Wedding Outfit

fin54

My Daughter is getting married, bridesmaids are navy and I want to wear black and white lol, been told no you can't mum

j.e.j.

I don't think the mothers of the bride/groom are told what to wear. As far as I understand it the bride chooses her dress, the bridesmaids' dresses, and the Page boys' suits (if there are any). The mum might discuss what she's wearing with the bride or go out shopping together for it, but the outfit is not chosen by the bride as such.

Have you got a bridezilla on your hands? :rotfl:

moodydonkey

carefullycautious wrote: »

Lets just say i was so looking forward to going with a trusted relative to choose what I would feel comfortable in.

Feel a big NO coming on which is not going to go down well

Maybe you should just post who has a problem with what outfit and then we can offer advice (unless the powers that be are on here also) It is an important day for you too so you would want to look your best and feel comfortable. The bride/groom must realise this too.

belfastgirl23

I wouldn't be particularly happy having an outfit chosen for me on any occasion with the possible exception of being a bridesmaid, and even then my friends have always had the manners to at least take soundings before they choose. Not on I'd say.

carefullycautious

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poet123

I would go with them and not be able to find anything I liked, dither and dally....as often as it takes!! Then when they stop offering to go with you, you then "happen" on something whilst on a day trip somewhere.

Gigglepig

Just say it is kind of them to offer but you are not a social shopper prefer to do your own fitting another time?

moodydonkey

Just because you go shopping with them doesn't mean you have to buy something you would be uncomfortable wearing?

I apologise in advance for this, is it different social backgrounds or different money backgrounds? Again I think you may need to be more specific because it's unclear what the problem is. Sorry.

JC9297

I would tell them that you are an adult who has managed to dress themselves appropriately for many years and you are perfectly capable of choosing something suitable for the occasion, which you like and feel comfortable in. I think it is ridiculous that some brides feel they have to control every aspect of their wedding as if it's all a big production and they are the director, would it really ruin her wedding if you wore something in a colour or style that was not to her taste.

angelil

My mother and mother-in-law shopped separately.
Can't remember if MIL knew the colour scheme beforehand, but what she did chose did go with our purple (she wore grey).
The mothership DEFINITELY knew the colour scheme beforehand, but again her colours 'went' without matching (she went for blues and greys). My dad though was probably king of matching with his purple flower tie and purple flower cufflinks!
I would never dream of telling any of the guests what to wear. If they match or 'go' then it's nice but hardly essential. The parents did run Dad's purple flower accessories by me beforehand though