Smacking. Could you/would you/do you?

kafkathecat

I remember very strongly how it felt to be hit as a child and promised myself I wouldn't do it. Ds is now 14 and I have never hit him although I can't deny feeling the impulse at times. In fact I have never punished him. We raise our voices at each other sometimes and we usually both apologise afterwards and work things out. It is sometimes hard to break out of the habits or our parents but if you look at the states where smacking children is illegal, Scandinavia, Germany etc. not hitting children clearly does no harm so why would anyone choose to hurt their child?

verysillyguy06

lilymay1 wrote: »

When did I advocate smacking?

Being snacked as a child did me no harm. If others want to snack their children, that is entirely up to them.

:eek::eek::eek:


Being Cannibalistic??

Very extreme that type of discipline and pretty permanent

verysillyguy06

Welshwoofs wrote: »

I've come across some forum posters who do too

:eek: I thought you are a lady.....

janninew

kafkathecat wrote: »

I remember very strongly how it felt to be hit as a child and promised myself I wouldn't do it. Ds is now 14 and I have never hit him although I can't deny feeling the impulse at times. In fact I have never punished him. We raise our voices at each other sometimes and we usually both apologise afterwards and work things out. It is sometimes hard to break out of the habits or our parents but if you look at the states where smacking children is illegal, Scandinavia, Germany etc. not hitting children clearly does no harm so why would anyone choose to hurt their child?

You've never punished your child and he's 14?! :eek:

How do you deal with bad behaviour, if not punishing (and I mean any types, not just smacking) or is it just ignored?

Sambucus_Nigra

lilymay1 wrote: »

When did I advocate smacking?

Being snacked as a child did me no harm. If others want to snack their children, that is entirely up to them.

Advocate - noun

A person who publicly supports or recommends a particular cause or policy.

Hence, saying that it did you no harm is advocating that policy. As you are supporting that policy.

HTH.

Sambucus_Nigra

janninew wrote: »

You've never punished your child and he's 14?! :eek:

How do you deal with bad behaviour, if not punishing (and I mean any types, not just smacking) or is it just ignored?

If you read the next sentence to the one you highlighted - it is explained for you. HTH. [Any need for the :eek:, really?]

janninew

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

If you read the next sentence to the one you highlighted - it is explained for you. HTH. [Any need for the :eek:, really?]

I don't think a raised voice is a punishment, and if the poster thinks it is, why say 'I have never punished him?'

Yes there was need, I found it hard to believe that a child can go 14 years with no punishments (except maybe a raised voice.) Not the I really need to explain what I put in my posts to you!

lilymay1

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Advocate - noun

A person who publicly supports or recommends a particular cause or policy.

Hence, saying that it did you no harm is advocating that policy. As you are supporting that policy.

HTH.

I am not qualified to pass judgement on other people's parenting methods. I neither supported or recommended smacking, I simply said it did me no harm.

I think you have issuing interpreting the words of others.

Interpret - verb

Explain the meaning of information, words or actions.

Sambucus_Nigra

lilymay1 wrote: »

I am not qualified to pass judgement on other people's parenting methods. I neither supported or recommended smacking, I simply said it did me no harm.

I think you have issuing interpreting the words of others.

Interpret - verb

Explain the meaning of information, words or actions.

I have 'issuing' interpreting the words of others? - oh, the irony.

By posting that it did you no harm, you are publicly supporting the position. As a parent might see your post and think 'well it did them no harm, so I'll just whack my kid and all will be fine'.

And how do you know it did you no harm, as you can't measure what you may have been like if you weren't hit. Ergo, it's a fallacy to say it did you no harm as nobody knows, do they?

Sambucus_Nigra

janninew wrote: »

I don't think a raised voice is a punishment, and if the poster thinks it is, why say 'I have never punished him?'

Yes there was need, I found it hard to believe that a child can go 14 years with no punishments (except maybe a raised voice.) Not the I really need to explain what I put in my posts to you!

Perhaps they didn't need punishing? Not every kid is naughty to the extent that they need to be punished.