CSA Please can anyone advise

stargazer59

Op i really do not understand , your posts are very confusing.
What your partners ex does with her life is absolutely none of your business, nor what her daughter does.
What she spends her money on is none of your business.
You seem very bitter about them, yet it is all about you and how you feel, how does your partner feel about what you are saying about his ex and his daughter.
You complain that his daughter has her own room? Where on earth should she sleep, in the bathroom?
my children always shared bedrooms, if you have more kids than bedrooms that is what you do!
The daughter will be an adult soon and csa will stop while your children are still young. It's not like he will be paying for the next ten years.
Seriously you need to get a grip! Your partner is legally obliged to pay CSA for his daughter and to be honest a good father would want to, so stop moaning about it, treat like any bill that needs paying and get on with your life with your own family. It will only eat you up otherwise.

Soapn

vicster994 wrote: »

easy ride, i was on maternity twice in that 4 years and he was made redundant. seperate dates that is why we did not pay, dont assume we avoided payment it was based on our income. prior husband paid 1/3 of his salary for 6 years. she was on full benefits....

At the end of they day, it riles you your husband made a baby with somebody else, and has to pay financially for that.

If you didn't like the situation, you shouldn't have gone on and had 2 kids with him.

It isn't his daughter's fault her stepmother seems to resent her entire being.

owdslackdraws

stargazer59 wrote: »

Op i really do not understand , your posts are very confusing.
What your partners ex does with her life is absolutely none of your business, nor what her daughter does.
What she spends her money on is none of your business.
You seem very bitter about them, yet it is all about you and how you feel, how does your partner feel about what you are saying about his ex and his daughter.
You complain that his daughter has her own room? Where on earth should she sleep, in the bathroom?
my children always shared bedrooms, if you have more kids than bedrooms that is what you do!
The daughter will be an adult soon and csa will stop while your children are still young. It's not like he will be paying for the next ten years.
Seriously you need to get a grip! Your partner is legally obliged to pay CSA for his daughter and to be honest a good father would want to, so stop moaning about it, treat like any bill that needs paying and get on with your life with your own family. It will only eat you up otherwise.

I think what OP is trying to say is that her husband works abroad (probably because he has no other choice), she works while raising 2 young children, struggling along in a house that is too small for them but making these sacrifices so that they can save to buy their own home.

Now they have to pay more money to the PWC who is on benefits and works just enough hours to keep to "dole people" off her back (sorry don’t do benefits so don’t know what the department is called).

And WHO'S money is the PWC living off, HER money would be what she earns for a few hours work, the rest of the money is the OP’s the NRP’s and even mine along with every other taxpayer in this country.

I for one understand exactly what the OP is saying

DeeDee74

she doesn't claim benefit's loads of people who work on low wage get Working tax credit's, op stated the pwc was on full benefit over 4years ago when the NRP did pay csa , the PWC didnt get to keep that money as it went straight to the state.
the PWC work's so what part time,it's still work..i don't think it would matter if it was full time claiming no tax credits the OP would be on here ranting now dare she have full time job good wages and still claim csa. the op doesnt want her oh to pay.

owdslackdraws

DeeDee74 wrote: »

she doesn't claim benefit's loads of people who work on low wage get Working tax credit's, op stated the pwc was on full benefit over 4years ago when the NRP did pay csa , the PWC didnt get to keep that money as it went straight to the state.
the PWC work's so what part time,it's still work..i don't think it would matter if it was full time claiming no tax credits the OP would be on here ranting now dare she have full time job good wages and still claim csa. the op doesnt want her oh to pay.

I am now confussed, read it over and over but...

Are you saying that working tax credits are not a benefit, if so what is it and where does the money come from

As I said never done benefits so don't understand them

DeeDee74

owdslackdraws wrote: »

I am now confussed, read it over and over but...

Are you saying that working tax credits are not a benefit, if so what is it and where does the money come from

As I said never done benefits so don't understand them

some people might, personally I don't. I count benefit as jsa, income support and that...
sooo many people get working tax credit, child tax credit so if people wana count them so be it, that prob mean's most of uk claims benefit.
obviously comes from government,(tax)

kevin137

Anything that is paid by the government to better your life is "benefit".

You just have to fit a certain criteria to get that benefit...

op stated the pwc was on full benefit over 4years ago when the NRP did pay csa , the PWC didnt get to keep that money as it went straight to the state.

And it should STILL be like that...!

I used to be a bus driver in the UK, working long shifts and nearly always 6 days a week, and for what, to pay a mortgage, bills, and try to better myself, and it used to wind me up no end, that of the 54 flats in our estate, new build, 12 of these where given to so called social housing. Now i am not one to be bitter, but i got talking to one of the residents, and she used to moan like !!!! about her benefits not being enough, and when i worked out everything she got, she would of had to be earning £37,000 before tax to get the same thing i had and i worked 45-60 hours a week for less....!!! So don't you dare tell me that the system is not wrong...!

IF the government pays out more than a certain amount in housing council and js then the CSA money SHOULD be taken as a contribution...!!!

owdslackdraws

DeeDee74 wrote: »

some people might, personally I don't. I count benefit as jsa, income support and that...
sooo many people get working tax credit, child tax credit so if people wana count them so be it, that prob mean's most of uk claims benefit.
obviously comes from government,(tax)

Thanks for that, also googled it and had a bit of read also child tax credits , not sure though if both can be claimed at the same time.

Anyway, yes they are benefits, so people who work pay tax which is where the benefit's come from, so anyone who works and pays child support to a PWC who gets benefits in effect pays twice.

Why on earth should the PWC want to work full time

Good grief!, I wonder if tax can be claimed back on CSA payments, LOL

clearingout

owdslackdraws wrote: »

Thanks for that, also googled it and had a bit of read also child tax credits , not sure though if both can be claimed at the same time.

Anyway, yes they are benefits, so people who work pay tax which is where the benefit's come from, so anyone who works and pays child support to a PWC who gets benefits in effect pays twice.

Why on earth should the PWC want to work full time

Good grief!, I wonder if tax can be claimed back on CSA payments, LOL

so basically, any PWC is damned if they do, and damned if they don't? No NRP should have to support their children? No NRP should have to support a 'first' child if they go on to have 'second' children? Lone parents should feel guilty about trying to juggle 'life' to the benefit of themselves and their children if their NRP and new partner consider that juggling somehow inappropriate? Where are you going to draw the line?

owdslackdraws

clearingout wrote: »

so basically, any PWC is damned if they do, and damned if they don't? No NRP should have to support their children? No NRP should have to support a 'first' child if they go on to have 'second' children? Lone parents should feel guilty about trying to juggle 'life' to the benefit of themselves and their children if their NRP and new partner consider that juggling somehow inappropriate? Where are you going to draw the line?

I have been a single mum, but I got off my backside and worked full time and provided for my son, his father and I maintained a good relationship for my sons sake and he contributed to his son’s upkeep.

No CSA ever involved thank goodness, and I never had any problems, so if I could work full time why can’t others.

The PWC in our case is just like the OP.s except ours cleans her sister’s house 1 day a week, probably cash in hand as her glass back stops her from working.

At no point have I said NRP should not support his children, but why should children of 2nd marriages go without, I would have done whatever I needed to to give my child the best I could any decent mother would!

Anyway, I believe the government is now tightening up on benefit claims, I am am hoping soon the glass back is discovered and she is told to get a job, and in 2 year’s when her child is 19 and most of her benefits stop where will she be then, 50 odd, never worked, no experience or qualifications, not a very bright future in my opinion:rotfl: