Smacking. Could you/would you/do you?

Person_one

Anubis wrote: »

Not sure what you are trying to say about children who grow up with domestic violence..... I was regularly beaten and sexually abused, I have brought four kids up without hitting any of them, and I am certainly no pedo.

:eek: Where did that come from?

jamespir

i thinking smacking is good and works obviously i dont think giving your child a full blown beating is good but a light slap to the back of the legs wont do them any harm

lilymay1

Anubis wrote: »

You think it didn't do you harm, but it could have without you realising it and it could be a subconcious factor in some choices you have made.

No, it didn't do me any harm. Unless you are more of an expert on my life than I am?

Christ, so many on this site are too concerned with other people's lives.

Sambucus_Nigra

lilymay1 wrote: »

No, it didn't do me any harm. Unless you are more of an expert on my life than I am?

Christ, so many on this site are too concerned with other people's lives.

You tell us - you are so concerned with other people's lives you come on and advocate smacking children without knowing anything about their lives.

janninew

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

You tell us - you are so concerned with other people's lives you come on and advocate smacking children without knowing anything about their lives.

Where has she advocated other people smacking their children? Have I missed that post? I read that she was smacked and her opinion is that it didn't cause her any harm. I've not seen her telling people to smack their children, she is entitled to tell us her experience just the same as any other poster.

Welshwoofs

verysillyguy06 wrote: »

I come across dogs that deserve the 'kick treatment'....:cool:

I've come across some forum posters who do too

Anubis_2

lilymay1 wrote: »

No, it didn't do me any harm. Unless you are more of an expert on my life than I am?

Christ, so many on this site are too concerned with other people's lives.

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You are misunderstanding me - consciously you believe it did you no harm - subconsciously it could have, but as it is subconscious you wouldn't be aware that it has.

Therefore it is not factually known if it did you harm or not - you believe it didn't, and that's fine, nothing wrong with that.

Sambucus_Nigra

janninew wrote: »

Where has she advocated other people smacking their children? Have I missed that post? I read that she was smacked and her opinion is that it didn't cause her any harm. I've not seen her telling people to smack their children, she is entitled to tell us her experience just the same as any other poster.

By saying it did her no harm is advocating it. You may have missed the point though...

Anubis_2

Person_one wrote: »

:eek: Where did that come from?

Your implication of the abused becomes the abuser....if you did not mean to imply that, then can you clarify as I may have misunderstood?

Originally Posted by Person_one
My point was that happiness and security create resilience. It doesn't have to come from hard knocks!

In fact people who had the toughest childhoods don't always become super resilient adults, they often struggle the most to find their way and cope with life's ups and downs. Look at the percentages of care leavers in prisons and out of work, look at the outcomes for children who grow up with domestic violence in the home.

lilymay1

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

You tell us - you are so concerned with other people's lives you come on and advocate smacking children without knowing anything about their lives.

When did I advocate smacking?

Being smacked as a child did me no harm. If others want to smack their children, that is entirely up to them.