher. Practically with car/3 bed house its not great. It would depend on how much you wanted another baby.

pinkclouds

Charlie23 wrote: »

i'm sure people would disagree but leaving thr option open would be my ideal.

^I agree with you, Charlie23. We have two kids. I think I am now finally very content with my two lovely kids and am not planning on having any more. However, I don't want the option taken away from me so I don't want hubby to have the "snip". Sorry for your distress.

Back to the OP. I reckon you have to think about it for a long time and see what your gut feeling is and also whether you can accommodate the lifestyle changes required e.g. larger car, sufficient bedroom space, schooling costs, etc. It has to be more than a wishful/wistful feeling. I think it has to be a dead certainty that you definitely want a third child who is going to become a third teen and then a third adult child. I am still a tad... nostalgic about the baby days but concede that it isn't enough to want an actual third child. At least, not at this point in time.

sandyrosie75

I always planned on 2, I now have 3 daughters
We have talked about how we would both would have liked another but due to a hereditary condition, it wouldn't be fair as my 3rd daughter inherited it
I am very lucky to have my girls and appreciate having 3
Go with your heart

clairec79

We'd always thought we'd have 3 or 4, so it wasn't really too much of a discussion, aside from 'oh next Spring/Summer would be nice, so if I stop taking the pill now it'll likely take 3 months at least' and had a Christmas baby

We were fine with the ones we had and knew we could cope, admittedly some things, like foreign holidays etc we haven't done, if we only had 1 child we likely would have

POPPYOSCAR

Did not really 'plan' our children as such.

Ended up having two, would have liked another one but felt I was getting too old by then. Looking back we should have started earlier I suppose.

Kandboys

My sister in law said to me a couple of years after having DS2 that if you will look back and regret not having a 3rd then go for it. We realised we would and last October our 3rd baby boy was born :j and we have never regretted it. He really has completed our family and we are all totally in love with him. However, I did find it harder going from 2 to 3 than 1 to 2. I have a 4 year age gap between my first 2, then a 3 year gap which was perfect for me. It all comes down to individual circumstances. But we have drawn a line and that's it for us! 4 just isn't practical for us

cyclingyorkie

mummyroysof3 wrote: »

our 3rd wasnt planned...i did want 3 just not all in 4years

neither was ours - eldest was 6 weeks past her 3rd birthday - and they were all caesarians......

It was HARD, but we got all the nappies/sleepness nights/potty training done in one block....

Brokeattheminute

We had our 3rd 2yrs ago.I'd have been happy with 2 as we already had a boy and a girl but the wife wanted another1 and then when we were about to try for the 3rd she got made redundent and it took her another 3mnths to find another job,then we waited another 3mnths to make sure she was covered by maturnity leave in her new job.On the 2nd mnth of trying she got pregnant but we have both decided that we dont want another 1 as we think 3s enough.Found it harder going from 1 to 2 than from 2 to 3!

Ellejmorgan

If i remember correctly I laid on the bathroom floor..;)