You've not really had to pay for much, have you?

elantan

aliasojo wrote: »

I'm not sure what you mean? Can you clarify please? That seems an odd response for the kind of thread it is. (Imo.)

well clearly the subject matter comes up in various conversations .. including with your child ... i find that fascinating ... thats all .... nothing sinister in it

ButterflyKisses

It'll come to them in time, I remember when I was about 8 when I proudly announced to a school friend that I was totally independent and could look after myself...I'd just learnt how to make sandwiches by myself. :rotfl:

I have realised there's a bit more to it that that over the last few years!

aliasojo

elantan wrote: »

well clearly the subject matter comes up in various conversations .. including with your child ... i find that fascinating ... thats all .... nothing sinister in it

You find it fascinating that people talk about University?

The pupils were talking about University in school today, in class. Obviously all aspects of this were discussed, including present costs.

Daughter came home and asked me about us (if any of us had gone to Uni). We then had a conversation.

I find your post strange. My gut feeling is that there was more to it than that, but obviously I will have to accept your comment 'as is'.

aliasojo

ButterflyKisses wrote: »

It'll come to them in time, I remember when I was about 8 when I proudly announced to a school friend that I was totally independent and could look after myself...I'd just learnt how to make sandwiches by myself. :rotfl:

Bless. :rotfl:

elantan

not just about university but the current scottish non scottish university situation ... it's intersting where / when different types of conversations take place ... maybe cause i like social science and psychology ...

but hey if you want to read more into it by all means do ... thats your choice ...

ruby-roo_2

nearlyrich wrote: »

DS thought you could get money out of the hole in the wall whenever he didn't connect it with earning it until I sat him down and explained it to him.

If only hey, oh to be a kid again and think life is that simple

desert_rose

When my kids were little they too thought we were 'rich', don't know why as we weren't!!

When they were in their early twenties, complete turnaround and all I got was 'We never had a top of the range car. We never had any exotic holidays'.

Must admit it puzzled me a bit at first but then I learned that they had begun comparing their lifestyles while they were at home with 'celebrity', lifestyles, rich kids lifestyles - and concluded that we were a bit poor by comparison.

Best one was when ds informed me that 'Although we were always warm and well fed and had a roof over our heads...we never had...(pick a gadget, holiday, car, whatever..)

It did hurt my feelings to be honest as I'd always tried my best and to discover that it wasn't quite good enough really left me a bit numb.

Hanging_by_a_thread

desert_rose wrote: »

Best one was when ds informed me that 'Although we were always warm and well fed and had a roof over our heads...we never had...(pick a gadget, holiday, car, whatever..)

It did hurt my feelings to be honest as I'd always tried my best and to discover that it wasn't quite good enough really left me a bit numb.

They had what really mattered though, didn't they

barbiedoll

My mum was a single parent and money was ALWAYS an issue in our house. With 3 kids to feed, two or three part-time jobs to juggle and an ex-husband with a grasping new wife who begrudged every penny that my dad paid in maintenance (the bare minimum that he could get away with), my mum struggled for years. She clearly feels guilty that we had to go without during our childhood, and although I don't remember feeling particularly deprived, I daresay that I did whinge at the time about not having holidays, new clothes, the latest toys etc etc.

We were round her place last week and my son mentioned to her that he couldn't have a Blackberry phone because we were "too poor". She told him that he was so lucky to have his own bedroom, more gadgets than Currys, a colour telly, his own perfectly good phone, a wardrobe full of new clothes that weren't worn by someone else before they were handed down to him, pocket money every week and a dad with a car to chauffeur him around everywhere.
She said that if he thought he was "poor" then he should think about the really poor people who literally have nothing.

He was quite contrite when we came home and said that he didn't want us to bother about a Blackberry (not that we were bothered anyway! :rotfl:) and said that he didn't realise how poor everyone was back in the "olden days"!

delain

*Louise* wrote: »

Mine is 12 and seems to think we are poor for some reason - dunno what's gave him that idea but happy to let him think we have less than we do - will stop him asking for stuff. :rotfl:

Come to think of it, he never actually does ask for much and he saves his own money for stuff, but I'm sure that will all change in a couple of years.

This reminds me of a chat twin1 and I had...

We were talking about poor people (she started it after a charity ad about Africa) and she asked how they were poor so I said they have no food or clean water or electricity.

She then asked if our electric goes off because we are poor :eek:

This was after a series of powercuts caused by shonky cabling and a knackered substation, to thanks to southern electric she is convinced we are poor:rotfl: