One of my sons went to prison today... I'm sad but I'm glad

momimgay

robster1964 wrote: »

I went into a coffee shop, ordered a coffee and the weakest pre rolled cigarette.... I was totally out of it, hallucinating and in a different world for a couple of hours....

It remains to this day the worst moments of my life, something," I will never do again...

Why would someone do that to theirselves? Losing control? I will never understand?

Oh I don't know, ask all those people who use it as a form of pain relief or for other Medical Ailments .

gingin_2

momimgay wrote: »

What an odd thing to say.

I've only looked briefly but the posting style seems to be different to that of other posts they have made .... it all seems very odd to me.

19lottie82

Sadly, a lot of the time, after young men have been in prison it is less of a deterent that when they had no experience of it.

You get a cooked breakfast and a paper of your choice, every morning, get access to a gym, TV in your cell with pay channel football and don't have to worry about paying rent / bills!

I know 2 people that have been to prison and they both describe it as "not too bad" and "pretty stress free", as long as don't go looking for trouble and have no known enemies when you go in.

I think if we took a more "boot camp" approach to prison sentences, making them shorter, but sharper, it would cure reoffending rates.

euronorris

Weed does not cause hallucinations. That's like saying having a small glass of wine causes hallucinations. Neither are that kind of drug. They work differently.

So...IF the OP really hallucinated, there must have been something else in the joint, or she was on other medication maybe.

Violetta_2

euronorris wrote: »

Weed does not cause hallucinations. That's like saying having a small glass of wine causes hallucinations. Neither are that kind of drug. They work differently.

So...IF the OP really hallucinated, there must have been something else in the joint, or she was on other medication maybe.

Not that I would know personally but -Marijuana, or Cannabis, can cause hallucinations in higher doses. However, everyone does not hallucinate from it. Easier to do that if you eat it,not really advised though.

agadoop

Hi, im a long time lurker usually looking the old money saving tips!, but I felt I had to reply to your post. I raised the most lovely caring considerate son someone me and oh where proud of. We instilled in him values and the importance of respect to other people, we also taught him the importance of himself, he was never academically smart but we showed him that hard work reaped its rewards that if he tried hard enough he could do any trade he wanted from he was 13 he had a dog walking run, paper round and general oddjobs from the community ie gardening. When he left school he went to tec to start his training for painting and decorating and then it started.

He fell in with a group of lads I can't blame these boys as they where all good once as well and the cannibis came into my family:(and it has been a living hell since, he has stolen jewellery and money on me and oh, he stole all my medication, he stole my mums medication and purse. He has disappeared for days on end fiending on drugs, he has sold every thing he owned and cherished his playstation, xbox, games, 2 mobile phones his room is bare, he had a small inheritance £6000 gone in 3 weeks:eek:he is 6'4 and weighs 9'8. Worst of all he has became a monster I have took him to countless dr's, he was offered councilling but he doesn't want to stop cannabis its his life. So I made the most difficult decision of my life, following the dr's advice I put him out of the house he told me I was enabling his addiction and he has to fall flat on his face for him to attempt to recover. He broke into my house when I was out at work and stole anything he could sell for drugs, so I got him arrested it was the most agonising thing I have ever done, after inital questioning and where he admitted what he done the police advised me to drop the charges as he had no police record and if he ever cleaned himself up a burgalary charge would hinder any future employment. It really was a double edged sword. He promised he would change and I let him back home he couldn't even stay clean for one day! he went on another bender and kicked my double glazed door clean of its hinges:eek:and caused £500 of damage to my car. I have put him back out and he will stay out because I as his mother refuse to watch my son killing himself in front of my eyes. I will not be his safety net, and I will not burn with him, I will not catch him when he falls, he needs to fall alone and fall hard! but i will always love him and I will welcome him home the day he cleans up his addiction, mean while I pass my once beautiful son on the street looking like a homeless tramp unwashed, emanicipated and worst of all nothing in his eyes, that light has went out.

So please don't let your son manipulate you because thats what they do best, they'll spin you any line knowing that we as parents want more than anything to believe them, we can't help them only they can do that.

I would like to say my son knows he can come home whenever he is clean the choice is his!.

joop

agadoop - hugs to you x.

agadoop

joop - thank you x

I was just thinking its strange the things you miss doing together, simple things like watching a dvd or the way he used to bounce in full of the joys of life and bounce onto the sofa to watch telly, I can understand where Robster is coming from cause when their addicts prison can be a relief, tonight I don't know where my son is just hope hes safe x

BigBlackcat

Agadoop, I'm so sorry about your son, but you have given OP some excellent advice in dealing with a son who has gone off the rails. Sometimes you just have to be tough for their own good, but, as a parent, I can understand the pain that must cause you. I do hope your son can turn his life around, for himself, and for you.

Caroline_a

It's a well known fact that the cannabis sold today is far stronger than what used to be sold. I have seen first hand how it can change people, in two particular cases it altered their mental state and one became a diagnosed schizophrenic from someone who had been a happy, bright university student. She became morose, dull and has been told she will be on medication for the foreseeable future. Additionally the myth that it is non-addictive keeps being trotted out, unfortunately the strong stuff certainly is - I have worked with people who admitted as much, and desperately wanted to get off it. There are no patches for cannabis.

Adagoop - I feel for you, but you are stronger than you think. OP, while you are helping your son he has no need to help himself. Like any addict the initial help has to come from within, you can do very little, the addict has to be strong enough and motivated enough to break free.