Family fight - what would you do?

CH27

I'd stay well out of it.
They are adults & can make their own decisions.

Concentrate on your relationships with step dad.

peachyprice

skintanddesperate wrote: »

What does everyone else think?

I think firstly you should stop worrying about what people are doing on Facebook and secondly keep your nose out of it.

It doesn't sound like your OH's step brother being out of your life is any big deal, so carry on without him.

fluffnutter

The weirdest thing here is why the step-brother's not told anyone he's actually the boy's father. Why keep it quiet? Don't get it.

peachyprice

fluffnutter wrote: »

The weirdest thing here is why the step-brother's not told anyone he's actually the boy's father. Why keep it quiet? Don't get it.

Pah, it's just another Facebook Saga. It all adds to the drama.

daska

TBH, unless not having contact with the stepbrother causes you daily problems or grief I'd let him get on with it. Oh and do please send him the odd birthday/xmas invite to make it clear that it's not you excluding him but the other way round, make it clear that it's entirely his choice.

duchy

skintanddesperate wrote: »

I think the bigger part of him thinks his step-dad deserves to know. He admits he's being selfish by wanting to do it to get back at step-brother.

How old is he ? He needs to grow up ! He seems to want his Dad to feel bad about his brother's morals -to make his Dad be less interested in the (other) grandson ? Selfish doesn't even come close-and to wrap it up as "doing the right thing" is laughable-he's just going to cause more pain and upset in the family. Have he and his brother always been jealous of each other ?

flutterby_lil

fluffnutter wrote: »

Huh? Surely this is good news to share, and not some dastardly family secret??

I know, can't see the problem?! Why is it causing falling out, he should be delighted...

puddy

trying to compile genograms for families like this is a nightmare

i dont get this either, whats the big secret? just get on with your life as it is and stay out of it is my advice

fluffnutter

peachyprice wrote: »

Pah, it's just another Facebook Saga. It all adds to the drama.

I totally agree. But I lead a dull and conflict-free life. I'd be lost without the opportunity to comment on other people's scurrilous family dramas.

elvis86

Perhaps they're from a family where it's deemed perfectly acceptable to ignore children that you've fathered, but only as long as they're the kids that you had earliest (ie the "mistakes") and you care for the ones you had most recently?