Why do people start arguments?

seven-day-weekend

GracieP wrote: »

Seems pretty obvious to me that your mother actually wants to watch the soaps but doesn't want to admit it. She's sitting there at 7.25pm wondering how Ken and Deirdre's latest marital crisis is going to go down but doesn't want to actually admit it. So she says to you, 'Oh I guess you'll be wanting to watch this crap then! Humph!' And switches on ITV, getting to have the best of both worlds by watching a programme she enjoys but still being able to tell herself that she's better than someone who watches such lowbrow television.

I was going to post that myself. SHE wants to watch the soaps but is ashamed to admit it because she's 'not the sort of person who likes soaps'.

I watched Jeremy Kyle for a while. I told myself it was because it was fascinating to see how people like that ticked (I didn't , and still don't, know anyone like the people who appear on the show), but if I was honest it was because I was enjoying watching some car crash TV. I've stopped watching it now.

People make excuses for enjoying things they are ashamed of/embarrassed about. That's what the OP's mum is doing.

My name is Belinda and I'm a Daily Mail reader..........

LisaB85

chiefgoobster wrote: »

Have you thought about doing an evening college course ? If you are unemployed, maybe it would be free or cost very little.

I completed a course a few months ago which I started while working, it is a qual that employers like but hasn't done much good as there are people with that an more.

There is a course I want to do but it doesn't start until April, it is a short course and JSA doesn't get you free courses anymore as I checked so will see what happens.

LisaB85

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I was going to post that myself. SHE wants to watch the soaps but is ashamed to admit it because she's 'not the sort of person who likes soaps'.

I watched Jeremy Kyle for a while. I told myself it was because it was fascinating to see how people like that ticked (I didn't , and still don't, know anyone like the people who appear on the show), but if I was honest it was because I was enjoying watching some car crash TV. I've stopped watching it now.

People make excuses for enjoying things they are ashamed of/embarrassed about. That's what the OP's mum is doing.

My name is Belinda and I'm a Daily Mail reader..........

I dunno, maybe she gets bored as she hasn't worked since I was born and now she can't work due to physical and mental ill health I know I get bored and I do things to occupy myself such a vol work etc.

I do think she is stuck in a rut, although my step dad offers to do stuff in the evening but she refuses so he goes to his mates alone which she moans about but then moans when he is at home wanting him to go out.

My sister is round her boyfriends house 4 days/nights a week.

Leaving me to the be one who is around to cop her frustration, she sent a text saying 'sorry' about 5 min after I went upstairs. I could stay upstairs all the time but then that is just ignorant in my eyes.

Her mum, sister etc all say she is pushing people away which she will if she doesn't get help and drag herself out of the rut because they don't want to deal with the moaning and negativity either as things aren't perfect for anyone. The have been times when she has mentioned she 'would be better off on her own' then will admit to others she would have been dead long ago if it wasn't for us.

She needs help changing her mental health for the better, she had councilor but stopped going after 2 sessions, I know it is hard not to get in a rut I wake up sometimes at 730am and wonder why I'm awake as I've nothing to do apart from job search for a while so when I can I get out and do things while she sits in her chair munching, doing a puzzle book or reading.

I do try to understand that she may not always be thinking right but I am struggling slightly with my mental health due to not being able to find work and she is making it hard for me too at times.