You've not really had to pay for much, have you?

Humphrey10

aliasojo wrote: »

The sense of entitlement remark referred to the expectation that there should be / would be money in place to pay for it.

Oh, I see, I need to learn to read

No money from parents needed, I agree.

balletshoes

Humphrey10 wrote: »

I guess families differ. My parents would have been extremely disappointed and ashamed of me if I hadn't intended to go to university.

No university fund needed though. It doesn't cost money to go to university, don't believe the scare stories. Unless the family earns enough to reduce the funding available to the child ofc.

you're dead right Humphrey, families differ. I would never be disappointed or ashamed of my child if she chose not to go to university.

FatVonD

Nor me, my DS isn't academically inclined and is instead taking a vocational qualification in something he's always loved (he wants to be a chef.) I couldn't be prouder of him if I tried.

midnightraven3

i thought we had struck a balance with our 3

2 daughters
then son came along
girls seemed to just float through everything
son (aged around 8 at the time) asks "why dont we get pocket money like EVERYONE else"

me - well, we pay for everything
him - i think i would like pocket money
me - ok, but there are certain things you will need to pay for yourself from it, what is a reasonable amount do you think?
him - (after some thought) £5 per week?
me - ok, you need to pay for games, comics, sweets, treats from that, ok?
him - i think i wont bother with pocket money:rotfl:

Labmanager

The ice cream van only played a tune when they had nothing left according to my parents!

aliasojo

Labmanager wrote: »

The ice cream van only played a tune when they had nothing left according to my parents!

Yeah...yours and many others. :rotfl:

My daughter told me that some years ago. She heard the van and was disappointed that it had sold out. Turns out that was what her pals had been told and they passed it on to her.

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esmf73 wrote: »

Reminds me of that song from the 1970s I think where the son presents the mum with a bill for something little he did. She then lists everything that she has done for him - no charge. Love it and must find it to play for my little ones!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JYE9qpa0GT0
There you go. It was a song called 'No Charge'. The version I prefer was sung by Tammy Wynette.

Always, without fail, brings a tear to my eyes.

elantan

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

You find it fascinating that people talk about stuff?

Wow.

You don't get out much, do you?

Did u stay up all night to think of that reply ?

Obviously i have offended some individuals with my comments which wasnt my intention so i will leave this thread

shegirl

barbiedoll wrote: »

When my kid wanted £40 for the latest computer game, I told him that we didn't have the money. He told me to just go to the cash machine and I could get loads of money from there.

Now why didn't I think of that? :rotfl:

That's like my darling boy when he wants something!He's severely autistic with ld(in some things) etc etc so can excuse his requests for things such as £8000 arcade machines:eek::rotfl:,but he often asks for things and doesn't understand why I can't/won't buy them yet and he'll have to wait if he gets them at all.If I say it's very expensive and I don't have the money spare I get told to go to the bank...clearly he thinks they hand out free money!:D

Have to say if it wasn't for his disabilities and needs I'd probably end up seriously narked with his requests.They just don't understand how much they cost us do they?From everyday things to clothes to toys to books,holidays,trips,gadgets,whatever they need for daily life and whatever they want for fun,they (and also adults who don't have any children) have no idea at all how much goes into having and keeping kids!!

floss2

Humphrey10 wrote: »

..... It doesn't cost money to go to university, don't believe the scare stories. Unless the family earns enough to reduce the funding available to the child ofc.

Life was a lot cheaper a generation ago - nowadays the loans that are provided are generally not enough for anyone to survive on without an extra income / help from family / large overdraft & understanding bank manager.

Certainly when my kids went to Uni (now 24 & 26) as a single parent I didn't earn enough to have to contribute, but I paid deposits / bonds, helped out with the cost of books, subbed at the end of holidays before their next loan instalment was paid etc.