I want a social life!!!

arbrighton

Sensible_Jess wrote: »

TBH I'm not that sporty! I tend to view gym / classes etc as a solo activity, for my own leisure. Plus it's a bit hard to talk to someone when you're out of breath or trying to get changed afterwards!:D

Joking aside, clubs also tend to need that 'weekly regular commitment' which I understand but can't realistically offer.

I know you said you're not particularly sporty, but have you considered rowing? There are now many clubs who have a 'recreational' section, thanks to a funding scheme from British Rowing, where you have some lessons in a more stable boat, then sign up and go out when you feel you want to.
I row, admittedly in a fairly full on and competitive way, but the people who I now consider my best friends and miss dearly after moving were made there. And we did also go out/ do social things, not just on the water

suki1001

Yes, it sounds daft, as you did say i'm not sporty, but hear me out.
About 2 years ago, I joined a women's running group. I have friends already, but I went on my own.
I had never run before and I didn't think I would be able to do it. We had a laugh and people used to just talk all the way round. It was full of people who were all sorts of different shapes and sizes and different abilities. It was fun and after a couple of weeks I could run and after about 6 weeks I could run without stopping. About 5 months later I did my first 10k,. You do not need to be a sporty type, just find a group that matches your ability, i.e beginners.

Plus, even if you didn't mke friends, there are points when you're running that you feel amazing and like you could take on the world, because all your endorphines are pumping around, which is why it can be addictive.

I think the reason why sport has been suggested is because you don't just get over 60's going, you get a good mix. It isn't full of sporty types. I would avoid the gym or exersize classes because people go in groups or the gym is an individual thing.

However, things like rowing, running, netball tend to get people going on their own, but they won't probably be single. You don't have to go every week, you'll find everyone has other commitments.

Carl31

You anywhere near brighton? I have a friend in a similar boat, she attends this social club thing where they all meet up, purely for the social aspect.

She would also appreciate the company I think

Dunroamin

pendulum wrote: »

Surely that doesn't literally involve people cuddling cats?
I can't think of anything sadder than someone taking up cat cuddling to fix a lack of social life. It's tragic.

What a strange (and rather rude) thing to say. Anywhere you meet likeminded people will broaden your social horizens.

prosaver

i dont like cats
i would like to join a club patting dogs club though, as any one heard about any sort of thing?

Sambucus_Nigra

Dunroamin wrote: »

What a strange (and rather rude) thing to say. Anywhere you meet likeminded people will broaden your social horizens.

Yeah - I'm not sure that cat cuddling is really a group activity though. Surely it's for the more solitary cat-fan?

Sambucus_Nigra

prosaver wrote: »

i dont like cats
i would like to join a club patting dogs club though, as any one heard about any sort of thing?

Hey - dogs like a cuddle too...don't they?

Dunroamin

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Yeah - I'm not sure that cat cuddling is really a group activity though. Surely it's for the more solitary cat-fan?

Why does a social life have to be a group activity though?

Sensible_Jess

Thanks all for the helpful suggestions, very welcome.

Not near Brighton.... Would your friend mind the details of her club being given out on a public forum? It may be of interest to others on here.

Running is my idea of hell! - OH runs a lot and we did entertain ideas of short runs together but he's (a) very fit (think Marathon running) and (b) competitive. So it's best for our relationship to not go there :rotfl:
It might be useful for someone else reading this thread though!

I used to canoe a bit - like you said it was just as and when with no regular commitment. Understandably, it's easy to find like minded people doing the same! I haven't found anywhere similar down here (yet). Rowing is something I'll look up as an alternative, thank you.


S_J

Gigervamp

In Japan they have cat cafes where you can have a cuddle with a cat whilst having your coffee. You can also rent dogs. I think it's a great idea!