Help for seperated fathers?

Morlock

MissMoneypenny wrote: »

I suspect it has more to do with the NRP getting a reduction in the maintenance they pay, if they keep the child/ren overnight.

Yeah, because the £20 per week saved by the OP if the child stayed at his 50% of the nights in a year would not be eaten up by the added expense of feeding and entertaining a child. A trip to the cinema and that extra 'saving' is gone.

Ralphy101

the cut and dry of it was i was hoping that the state look favourable on NRPs that activly pay child support without the need of courts/CSA etc... and perhaps there was some financial aid to help me put things in place to have my child stay over...

the difference between an overnight stay and a day's access is huge.

Morlock

Ralphy101 wrote: »

Having spoke to the housing dept. at my local council they told me that i would not be entitled to any housing, as I am not classed as homeless since my name is still on my previous tenancy ( she is changing the tenancy agreement to her name this week).

Is it a council property, and is it a joint tenancy or in your name only?

BigAunty

Ralphy101 wrote: »

the cut and dry of it was i was hoping that the state look favourable on NRPs that activly pay child support without the need of courts/CSA etc

You are meeting your obligations towards your child, like many forum members cooperate with when they comply with taxation, council tax, payment of bills,etc, without the state having to prompt them, so your actions are laudable but it requires no reward from state coffers.

Ralphy101 wrote: »

.. perhaps there was some financial aid to help me put things in place to have my child stay over...

If the PWC agrees to give you a share of the tax credits, yes, otherwise the only remaining options are to adapt to your budget or change it, such as decreasing living expenses, increasing income or finding a cheap place where your kid can stay.

There is no magic bullet - you don't have primary care of the child, your child maintenance isn't excluded from benefit calculations, so you simply just have to get on with it.

rotoguys

Sixer wrote: »

Andy: the south east has the country's cheapest water, the south west the most expensive:

http://www.guardian.co.uk/money/2011/nov/29/south-west-water-customers-rebate

Perhaps you should try toilet bricks?!

Not according to my water bills it isn't!!

Who or what is 'Andy'?

BigAunty

rotoguys wrote: »

Who or what is 'Andy'?

A notorious poster who feigned cyber suicide because he couldn't elicit sufficient sympathy out of forum members for swindling his family and the state in hair-brained property schemes, concealing his assets from the DWP so he could cling onto means tested benefits, bragging about claiiming benefits to which he wasn't entitled.

It's a guy we're supposed to feel is some kind of victor of the benefits system even though he comes across as a total loser. Apparently we're supposed to admire him.

mumps

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Your grandchildren probably haven't recently gone through the devastation of their parents separating and the subsequent insecurity . It can also be an age thing as well.

Unfortunately they have.

Oldernotwiser

mumps wrote: »

Unfortunately they have.

I'm sorry to her that. I'm sure visiting you helps them to feel secure.

mumps

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

I'm sorry to her that. I'm sure visiting you helps them to feel secure.

Thanks, I think we represent stability, granny is always there and usually has a treat in the cupboard.

Ralphy101

Just reading through the comments

Although there are some genuine kind pieces of advice here... there seems to be a lot of judgemental and spiteful comments.

God forbid that any of you end up in a situation such like myself (through no fault of their own) - and have to endure the torment of posting on a "Q and A" forum - only to be bombarded with callous comments.

I am a 27 year old working male, i pay my taxes so am i entitled to enquire if there is any help available.

I was merely after a factual answer and not lecture on whether it is right or wrong to be receiving financial aid... or that Child maintance is taken into account when calculating said age.

I;ll get back to making myself comfortable on my sister's sofa after i sort my work shirt out from the bin bag of clothes i am left to live out of.

Good night