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  • redmel1621
    redmel1621 Posts: 6,010 Forumite
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    We have always had a joint account, and over the 16 years we have been together we have either both worked/one or the other worked and currently both unemployed.

    The ONLY time we didn't argue over money, was when we were both working pre-children. Ever since we have had kids (11yrs ago) and gone through various maternity leaves/redundancies etc we have argued like cat and dog,now more than ever :(

    But unfortunately we currently have no choice but to share 'all' the money, as there isn't really any leftover after bills/living expenses.

    I don't think there is the 'perfect' solution. My sister and her husband have seperate finances, they pay equally into the bills and then can do as they like with the rest. Well her husband has an expensive hobby (motorbikes) so all his goes, which means she often gets resentful that any holidays/meals out/savings all come out of 'her' money!

    As I say there is no 'right' way.
    Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot,
    Nothing is going to get better. It's not.
  • Edwardia
    Edwardia Posts: 9,170 Forumite
    Separate accounts always. DDs are on OHs account. I do the shopping from my account and he reimburses me.
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