I think my 3 yr old nephew may be autistic...

Victoriahl

mummyroysof3 wrote: »

i can see it is a very difficult situation for you and tbh dont know what to suggest other than to hope that something gets noticed by his nursery..do you ever take him/pick him
up?

Hi- no I've never been over to his nursery- we tend to see them on weekends when we've arranged to go somewhere with the kids. I'm never over that way in the week, around picking up from nursery time, so I wouldn't have a chance to ask really.

I might just drop it into conversation with my SIL casually; ask how he's getting on at nursery, and see if anything's been mentioned at all...?

And in reply to the hearing/eyesight tests questions; I don't think he's had a specific one, but they both seem to be fine- I mean he doesn't appear to NOT be able to hear, he understands people and repeats things ok- it's more his whole demeanour in general that doesn't seem like an average boy of his age, if that makes sense?

shazmg

My daughter wasn't diagnosed with autism until a month before her 5th birthday. We were told time and time again they she was just developing at a slower pace. Once she was diagnosed her nursery were fantastic as they knew how to properly help and encourage her.

I have a friend with a 4 yr old son who is possible autistic but they are holding off on a diagnosis to see how he will cope in school. It makes me wonder if they are more wary of diagnosing children now.

meritaten

Nicki wrote: »

As quite a few of us are parents of kids on the autistic spectrum, I think you will find that we are all aware of how long the diagnosis process can take, and how long it also takes to get support put in place! That doesn't make it right however to bludgeon parents with a suspected diagnosis of autism for which they are not ready and not able to cope, with no clue on the part of the family member how to access this support or get a diagnosis either.

Not all local authorities have specialised educational provision for childen with autism, not all children with autism can have a place in specialist provision even with a diagnosis due to limitations on funding, and not all parents want their child to go to a special school and would rather try mainstream first. So a blanket statement that this child of whom you know nothing will experience HELLL in mainstream is unhelpful and scaremongering.

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Nicki - I havent BLUDGEONED anyone - in fact I advised the OP to go gently and mention hearing problems. which could be the case.

Your last paragraph is almost hysterical - I did mention that mainstream school can be hell for a child with undiagnosed autism. as was borne out by my own experiences with 3 grandchildren who were undiagnosed for years and how a swift diagnosis helped my nephew. It was meant to be HELPFUL to the OP. I realised when reading the thread later that the OP probably isnt going to say anything - which is her right and totally up to her.

I realise you have your OWN problems - don't take them out on me dear.

Nicki

Meritaten, I disagreed with your post, and said so and why. That doesn't make me hysterical, and certainly not more so than your post to which I was responding.

I was in no way "taking anything out on you" and have no idea where you got that idea. Nor do I really know what "my problems" are to which you refer, but can assure you that as I was taking nothing out on you, that they were in no way influencing what I wrote on this thread. My experience as a mum who has received this diagnosis about my child, and someone who now has a great number of friends with children with autism,with respect, give me as much background in this area as yours as a grandparent and aunt, and therefore any opinion I express is as valid as yours.

meritaten

Nicki wrote: »

Meritaten, I disagreed with your post, and said so and why. That doesn't make me hysterical, and certainly not more so than your post to which I was responding.

I was in no way "taking anything out on you" and have no idea where you got that idea. Nor do I really know what "my problems" are to which you refer, but can assure you that as I was taking nothing out on you, that they were in no way influencing what I wrote on this thread. My experience as a mum who has received this diagnosis about my child, and someone who now has a great number of friends with children with autism,with respect, give me as much background in this area as yours as a grandparent and aunt, and therefore any opinion I express is as valid as yours.

so why single out my post to disagree with?

I also have an honours degree in psychology with most of my studies in child education - because of my personal interest in children with SENs. But - I have read several of your posts in the past - and noted that you do not like being disagreed with.
I dont want this thread de-railed so wont post any more.

Nicki

meritaten wrote: »

so why single out my post to disagree with?

I quoted your post because it was the only one which made the point which I was disagreeing with, not because I was singling you out, or taking anything out on you.

I have no problem with people disagreeing with me. I don't take it personally and I don't descend into personal insults. Sometimes when someone disagrees with me, it changes my mind and I say so, and sometimes it doesn't and so I explain why it hasn't. It's all part of a to and fro conversation.

I am sorry if you are upset that I do not share your opinion on what the OP should do in this situation. But ultimately, it is up to OP to decide what is right. We can each only offer our own perspectives from our own life experiences as to what is the right course of action. I do not take it personally that you think differently to me, and I am somewhat baffled that you have taken it so personally that I think differently to you.

BigBlackcat

meritaten wrote: »

so why single out my post to disagree with?

I also have an honours degree in psychology with most of my studies in child education - because of my personal interest in children with SENs. But - I have read several of your posts in the past - and noted that you do not like being disagreed with.
I dont want this thread de-railed so wont post any more.

Wow, from your posts I would have never have guessed this:eek: