The "Pay ALL your debt off by Xmas 2012" challenge - PART 3!!!

Kerfuffle

psychopathbabble wrote: »

That is just so far wrong, it's way past the line. I haven't had that but some of my friends probably haven't been far off it!

Mr S is saying if they don't reply I should text them again later but I'm just going to leave it now, I've explained I sent the message so it could get sorted out and it's doing my head in being on my own for so long, so I can't do or say any more without either being a complete b!tch or making myself sound pathetic, and I refuse to apologise for saying that I'm upset; if they were friends then they would give a dam that I'm obviously upset and do something to sort it out.

Maybe I just have high expectations of friends!

I'm going to email the chairlady of circle and ask about joining, I have to do something. Mr S is out tonight so that's more time on my own. Any DFBX12ers living in the Essex area?

I disagree with Mr S, if they don't reply then that's it, end of. As you say you've let them know how you feel there's nothing more you can, or should do. If you do anymore and it gets into a heated discussion and confrontational then you're going to end up feeling much worse and probably even more upset. Just let the friendship go, you deserve so much better, and it's not about having high expectations at all. It about being valued, as a person, and everybody deserves to be valued.

Incidentally I used to do linedancing, the predecesor of Zumba. It was great, I loved it, I used to go along to it on my own as you don't need a partner and it opened up a whole new world of friendships. Then the politics kicked in and out of all the people I met and became 'friends' with, only one remains. Still love her to bits even though I don't get to see her much. My point is, it's always worthwhile trying something new and meeting new people, cos out of all the people you'll meet, there'll be one gem who will be a true friend for life.

Kerfuffle

psychopathbabble wrote: »

Mr S is out tonight so that's more time on my own. Any DFBX12ers living in the Essex area?

I would if I could my nearest DFBX12er is a 12 hour drive away and she's busy

psychopathbabble

Where are you in Canada Kerfuffle? My brother lives in Toronto, I was out there a couple of years ago but it didn't work out very well.

I've emailed the chairlady of circle and said I'm interested in joining, so I've done it! Now I've just got to get the courage to go! I think it's also quite hard to have a social life and go to clubs etc when you are trying to become debt-free... circle I think is £100 per year plus the money each week for the social events, which I couldn't justify or find before but now i'm almost there I can start thinking about it!

his_missus

Hello all!

5 days til my last loan repayment...

fritterprincess, I'd buy an inexpensive bike, you can always sell it and upgrade should you get addicted.

Mrs AtS Don't waste money on health insurance if you can't afford the excess.

The budgetting is going ok but not as well as I hoped Have spent £180 of my £150 budget over the past two weeks but hoping it will balance out next week as I have bought some pressies for DH's birthday.

eek! just realised I've only read as far as page 122, there's more to read yet!

ETA: pyscho, you should have high expectations of your friends, I certainly do. Sometimes they forget about me now I don't work with them partly because they're so used to me having been there for so long that they forget I'm not there anymore (It didn't make sense to me at first but I think I get where they're coming from now) So they didn't invite me to things because they were so used to me being there when we made arrangements, they assumed I knew!
It's hard sometimes to separate friends from work colleagues and tbh there will always be some kind of playground behaviour when you get a group of people together be they friends, colleagues, a social circle... so just go for it (says me, the hermit:p)

I'm a big fan of FB mainly because I can keep up with those old friends without spending a fortune on calls, texts, sending photos etc. We compete against each other in childish bubble or pop games and it keeps us close (that sounds soooo sad now I've typed it!)

On a completely non-DFW note, this morning as DH was lounging in bed half asleep, I told him I'd put the white wash on. He suddenly sits up yelling "Stop the wash! I need to stop the wash!" I thouhgt he'd brought his dream into reality, turns out he'd remembered he'd left his £215 tax disc in the pocket of his shirt he'd thrown into the basket last night:rotfl: Luckily he got to the washing before the water did:D

loubie_lou

psychopathbabble wrote: »

That is just so far wrong, it's way past the line. I haven't had that but some of my friends probably haven't been far off it!

Mr S is saying if they don't reply I should text them again later but I'm just going to leave it now, I've explained I sent the message so it could get sorted out and it's doing my head in being on my own for so long, so I can't do or say any more without either being a complete b!tch or making myself sound pathetic, and I refuse to apologise for saying that I'm upset; if they were friends then they would give a dam that I'm obviously upset and do something to sort it out.

Maybe I just have high expectations of friends!

I'm going to email the chairlady of circle and ask about joining, I have to do something. Mr S is out tonight so that's more time on my own. Any DFBX12ers living in the Essex area?

Block their statuses on FB now. Or if you feel brave just delete them. If you haven't seen them for 7 months, they are not friends

jakes-mum

Ahh psycho big hug to you. Im coming up to 3 years stuck at home :eek: and I soon learnt who my 'mates' were. I actually have one 'mate' who has the same illness, has been through the same problems (housebound etc) and now shes getting her life back has dropped me like a stone for the people who dropped her like a stone when she got ill. I made the decision that she is just as shallow as they are and they deserve each other, and I certainly wont be there to pick the pieces up if she relapses and they f off again.

Have you thought about amateur dramatics? you dont have to be into acting to join as there is lots of behind the scenes stuff, and though they can be cliquey, theres so much sitting around you cant help but get to know everyone (plus its alot of fun )

Im my news, have seriously done myself in today trying to get the latest ATOS medical form filled in :mad: bloomin hate them, takes me 5 days to fill the bloomin thing in, which means 5 days of feeling carp, then they come back with the wrong decision so have to spend months appealing with the stress and illness that goes with that, get the right decision for them to send me another bloomin review form 2 months later and the cycle continues :mad:
Also taken DD to her school visit today and tried to be friendly with the other mums that were there that knew each other (I know no-one) whilst feeling carp before struggling back to the car and home to my trusty chair of doom. Really narked off today and grumpy . . . psycho move up to cambridge

P.S. I once put my status on facebook as 'ive just been trimming my bush and its looking darn neat if I do say so myself' had alot of replies to that . . . all dirty :eek: i'd been out the front in the garden :eek:

psychopathbabble

loubie_lou wrote: »

Block their statuses on FB now. Or if you feel brave just delete them. If you haven't seen them for 7 months, they are not friends

I did think about deleting them but I think that would cause more problems, and i'd be cutting my nose off to spite my face or whatever the saying is... blocking their statuses isn't a bad idea though.

psychopathbabble

jakes-mum wrote: »

psycho move up to cambridge

P.S. I once put my status on facebook as 'ive just been trimming my bush and its looking darn neat if I do say so myself' had alot of replies to that . . . all dirty :eek: i'd been out the front :eek:

I love Cambridge, but couldn't afford to live there!

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

jakes-mum

psychopathbabble wrote: »

I love Cambridge, but couldn't afford to live there!

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

This is why I live in one of the villages outside, much cheaper

fritterprincess

Psychobabble, they don't deserve you as a friend, so sod them! You don't need 'friends' like that. I have considered leaving Facebook several times as I can't stand the smugness of some people harping on about how wonderful their lives are. I have one colleague who continuously goes on about how much she love her amazing husband and beautiful baby. It's quite vomit inducing really and I wish she would pipe down. Well I love my husband and he knows that, why would I go I about it to anyone who will hear? And yes it lovely having babies, but been there and got the tshirt twice! It's not like they can read it or it makes you a better mother! I sound like a right miserable cow don't I!
Psychobabble don't let them get you down, they are not worth it.xx (big hugs)

Jemma- I hope you are ok, you have to look after yourself , who else will keep us in line, spur us on and give thoroughly good advice?! Look after yourself!!