I want a social life!!!

Dunroamin

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Because it has the word 'social' in it. Social means interaction. So if it's a solo experience, it's not social.

But "social" doesn't have to be in a group, it could be one to one. Lots of people don't socialise in groups but with individual friends.

Chaos_Monkey

Hi, S_J

I've been in a similar situation to yourself, but have recently met new people by going along to a local craft shop's 'Craft Evening' - it's only once a month, but I have met lots of people through it of varying ages and through one or two of them, heard about other craft and non-craft events/opportunities and have met up with a hanful of people away from the group setting. I went to a weekly craft club in the UK before we left, too, and found that a good way to meet other people. Except I wasn't very good at going because I kept forgetting it was on! But, I did meet a now very good friend via the craft hostess, so it's not just the immediate people you meet that are potential friends.

There are lots of different crafts out there, and local colleges and shops often run taster sessions, as well as more regular classes/groups. It's just a matter of finding them (if you're interested!).

I have to agree with another poster (sorry, can't remember who) about joining a gym to 'meet people'....in all the years I've been a member of various gyms, I've never got much further in conversation than ''are you finished with that?'' or ''that was a hard class!''. :rotfl:

My other friend finding failsafe is scuba diving.....but you need a helluva lot more than a spare hour or so to make that work. And it certainly ain't :money:!

Anyway, hope you find something you find interesting soon

CM

FBaby

I had to smile when I read your post because all I ever crave is peaceful quiet time for myself and feel guilty that I don't go out enough! Last night, I was on my own (partner of three years too away for the week, children at their dad) and even though I could have make it an opportunity to go out, all I wanted to do was enjoy the peace and quiet!!

I do know what you mean about socialising with your partner's friends and not being the same than your own friends though. We do tend to socialise with my partner's friends only because they are a group who all know each other and have much time in their hands and so always organising things whereas my friends don't know each other and don't really operate in groups as such and like me, are tired most of the time and don't socialise so much. I do wish sometimes my friends were like my partner's.

Saying that, having moved to a new town a year ago (but still close enough to see my other friends therefore not desperate to make new friends) I have managed to make new ones. The main place is the sport club we are members off. It is a very pleasant club, not full of snoty sports obsessed people who looked down to those who are not so keen. I have started to take on classes, mainly zumba (way more fun) and have really enjoyed them. As usual, it did take about 2 months going before I started to say hello to the regulars, and another 3 months to actually talking properly and outside of the class.

What you need is to look at local clubs, details of which you can probably find at the council, sporting clubs (who also provide details of non sporting activities), local website etc... There are many activities that don't require you to join every time. How about asking your partner's friend's partners? Even if you are not very close to them, they could tell you about places you might meet new people?

To be fair, I have found that the best way to get to know new people, finding out about what is happening etc... is via my children. Meeting new parents, finding out about local activities from prospectus they bring back from school, children activities...which of course is not helpful at all if you don't have children!!!

System

TBH I'm not that sporty! I tend to view gym / classes etc as a solo activity, for my own leisure. Plus it's a bit hard to talk to someone when you're out of breath or trying to get changed afterwards!:D

Not always so! I did 12 months at the gym, made a load of new friends and was asked out to all sorts of social functions from different people that had nothing to do with keeping fit. Not that i took them up on the invitations but it was nice being asked (to most of them anyway).

samuelthomson240

you could try meetup in your area ive had some nice times and some bad experiences through it . its free to join lots of groups for different interests and if you dont like it within reason theres no hassle leaving .

prosaver

Sensible_Jess wrote: »

I found Dunroamin's post a helpful one, and other people might too.

It may not be a 'social group activity' but it struck a chord as I'm not able to give a pet a loving home at present. I've thought about volunteering at a shelter but I was put off as I wouldn't be able to offer my time on a regular basis. Thanks to the post here, I've found that Cat's protection and a local dogs charity are looking for volunteers and I've contacted them to find out more.

Is it too hard follow forum etiquette and be nice to all moneysavers?

why dont you pretend to be a vegatrian and join a animal rights group, there dead chatty.
seriously
i joined a athletics club and i always felt on the side line, after a few months, someone new joined, so i started being matey with him, and then someone else joined a few weeks later and we accepted him in our small group.This happen a few times.
We use to have a good laugh and joke about the snobs who ignored us and thought they owed the club ,
The funny thing is, they started to come over for chats and after a while,we were one big happy family. ive left now but it was a strange life expreince at the least.
are you local? this is a club for local people..nothing for you here!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EAZlFF5IXwY

Sambucus_Nigra

Dunroamin wrote: »

But "social" doesn't have to be in a group, it could be one to one. Lots of people don't socialise in groups but with individual friends.

One-to-one cat cuddlng?

Moominmamma

Just thought I'd post this link for all you wannabe dog walkers out there. Hope it helps someone. And someone's dog


http://www.cinnamon.org.uk/volunteers/

findingmyownway

I second 'City Socialising' as mentioned above.

Also, I know you say you're not sporty but have you tried British Military Fitness? I know you might think its for super fit types, but honestly its not. They have a beginners group suitable for EVERYONE. It prides itself on being much friendler than typical gym/aerobics classes - I have met lots of friends there and a couple of them have become very close friends. No judgement on couples v singles either.

melissalane

Hi Jess

Join Spice, it changed my social life for the better it covers the whole of the uk and offers activities from meals out to bungee jumps and everying in between as well as fab holidays. send me a message if you want to know anymore. i am a genuine member and proud to introduce as many people as i can to how fab spice is -