Wedding Outfit

balletshoes

carefullycautious wrote: »

I am being told I have to go shopping with them for something I would not be comfortable wearing.

I'm not clear here - have you explicitly been told you'll be wearing something you will feel uncomfortable in, or have you just been invited to go shopping?

if you're not happy with anything you see when you're all shopping together, just say you haven't seen anything you like yet.

eta - I don't think my mum even asked, or knew, what colour the MOG was going to be wearing, either time she was MOB.

seashore22

My daughter gets married this August and, apart from not clashing with the colour scheme, I can wear what I like. I will probably go shopping with my daughter fairly soon to see what's out there . Getting something that I like is going to be traumatic enough without added complications!

Husband (father of the bride) is sort of being told what to wear, but he doesn't mind too much. He would probably prefer to buy a new suit and tie, but I think groom, best man, ushers and fathers are hiring something a bit more formal. No tails or top hats though.

Hope that helps.

Just to add that when we got married 27 years ago nothing matched and I have the photos to prove it.

carefullycautious

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caeler

Maybe MOB is reaching out to you? A 'nice' thing to do together and buy your outfits. Rather than decline outright, agree to go, make the day about her, let her find her outfit, run out of time to find yours and finish with a coffee and cake! A nice bit of bonding for the mothers, you might make a new friend at the same time.

pimento

Go out with her, smile, try it all on, if necessary buy something. Then, on the day wear what you want.

You can return whatever you buy,

carefullycautious

pimento wrote: »

Go out with her, smile, try it all on, if necessary buy something. Then, on the day wear what you want.

You can return whatever you buy,[/QU

poet123

carefullycautious wrote: »

Its not the money, I would pay as much as I needed to. I would love to go into detail but cant on a public forum.

I think what I need to know is how to say 'no' I am going to look myself with a relative whom I trust for something I am comfortable with.

Oh to go back to the times when we hired a local village hall and did self catering on a budget and had a jolly good time.

You can stick wedding venues in room 101 as far as im concerned.
sorry if this offends

My guess is that your son is marrying into a gypsy family and they want you to go along with some of their more ostentatious ideas for wedding attire.;)

Perhaps not that exact scenario but I bet I am not too wide of the mark!! Less "taste" more "tack"?

If you don't want to get off on the wrong foot as a MIL you will need to tread carefully and feel your way around this tricky situation. You may want to say "back off" but you cant be so blunt. Good luck!

seashore22

Oh dear, you've made me worry now. I know the mother of the groom in my case would like me to choose mine first, but I don't mind at all if she gets hers first. My daughter did ask if I had looked at any yet because MOG was asking and I questioned if she wanted us to go together. Perhaps I shouldn't have. I don't want to put us all under unnecessary pressure.

I was trying to do exactly what Caeler said.

carefullycautious

angelil wrote: »

My mother and mother-in-law shopped separately.
Can't remember if MIL knew the colour scheme beforehand, but what she did chose did go with our purple (she wore grey).
The mothership DEFINITELY knew the colour scheme beforehand, but again her colours 'went' without matching (she went for blues and greys). My dad though was probably king of matching with his purple flower tie and purple flower cufflinks!
I would never dream of telling any of the guests what to wear. If they match or 'go' then it's nice but hardly essential. The parents did run Dad's purple flower accessories by me beforehand though

Can I adopt you :rotfl:

carefullycautious

poet123 wrote: »

My guess is that your son is marrying into a gypsy family and they want you to go along with some of their more ostentatious ideas for wedding attire.;)

Perhaps not that exact scenario but I bet I am not too wide of the mark!! Less "taste" more "tack"?

If you don't want to get off on the wrong foot as a MIL you will need to tread carefully and feel your way around this tricky situation. You may want to say "back off" but you cant be so blunt. Good luck!

No No no to first bit I think I could cope with that better

Yes Yes Yes to second