rainbow bridge - an anti post - please don't read if that'll upset you

rising_from_the_ashes

I know that everyone is different and different things help us all cope.

To me, it's always been a way of expressing the feeling of loss and tbh some people have lost their pets in horrific circumstances and if trying to imagine a lovely quiet peaceful place can remove the horrific pictures going on in your mind for even a second, it's worthwhile.

If people don't want others to talk about RB if their pets passes - then that's absolutely fine too .... however, I would say that if you're posting a "loss" on a pets forum / board, then it may be worth putting a comment about not wanting RB comments in your post - or I'm afraid you will inevitably get them.

dizziblonde

I tend to view it as somewhat twee but well-intentioned, smile politely and move on. I also tend to view the comments about an animal being "at the bridge" as a figure of speech and polite way of saying dead - similar to "passed away" and other such things. If some people get comfort from it - then so be it.

I've got similar feelings to the "angel mummies" stuff surrounding miscarriage as well - it doesn't sit personally very comfortably with me, but I respect that it helps some and just keep me gob shut basically.

zaksmum

dizziblonde wrote: »

I tend to view it as somewhat twee but well-intentioned, smile politely and move on. I also tend to view the comments about an animal being "at the bridge" as a figure of speech and polite way of saying dead - similar to "passed away" and other such things. If some people get comfort from it - then so be it.

I've got similar feelings to the "angel mummies" stuff surrounding miscarriage as well - it doesn't sit personally very comfortably with me, but I respect that it helps some and just keep me gob shut basically.

That's the best way if you personally don't believe in it. Show respect for those who do find it helpful and keep any negative opinions to yourself...live and let live.

harmony802005

I have never heard of rainbow bridge before but isn't it up to everyone in what thay believe and no one should judge that,I myself have lost 4 angel babies nd I can never be a mum ever my fur babies are my children and some ppl think it's stupid but I don't care thay are my children and I love them so much and I know when i die my angel babies and my fur babies and everyone I have ever lost will be there and it will be so amazing,I know thay are all there now and it's nothing to do with how I grieve as I have never grieved and don't know how to as a loss to me is so very big I truely never get over it,I just know when it's time I will see them all again and I can't wait x

aliasojo

rising_from_the_ashes wrote: »

To me, it's always been a way of expressing the feeling of loss and tbh some people have lost their pets in horrific circumstances and if trying to imagine a lovely quiet peaceful place can remove the horrific pictures going on in your mind for even a second, it's worthwhile.

I love the picture that RB stuff evokes and the sentiment behind it, it's just the words that make me sad.

I'd have to say 'can you just say 'that place' and I'll know what you mean, cos if you say the whole rainbow bridge thing I'll be in floods. :rotfl:

Mrs_Huggett

The great art critic and slave of many dogs Brian Sewell wrote the following article, it brings me to tears still. http://www.thisislondon.co.uk/standard/article-23729422-jack---the-whippet-who-learned-how-to-be-a-dog-at-last.do

System

I dont think ive ever managed to read through it to the end. I could have done before i had my girls but just the thought of them not being here anymore is enough to get me bleary eyed and tearful.

purple.sarah

aliasojo wrote: »

I agree with you. Every single time I read that bridge thing I am in tears, I have wet eyes just reading purple.sarah's post above. I usually try to skip over those posts without reading them.

I am seriously wussy and I already know that if anyone was to post that when my mutt dies, it will make me much sadder. It's like listening to sad songs when you and a boyfriend break up. It makes you worse. :undecided

However I could never say anything for fear of offending the person who posted it, clearly they care and are showing a kindness and support.

I believe we will meet up again, but the bridge thing just makes me sad.

Sorry, didn't mean to make you cry!

sazzybum

Mrs_Huggett wrote: »

The great art critic and slave of many dogs Brian Sewell wrote the following article, it brings me to tears still. http://www.thisislondon.co.uk/standard/article-23729422-jack---the-whippet-who-learned-how-to-be-a-dog-at-last.do

Oh Lordy. Sniffling here.:(

lostinrates

Mrs_Huggett wrote: »

The great art critic and slave of many dogs Brian Sewell wrote the following article, it brings me to tears still. http://www.thisislondon.co.uk/standard/article-23729422-jack---the-whippet-who-learned-how-to-be-a-dog-at-last.do

And it is something i can more readily identify with. The sentiment is true, not twee or trite, and the sincerity is deep and honest, not showy and gaudy. And its well written.

If so eone wrote or posted something like that about one of my loved creatures i would be emotional and sad in a far more positive way.

Who cannot love jack a little on reading that?