CSA Please can anyone advise

clearingout

vicster994 wrote: »

no, its so single mothers dont have to work more than 16 hours a week

you really are bitter, aren't you?!

you have a quality of life which way surpasses that of any 'single mother'. You have a partner, your children live in a home where their parents are, presumably, a tight knit unit and love and care for their children. I would give up every benefit I have ever had, all the tax credit etc. etc. to have my children grow up in a stable, loving environment instead of the home we now have which I struggle to maintain and to have their father abusing their mother regularly on the doorstep.

Take care of what you have and stop taking it for granted. It may not be there forever.

gingergee

clearingout wrote: »

you really are bitter, aren't you?!

you have a quality of life which way surpasses that of any 'single mother'. You have a partner, your children live in a home where their parents are, presumably, a tight knit unit and love and care for their children. I would give up every benefit I have ever had, all the tax credit etc. etc. to have my children grow up in a stable, loving environment instead of the home we now have which I struggle to maintain and to have their father abusing their mother regularly on the doorstep.

Take care of what you have and stop taking it for granted. It may not be there forever.

I :heart2: clearingout!!! Amen x

fannyanna

vicster - It's not often that I side with PWC's but I don't think you're doing us NRPP's a favour.

I know just how difficult the situation can be when you're an NRPP. However I appreciate that these difficulties seem universal where the CSA are involved. Yes NRP's (and consequently NRPP's) can have it extremely rough in some circumstances but in just as many circumstances it's actually the PWC that has it rough.

fannyanna

clearingout wrote: »

if you are llving on benefits, you are really living at/on the poverty line - you are given an amount each week which the Government deems you need to live on - for an adult that's somewhere around £67 a week, I think. Try and feed yourself, keep warm, replace clothing, travel, pay insurances etc. on that.

I appreciate your point, although I have a different stance (which is fine as we don't need to agree ).

I think it's widely accepted that we have a benefits system in place that can trap people. There are a number of people who do not want to be on benefits but for whatever reason it does not make financial sense for them to go out into the workforce. I often hear lone parents talk about how they are trapped in the system and would rather work as a defence to being called lazy scum (which is not my view at all but I'm just using this as an example). I agree with them that it is a ridiculous state of affairs when they appear to be penalised for wanting to work.

It's also my view that you wouldn't have people wanting to remain on benefits if they were genuinely living a life of poverty.

Don't get me wrong. Unlike vicster I'm not suggesting that people living on benefits are living the life of riley. I would suggest that there are some that are very comfortable on benefits but I wholeheartedly accept that living on benefits is not the doss that everyone presumes it is and I'm sure there are some that are at or near poverty. But I still don't accept that in general the benefits system results in people living in, or very close to, proverty. I genuinely believe we would have had outcry a long time ago if the vast majority of those on the benefits system were living in poverty.

jojo_2012_2

vicster933 wrote: »

Hi


So I am thinking, if we were to up our rent by £200.00 a month in order to have a 3 bed (boys have their own bedrooms) house would this bring the assessment back to a NIL balance.


Vic

I don't think this would work unfortunately it would be the same as spending £200 on anything else non-essential.

The local authorities see nothing wrong with 2 boys sharing a bedroom, if you had a boy and a girl you might even be entitled to housing benefit yourselves! They do however have a problem with teenagers sharing bedrooms with their parents, which is why your step-daughter has her own room I imagine.

Hope that helps.

duchy

gingergee wrote: »

I :heart2: clearingout!!! Amen x

Me too.... :T

kevin137

jojo_2012 wrote: »

I don't think this would work unfortunately it would be the same as spending £200 on anything else non-essential.

The local authorities see nothing wrong with 2 boys sharing a bedroom, if you had a boy and a girl you might even be entitled to housing benefit yourselves! They do however have a problem with teenagers sharing bedrooms with their parents, which is why your step-daughter has her own room I imagine.

Hope that helps.

If they had to move and the only thing they could rent was a 3 bedroom, would they then not take into account the new cost...???

I think they would...! SO a very misleading statement to make.

And what local authorities say is right has no bearing whatsoever on private rented accommodation...!

clearingout

vicster - 2 questions for you.

1) what input does your partner have into his 13 year old daughter's life? is the input he has his choice or has it been dictated by his ex and/or circumstances? how often does he see her? what support does he offer her - emotional, practical? has he ever paid maintenance for her?

2) you do realise, of course, that even if mum works 60 hours a week and earns £100k plus, your partner still has a legal obligation to provide for her, as per CSA guidelines, don't you? (I'll ignore the moral side).

More than 2 questions, I know!

Northern_Princess

vicster933 wrote: »

Hi

Husband has daughter who is 14 and we have 2 sons. we have to pay £239.00 under the csa1 as of now following a 4 year nil assessment. After the birth of our first son.

I have not disclosed my income so they based it my husband alone. I was told by them I need to be earning less £250.00 a month then I am now in order for it to return to a nil balance.

Now we rent a 2 bed place with the boys sharing in order to save to buy a house. However ex wife is on housing benefit child has her own bedroom. I am shocked to learn that none of her benefits will be affects by this new amount.

So I am thinking, if we were to up our rent by £200.00 a month in order to have a 3 bed (boys have their own bedrooms) house would this bring the assessment back to a NIL balance.

I really need an opinion on this as I am not getting the answer from the csa.....

Thanks

Vic

YOU should not expect an answer from the CSA. YOU have not declared your income :mad:

I have read your nasty, bitter comments about the PWC and her daughter and there really is no need to be so horrible. So what if she works in a sweet shop for only a few hours a day! So what if her 13 year old daughter is on the pill. Why should you care what they do with their lives? You have your own life and are clearly annoyed that your partner pays for his daughter. You are of the same opinion as my ex's partner. It's no surprise my DD wants nothing to do with her father or his partner and I would be surprised if this child would want anything to do with you or her dad. What you need to remember is in your partners past he had a child with another woman and is obliged to contribute financially for the child they had together whether you like it or not. I am horrified you are considering a more expensive house to get out of paying maintenance - what a shallow, self absorbed person you must be. Your children are young, lots of young children share a room yet you are annoyed a 13 year old has a room of her own?

I am also astounded you are openly boasting that you are/were your partner's ex's rent officer. I work in Local Authority as well and personally would have disclosed I was managing a case when I "knew" the person. We can be instantly dismissed if we don't and that situation would be a breach of Policy and Procedure.

I have a few words of advice for you.......get a grip, stop being so hateful and judgemental, concentrate on your own young children instead of wasting your energy being nasty to others, and finally, you never know what situation you will find yourself in a few years down the line. If my advice is not what you want to hear try evening primrose oil, it works wonders

owdslackdraws

I gave up posting on this site after a short time, although I do follow posts because most contain good information, however I am so disgusted that I have to comment on this post.

OP asked a question, and as far as I can see no one has answered the question, just ripped her apart without knowing her situation. If a PWC had asked how do I screw more money from the NRP I am sure the reaction would have been totally different.