rainbow bridge - an anti post - please don't read if that'll upset you

pulliptears

You know what?

Anything that helps with my grief, anything that makes me think that my little boy fought and fought and is now at peace somewhere, anything that gives myself and my family just a tiny piece of sunshine in what is an exceptionally difficult time cannot be a bad thing.

pug_in_a_bed

I find it a bit twee but each to their own

Has anyone read The Lovely Bones, the bit in it where the young girl is reunited with her dog in heaven is a real tear jerker!

zaksmum

Mrs_Huggett wrote: »

The great art critic and slave of many dogs Brian Sewell wrote the following article, it brings me to tears still. http://www.thisislondon.co.uk/standard/article-23729422-jack---the-whippet-who-learned-how-to-be-a-dog-at-last.do

That's just so heartbreaking. I think all of us have endured the pain of losing a beloved pet and it hurts in a way you would never expect.

So anything at all that comforts or consoles must be helpful, no matter how much scorn some people choose to pour on it...it's not hurting anyone so I don't see the problem.

samanthag

Before posting on this board when my cat biscuit died a couple of weeks ago i had never heard of rainbow bridge
but after all the comments i recieved about it i thought i would ake a look and i have to say it did really give me some comfort and i really hope that my precious boy is there playing with all the other cats and having fun as this is the only thing that gives me some comfort and after having him in our lives for 15 years i miss him so much ....... there is no harm in people wanting to think that their beloved pets are in a happier place xxx

mummyoftwomonkeys

well someone posted it to me when My dog died and of cause I don't believe maggie is in such a place but I still found it a comfort to read it and It would be nice if I got to see her again one day. If it doesn't do anything for you then fine but why come on here moaning about it? I was in a bad place when I lost her and any comfort is a help.

lostinrates

mummyoftwomonkeys wrote: »

well someone posted it to me when My dog died and of cause I don't believe maggie is in such a place but I still found it a comfort to read it and It would be nice if I got to see her again one day. If it doesn't do anything for you then fine but why come on here moaning about it? I was in a bad place when I lost her and any comfort is a help.

I am sorry about your dog.

This thread gave me the comfort to feel less weird in my grief for my animals and learnign i am not the only one who finds rainbow bridge makes them feel worse or uncomfortable.

The almost guilty sharing of dislike for rb is a comfort and a help, so surely its fair to award those of us who feel differently this outlet, so long as we are similarly understanding of the rainbow bridge threads?



I too would love to see my beloveds one day again. As i type two of my beloveds are with me, the cats, who are snuggly and clingy because i was out and they missed me. Thinking about a time when they will not be here makes me feel ...indescribably dreadful...hollow, ill. I do honestly understand the loss of an animal, i have felt it too often. I am certain i will feel it this year.

heretolearn_2

Van Man, I'm sorry for your pain if you are grieving at the moment.

But you probably should have paid attention to the title and first line of this thread, which I carefully set up so that some of us could discuss this idea and our sentiments in a place totally separate from anyone who might be hurt by it due to their current circumstances.

I think your comment about dead mums the most offensive thing on this thread - this thread is discussing dead pets, which while upsetting, isn't quite on the same scale as someone's mum dying. My mum is fine, thank you for asking and not wishing her dead or anything, but how do you know someone else reading this hasn't just lost their mother and you have now upset them terribly. Seeing as I didn't think to include a warning about don't read this thread if you will be upset by rotting parents comments...not realising anyone would be so crass as to post something like that.

If you were genuinely interested in what do I think happens to us, and our animals, then I would tell you that I do think that our bodies just break down and there is no soul to carry on. Physically though, we just go back into the great cycle of everything, and our atoms that came from stars and trees and mountains and water etc etc etc go back again. I was part of the big bang that formed the universe. Who knows what else I will be part of. This is all a matter of fact. I find the thought of that comforting and quite exciting in a way. Now you can all take the mick out of me for sounding like an old hippy, I don't mind :-)

If other people want to believe in a spiritual element to life, so be it, no skin off my nose. This thread was not a discussion on 'is there an afterlife' but on a new take on it for pets that is becoming increasingly prominent but raises mixed feelings and responses, not just from me. Personally I think it is rude to push your spiritual beliefs on others, which is why the rainbow thread comments on threads for people who don't mention it themselves, make me uncomfortable. A lot of posters here have said they don't want these comments made to them. Believe what you like, but don't push it on other people. I have never forced my beliefs on any person grieving for anyone or anything, human or animal. I just offer them my simple and honest sympathy.

Humphrey10

blossomhill wrote: »

And this thread is full of those sad distressed people who have lost a very dear friend and admit here that RB makes them feel worse - no repsite or consolation, it makes them feel worse when they are already distressed
This thread is not about those people - we are those people

Exactly.
My dog was put down a few weeks ago, I held her as she died.
I wanted to post here about it.
But I couldn't, because I would get rainbow bridge posts.

HelenYorkshire

Thank you for braving the wrath of rainbow bridge....

Of course I'm not going to trample all over someone else's thread and posts.

But I find it far too...insincere? Sentimental? Twee? Saccharine? I can't quite articulate why it really gets under my skin.
Same as human religion really - I won't make a fuss in anyone's funeral service, but it really grates when someone tells me "so-and-so is in a better place"*. Um, no. He's in a box in the ground. As will I be, as will my dog be, as my many gerbils have been before.

Rainbow Bridge is "spreading" because people are too nice to say "oh for chrissake..." when it is mentioned (quite rightly too).

Anyway, if there were a canine "heaven" it would be full of sheep to round up




*referring specifically to a friend of mine, not someone they're connected with

Careful_with_that_Axe

dawnie1972 wrote: »

I refrained from posting earlier as you were begging for comments but i find your post totally I've been a dog owner for 9.5yrs, i have no children, i dont "do" children so in a way my dogs are my babies and if i were to lose one of them to me it would feel the same as losing one of my children. We dont know if there is life after death, we dont know where humans or animals go when they leave this life but if by believing in spirit, rainbow bridge or whatever it gives that person some comfort then where is the harm in it.

Are you serious? You are comparing the grief at the loss of a dog to the tragedy of having a child die?
I sincerely hope you aren't so insensitive as to say that to a bereaved parent - "I know how you feel, I lost one of my dogs". !!!!!!.