rainbow bridge - an anti post - please don't read if that'll upset you

vicx

Humphrey10 wrote: »

Exactly.
My dog was put down a few weeks ago, I held her as she died.
I wanted to post here about it.
But I couldn't, because I would get rainbow bridge posts.

Yes you could post here. If the only thing that was stopping you posting here was the Rainbow Bridge comments then you could have simply stated in your thread that you do not wish to read any posts regarding Rainbow Bridge. Not difficult really.

lostinrates

Humphrey10 wrote: »

Exactly.
My dog was put down a few weeks ago, I held her as she died.
I wanted to post here about it.
But I couldn't, because I would get rainbow bridge posts.

I am sorry humphrey, how are you doing now?

The house always feels so...quiet, even if you have others, or i find it so.

What was she like? Fwiw, holding them at the end is a huge act of love. My dh finds it amazing how i don't break down but cuddle and smile and talk and then five minutes afterwards the floodgates open...

Person_one

heretolearn wrote: »

I think your comment about dead mums the most offensive thing on this thread - this thread is discussing dead pets, which while upsetting, isn't quite on the same scale as someone's mum dying.

Depends on the dog and the mum, frankly.

Fridaycat

Although I was (and still am!) a defender of RB early on in this thread, I am glad that the subject has been raised and debated - so thank you heretolearn

I had no idea that people felt so strongly against it, and instead I previously viewed it as a harmless sentiment to, lets face it, people who are strangers to me and who's pets I did not know. To me it is a comfort; to many others it clearly is not.

So I for one will therefore learn from this and try not to mention the Bridge in future posts (though forgive me if I forget!).

I still think, though, if you are really anti it, you should of course still post of your loss if you wish to share, but please add a line as already suggested along the lines of "no RB posts please". Then everyone's wishes can be respected at what is a very difficult and emotional time.

lostinrates

Fridaycat wrote: »

Although I was (and still am!) a defender of RB early on in this thread, I am glad that the subject has been raised and debated - so thank you heretolearn

I had no idea that people felt so strongly against it, and instead I previously viewed it as a harmless sentiment to, lets face it, people who are strangers to me and who's pets I did not know. To me it is a comfort; to many others it clearly is not.

So I for one will therefore learn from this and try not to mention the Bridge in future posts (though forgive me if I forget!).

I still think, though, if you are really anti it, you should of course still post of your loss if you wish to share, but please add a line as already suggested along the lines of "no RB posts please". Then everyone's wishes can be respected at what is a very difficult and emotional time.

Tahnk you.

It is really good to know thaty while some of us can appreciate it helps someone, like you!, some one who it helps can appreciate it doesn't help people like me!

I think its a wise suggestion, those who have said to say 'no rb posts'. Tbh, i always wonder if it will spark a discussion then about the thing,..much as posts with caveats elsewhere always then focus on the bit that has been asked to be resevred! So i probably still would not, and even when raw i don't really want to offend anyone who does find the thing meaningful.

It means a lot to me at least that some one is prepared to accept that there is difference here...not right or worng, but difference.

dawnie1972

Careful_with_that_Axe wrote: »

Are you serious? You are comparing the grief at the loss of a dog to the tragedy of having a child die?
I sincerely hope you aren't so insensitive as to say that to a bereaved parent - "I know how you feel, I lost one of my dogs". !!!!!!.

Yes you're damn right i'm serious!! Are you saying that the grief of losing a child is different to losing a dog - have you ever lost a dog? FOr me it would be no different!

shellsuit

dawnie1972 wrote: »

Yes you're damn right i'm serious!! Are you saying that the grief of losing a child is different to losing a dog - have you ever lost a dog? FOr me it would be no different!

How would you know if you don't have children?

Ask someone who has lost both a child and a dog and see what they say.

dizziblonde

HelenYorkshire wrote: »

Anyway, if there were a canine "heaven" it would be full of sheep to round up

Nope it would be full of squirrels... without trees for them to cheat and run away up! We ain't interested in sheep... squirrels - hell yeah!

vicx

Careful_with_that_Axe wrote: »

Are you serious? You are comparing the grief at the loss of a dog to the tragedy of having a child die?
I sincerely hope you aren't so insensitive as to say that to a bereaved parent - "I know how you feel, I lost one of my dogs". !!!!!!.

I think you are taking it a bit too far with that comment.

I am sure what Dawnie mean's is that her dogs mean the world to her and she would love them as much as her own children. As a dog owner I can understand how we can become attached to them and treat them like babies, they are part of the family - the same as our children, siblings and parents so it's only natural that we take it bad when their time comes.

Those who don't own pets or don't like them will never understand the pain of losing one. Some will say 'it was only a dog, get another one'. They can't easily be replaced, just like our family could never be replaced.