One of my sons went to prison today... I'm sad but I'm glad

koalamummy

I may have repeated it on this board a few times as my field is addictions and sadly it is one of our phrases

robster1964

One thing I have done in this journey with our J... Is to decide to never sell him out no matter what!

I will never agree with the route he has taken..... I will continually tel him... But I will never sell my boy out... He will always have me, I will always be his safety net, if my boy burns, I,'ll burn with him?

Mupette

robster1964 wrote: »

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He's my youngest boy. Brought up exactly the same as his sisters, brothers.... Around 11 he changed from the most adorable caring boy, into someone we didn't recognise. Angry, violent, destructive, no respect. We did our utmost to help & understand etc etc

We got him his own house when he was 16, and his dad provided him with loads of opportunities to work, but he chose to spend his time with people who smoked weed and didn't work.

He met a girl and they had a baby.... But the relationship is so aggressive and dysfunctional that it's impossible for us to se our grandchild and my boy is driven crazy by his now ex girlfriends efforts to keep him away from their daughter... Although I can't blame her, some of the stuff that has gone on... Saying that, she is as outrageous as him, some of the stuff that girl has done, is disgustingly cruel and vengeful.

He's in prison for not taking care of something, he should have done community service for. He ignored it and went up in front of a judge 6 times...

I am glad that they have laid the law down on him, they should not have given him 6 chances.. But I am sad that, he has turned out so different from all my other kids and I feel I must have failed him in some way..

Rant over.... Just expressing my thoughts..
Thanks for listening.
Robster x

I've not read the other posts, just wanted to say

It's not your fault, he is an adult now and has to take responsibility for his actions.

robster1964

Thanks for your input guys, tonight......

I really don't think I will rest with our J Locked up xxxx

robster1964

Mupette wrote: »

I've not read the other posts, just wanted to say

It's not your fault, he is an adult now and has to take responsibility for his actions.

I don't really think it my fault? But I love my boy! X

getzls

robster1964 wrote: »

Lol, I hope... However, he is a very aggressive, big scary, muscular guy... He has never been in prison before, but when he rang me, he said mother, don't worry, I've already got people eating out of my hand....there's the weak and there's a few bullies... And I'm taking care of the bullies...

Dosen't sound as if Prison is going to change him, at least not this time. He will get out, he will go back in. So he's taking care of the bullies? There's always one somewhere that will take care of him. The sooner the better i think.

property.advert

getzls wrote: »

Dosen't sound as if Prison is going to change him, at least not this time. He will get out, he will go back in. So he's taking care of the bullies? There's always one somewhere that will take care of him. The sooner the better i think.

I agree.

I'm glad he is in prison as well. Personally I think he should stay there. He is a bully, violent and threatening and has never contributed one iota to society, yet he has produced offspring who are undoubtedly a further drain on society and now he is costing thousands of pounds a week in fees to keep society protected from him.

You say all your kids smoke illegal drugs. Great example to everyone they are. Just how much of their drug money comes from state benefits ?

faerie~spangles

robster1964 wrote: »

One thing I have done in this journey with our J... Is to decide to never sell him out no matter what!

I will never agree with the route he has taken..... I will continually tel him... But I will never sell my boy out... He will always have me, I will always be his safety net, if my boy burns, I,'ll burn with him?

Really?!?!?

BigBlackcat

robster1964 wrote: »

Thanks for your input guys, tonight......

I really don't think I will rest with our J Locked up xxxx

Maybe you won't but the rest of us law abiding citizens will!

BigBlackcat

robster1964 wrote: »

One thing I have done in this journey with our J... Is to decide to never sell him out no matter what!

I will never agree with the route he has taken..... I will continually tel him... But I will never sell my boy out... He will always have me, I will always be his safety net, if my boy burns, I,'ll burn with him?

Then you are enabling his bad behaviour! You say that you don't like the path he has chosen yet you are talking about him on here like he's some kind of hero for "taking care of the bullies" and recognising the weak whilst in prison.

Quite frankly you and your family are coming across as a load of pot smoking chavs with no sense of morality.

"Even I say stuff about her, cos she's a witch sometime....... But r J no x "

And what kind of person would say this about ther child with a disability???