Daydream thread continues.....

Itismehonest

alfie_1 wrote: »

hi all,

i have drawn the conclusion that the miserable greedy people in this world end up with miserable lives.

:rotfl: OK choille, Dave? That puts us in our place

alfie_1 wrote: »

i have a very wealthy friend who whilst we were sat poolside at thier villa in majorca said to me "i envy you your life... everything you have is by your own perseverance and you enjoy fully what you DO have"...i said "but you have such beautifull things", she said " money does not buy you happiness, it just fills spaces" i was quite surprised as they both started at the bottom and earnt thier money. but she said it just gives you false friends who all want something in the end from you....people who think they can be taken for a ride and people who think they shouldnt have what they have.. we get on well cos i never ask for anything, her friendship is all.

She's absolutely right. Although in my experience it isn't friends that are a problem. If you've chosen friends wisely they usually stay friends whatever happens. It's the things you have less say over that beat you down in the end - ruddy bureaucracy, tin god jobsworths & every T,D & H who sees you as a way to make an easy few quid extra on the basis that "They can afford it".

rhiwfield

Alf, you havent got a selfish bone in your body!

Not having enough money to have life's basics, food, good health care, roof over head etc can make you miserable. But time and time again I see unhappy rich people who still feel they havent enough money and dont enjoy their pampered lives.

After all, if they equate wealth with worth, how can they ever be sure that friends are friends?

rhiwfield

AAAAAgh!!

For 3 weeks I've been trying to find out what the courier has done with a parcel I sent. Hanging onto the telephone, emailing, promised responses never made :mad:

So today e-mailed the CEO with a copy to the registered address. I'll up ante to small claims court quite quickly if they continue to ignore me.

Why oh why cant they just deal with it??

Itismehonest

Cos people nowadays only seem to go to work to get paid not necessarily to do a job & seldom, if ever, to provide a service.

It's bad enough with private companies but, when it comes to the public sector & their contractors, you may as well throw in the towel before you start. We've spent a week trying to get something sorted (to be more specific would be too obvious) & all we've had is false promises &, as you say, countless phone calls to show for our trouble.

Davesnave

Itismehonest wrote: »

I think it happens to almost everyone who thinks they may have found their dream.
The problem is that everyone's dream is different & reflects our individual, whether we like it or not, often selfish ideas of what perfection is.

I'm not sure about this. I was happy in the last two houses we owned, which were 'perfect' properties for the times in which we lived in them. We never had any kind of bad neighbour in 35years. Even the students in our old road used to post notes saying, "We're having a party on Saturday, so we apologise in advance if it should be a bit noisy." :rotfl:

That was city living, and at quite a high density in the roads around us, if not in ours. It seemed to work OK. The worst that ever happened was people having barbecues on long summer evenings (remember those?) and then being a bit loud when they drank into the small hours. The police helicopter was the most regular anti-social nuisance by quite a margin!

Here, we have a motley collection of closer neighbours, and at least half a dozen dogs, some of them outdoors. We hear them, but no problems, because they bark at visitors, which is what they're there for. We also have workshops, stables, a B class road and various bits of farm machinery clattering around. Again, no problem with that. While it can be noisier here than it was in the city, it's mainly the noise of people carrying out their work.

So, I'm not after a desert island or perfection, I just want "reasonable." I'd guess the older couple down the road would like that too. Not having hens to get up for, they'd probably like the option to sleep in, rather than suffer a cacophony before first light, as happened this morning. At least we have double glazing and relative immunity indoors, but they're Grade 2 and much closer.

Davesnave

The postman came to service and light the Aga after he'd finished his rounds today, thus marking the true start of winter.

This is the first time we've used the local Aga lighting service, having previously contacted the contractor the previous owner used. We found that it took more than twice as long and cost half as much.:) It also included a lecture on the history of the immediate area with some intriguing old photos going back to the 1930s.

Now that's service!

Sorry you're having bad service, rhiwfield. Even on Deb'n time stuff happens....eventually. Must've been an expensive item?

lostinrates

Personally, I find city noise, built up noise, becomes white noise after a while. You accept it almost sub conciously as part of 'the compromise'. We had a school in our toad in London, and the noise in the morning of mothers andi ranging their diaries was heinous, truely heinous, and that high pitched squeal of kids in the morning .....grrrrr. Them playing at lunch or break was fine, delight full evenbut coming and going......


In the country the white noise is less, so the 'crescendi' or the interruptions of pitch like dogs is more......felt. The fewer points of potential annoyance also mean its more directed, amplified.

Plus, once you get 'pitched' for that disturbance it's ability to annoy or go right through you in impact increases exponentially.

Itismehonest

I do sympathise, Dave.
It's obviously causing you hassle & has got under your skin.
I can't remember who was in situ first (you or problem neighbour). If you, then that would tend to work in your favour.

I'm just thinking that neighbours in the countryside really need to try to get along if at all possible. You never know when you'll need each other. It usually pays to try hard to sort things out amicably. If not, it descends into permanent one-upmanship & an 'I can get one over on them' hell. I've seen it happen more than once.
Luckily we've always sorted things out even if it's taken time.

I agree, lir. Even the lack of traffic can keep people awake here when they first try to sleep. Eventually, it changes to every engine passing the house makes you look up :rotfl:

choille

I think we may be problem neighbours with all our 'growing on' cockerels, but we are a distance away from the neighbours from Hell.

We have to have contact as we, or rather I, am a shareholder in the Commons, but the way they behave you wouldn't know it. They are so morally bankrupt & want to screw everything & everyone it's obscene. I think they'll be away in a couple of years - I do hope so.

We had to despatch our buff orp as he hasn't been too good at all for a while & it did seem to be the fairest, kindest thing to do. I think he was rather an old hen when we acquired him. I don't think they are long livers.

We are away to get all our hay tomorrow - if it doesn't snow we'll be across East with a borrowed trailer that we brought here filled with scrap wood for the stove - love that - killing two birds with the one stone - apologoes to Old Mr Buff.

Davesnave

Itismehonest wrote: »

I do sympathise, Dave.
It's obviously causing you hassle & has got under your skin.
I can't remember who was in situ first (you or problem neighbour). If you, then that would tend to work in your favour.

I'm just thinking that neighbours in the countryside really need to try to get along if at all possible. You never know when you'll need each other. It usually pays to try hard to sort things out amicably. If not, it descends into permanent one-upmanship & an 'I can get one over on them' hell. I've seen it happen more than once.

The couple who live opposite him were here first. Do they count? How has that worked in their favour?

The noise wasn't there for us initially, though. The couple say it was there when he bred dogs. Now they say it's worse than ever. Unfortunately, while they could probably sort the matter through EH, being close and worst affected, they're not toughies. Besides, if .... edit.....;)

Rather than write a long reiterative post, I'll just add that we've tried 'negotiation' for 30months, and we're where we are because there's no incentive for the other party to change. We're going to create more incentives, and quickly. Nothing we'll do will be irreversible, or there'd be no point.

But we're on a tight deadline. Either we see some movement, or we must take another direction, not :wall: until we're no longer mentally & physically fit to take on something else.

In teacher-speak, "everything is a learning experience." We can take a lot from this place. Unfortunately, that doesn't include the soil! :rotfl: