16 MONTH Old DD not walking

grandma247

thehappybutterfly wrote: »

I think her memory must be impaired - it was 40 years ago! But it was always "meh XXXXX - oot o' nappies at 9 months!"

Sorry I don't agree. There is something which is now called elimination communication and mums did it all the time many years ago. That and the fact that wet or dirty cloth nappies were uncomfortable made sure most kids were toilet trained early. Have a look here.

My four older children who were born within seven years were all different. Two walked at 11 months and two were 15 and 161/2 months old before they walked.
Also my girls were potty trained by around 18months/2 years. my son was three years old.

Roll on nine years after the youngest child and I had another son who pulled himself to his feet at 51/2 months and walked at 9 months. Toilet trained and dry at 12 months and clean at 14months. He only used the potty once and when he realised what we wanted him to do he insisted on using the toilet like everyone else. He used to accompany anyone who would let him go to the toilet with them so he knew what to do.

Nine years later I had another boy. This one sat unaided at 41/2 months, pulled himself to his feet at 51/2 months and walked at 8 months but was not dry till 3 and not reliably clean until 51/2.

Kids are all different so you should not compare them unless you have observed them for some time and feel there really is a problem.

gibson123

happy35 wrote: »

I dont know how old your OH is, but when I was a baby in the mid 70s potty training did seem to happen at about a year old.

My mam tells me that I was potty trained at this age, however I think that it would have been more a case of catching your child's wee etc in a potty than them asking to go to the potty.

I toilet trained my son at 20 months as he kept undoing the velcro on his nappy and could tell me he had had a wee.

My Mum brought up 8 babies and many grandbabies and she says that Potty training was put back a year when disposables came in, she says that if the child doesn't feel cold and wet it doesn't have a reason to learn to go potty, as soon as the grandkids were a year, she waited until the warmer weather and started letting them run around in trainer pants mostly out in the garden and sure enough the babies were potty trained in no time. She also used to say that disposable nappies made the Mum's lazy and if they has to wash twelve terrys every day they would be watching their babies like hawks waiting for signs the wee one knew when they were about to go and catching them early.

Four_leaf_clover_2

tinkwings wrote: »

Just wanted to know others experiences of late walkers......

My second child didn't walk till he was 21 months. He didn't talk till he was 3 either. Came as a bit of a shock to us as my eldest was walking and saying first words at a year. We were pulling our hair out wondering what was wrong. Nothing was wrong, he just did things in his own sweet time as he still does!

At 6 he is a walking, talking confidant and happy little chap who is well up with his peers. I cant believe I once willed him to talk and walk. Now I would do anything for a quiet half hour where he would just sit quietly and not be rabbiting in my ear non stop

grey_lady

Although 14 months is the average for walking, even 22 months isnt considered late.

You can ask your HV or GP for a referral to your childrens community physiotherapist.

Four_leaf_clover_2

thehappybutterfly wrote: »

Slightly off topic but do you think it's possible for babies to be potty trained by 9 months? My MIL insists that my OH was off the nappies by 9 months old and I refuse point blank to believe her! This was also the woman kept saying about my DD "oh, she should be on her feet by now!" at 4 months....... Eh?

I have known friends start potty training around the year mark and found it a total hard slog. Their kids were just not ready. Each child is different and individual and it will be obvious to the mum, who knows them best after all, when their child is ready to start.

As for walking at 4 months, yeah right as if :rotfl:I think your MIL has been watching to many episodes of 'family guy' that has that baby in it that can do all sorts. Some peeps just like the sound of their own voice and dont care what they come out with next. MILs ~ cant stand them, cant shoot them hey!

skintchick

My HV told me they don't worry about walking till a child is 2, so 16 months is not worryingly late although the average is just over 1 year.

I didn;t crawl, or cruise, just sat on my (chubby) bottom till I was 17 months! Then I got up and walked. I have 'dodgy' hips which work slightly differently to normal ones, this manifests as knee pain, although not excessive and I can usually walk without pain or clicking.

I have been told that not crawling is a sign of hip problems and DD was screened early but is allegedly fine. i say allegedly as she stands exactly like I do so I think her hips are like mine, but you need a long leg X-ray to show it up and she's not had one of those I don;t think.

Anyway, I blather! Plenty of children do not walk till later, your HV won;t consider it an issue till at least 2, so although I know how keen we all are for children to hit those milestones, just let her do it at her own pace. She will get there eventually.

Torndao01

We have all been through the worry, and unluckly you will probably worry about talking and potty training the same way:-( I hate to say the worry over everything will continue always as your a parent:-)

You've done the right thing coming on here where people are able to reasure you. Try not to compare your little one to a couple of kids you know from playgroup, because there will always be a child thats done something really early or is a better eater, sleeper etc.

Now for my little reassurance, DS talked really late even the HV was concerned, DS now 11 is gifted educationally (and never shuts up!). DD talked very early and has learning difficulities.

What Im trying to say is how late or early they reach these milestones, it is not an indication of how they are going to be as they grow up.

BitterAndTwisted

"Elimination communication" just means to me that mothers "catch" their children at the right time. Little ones are rarely physically developed enough at a year old to even be able to recognise a full bladder or bowel, never mind know what to do about it. Boys much later than girls.

No normal, healthy child I ever knew started school doubly incontinent but God knows I have known parents without number who have worried and obsessed about it. I'd save my energies for something rather more important. Like their emotional development

delain

My 18 month old had an allergic reaction last week and the docs wanted a wee sample. They didn't get one, she just couldn't get her little head round it! I think we'll try potty training in the summer but she'll be almost 2 then. I do think sometimes these 'clean and dry at 9 months' stories are just old folks trying to big themselves up because there's no one there to say 'yes but that's because you followed him around with a potty all day!'

My twins were getting on 2 before they walked and DD1 was 16 months.

Abbafan1972

OP - Sorry, I haven't read the whole thread, but does she have some kind of Walking toy to help her get the hang of it, like a pushalong pram or something?