Wedding Outfit

Kaz2904

Actually that does remind me; MiL did ask me in the run up to the wedding what colours guest had to wear as she had been asked by one of her sisters. I was a bit confused and said I didn't really care as long as nobody wore a wedding dress. Not everyone looks good in all colours so it would be awful to be told to wear a certain colour you hate.

rachel90

Its a special day for you too. I'd never expect my mother in law to be to wear something she wasn't comfortable in. Have you tried speaking to the bride to be and told her how you feel?
Try not to let it get you down too much. You obviously don't want to upset anyone but you shouldn't be expected to be uncomfortable either.

Good luck x

Torry_Quine

Do brides really tell their mother and future mother-in-law what to wear? When I married I never said anything to either and they chose outfits that they wanted and were comfortable in. :eek:

Chaos_Monkey

My now MIL chose what she wanted to wear without any input from me.....although the shop didn't really want to sell her the red outfit until she'd got the 'OK' from me. Which baffled me, but apparently there's some superstition about wearing red to a wedding. I told her to tell the shop not to be ridiculous and that she could wear whatever she liked. She wore the red outfit and looked lovely. Sadly my Mum is no longer with us so the MoG didn't need to co-ordinate with the MoB, but even so, I can't imagine myself or my Mum being put out by what the MoG was going to wear.

So, I'm another who doesn't understand why anyone feels the need to dictate what anyone else wears (OK, we made the men in our wedding party wear co-ordinating outfits.....but they didn't give a monkey's and were glad not to have to think about it themselves!).

It does sound as though the OP is in a tricky situation though, and desperately not wanting to tread on anyone's toes.

Would it be possible to get your outfit found and maybe bought (or just 'held' with or without a deposit) before this outfit finding expedition is planned? Then you could say 'sorry, I already have mine'.

cyclingyorkie

My mum and MIL had no idea what the other would be wearing - they were 200 miles apart and only met once before the big day.

My mum chose something that she was comfy in and that didn't clash with me. My MIL chose a nice suit and hoped.

It was fine!

Good luck OP - but stand your ground. I don't know if you are MOG or MOB - but nobody should tell you what to wear...

indebtinsussex

when we got married we all met up one day, the bridesmaids and the mob and mog so people could see what colour the bridesmaid dresses were going to be (my mum was making them and I wanted the mog to have some involvement), then we spent the afternoon looking at hats as both mums agreed they had to wear big hats. So they knew what hats they were wearing and that was it, my mil went for greens and yellows to match the bridesmaid dresses and my mum went for brown and salmon pink and both looked gorgeous. I didnt care what they wore in the end as long as they were comfortable and happy

neneromanova

I've said to my mum and his mum that they can wear anything they like but not white/ivory/cream. Mil2b wore cream to OH's first wedding so this is my one worry. Mum keeps going on about if she can wear black. :rotfl: I told her as long as its not too goth like (as a wedding is a happy affair) then I don't mind.