Relationship Dilemma: Want thoughtful and Sincere Opinions

Mizz_Pink

Go for it, I think its a bit unnecessary to worry about what other people think.

You might miss a beautiful relationship!

mountainofdebt

well all I will say is that my hubby is an ex of a friend.

I was not involved in the breakup and nothing was ever said about us initially seeing each other let alone marrying.

Don't worry about it - her ex is not a close friend so shouldn't be a problem. In fact people are probably wondering why you pair haven't seen each other yet especially if you spent the night talking to her!

victory

You had nothing to do with the break up, the person is not a close friend so the path is open for you to go ahead and date the girl, why not? go for it maybe the best thing you have ever done:D

dianadors

One of my best friends married an "ex" of mine - everybody is happy. I say go for it and stop worrying.

bumpybecky

my sister has been living with one of my ex-es for the last 9 years

OP - you're worrying to much about what other people think. Go for it and see what happens

msmicawber

I'm not sure why you're worrying since you obviously didn't know this bloke very well - not well enough to know his fiancee, or to have been invited to the wedding that was called off at the last moment.

llh189

Maybe you would feel a little better if you knew how and why they had split up and if the ex has moved on, if you are still really worried and think that this lady could become really special and a longterm thing then maybe you could phone your friend ( albiet a distance friend ) and just explain it as you have to us and let him know that it isn't something that you would normally do but you wanted to run it by him, I think if he is even half as nice as you sound he will respect your honesty, and would probably give you the all clear.

I wouldn't have an issue if one of my friends wanted to date an ex of mine, especially if we broke up a while ago and we broke up under ok circumstances.

Hope this helps

Lisa

angeldeelite

you obviously didn't know this guy very well if you didn't even know who he was due to get married to.

In my eyes that makes it fine. To me, there are only issues if you knew the girl whilst she was going out with one of your friends.

Jet

Go for it. You're not doing anything wrong. Who knows what will happen?

Stop worrying about everyone else and what might happen and just live the best life you can today.

tiff

I went out with a friend of my husband's for 6 months. We finished, then 6 months later I started going out with my husband. He wanted to clear the air so spoke to his friend on the quiet, saying he was now going out with me. Not sure of the exact conversation, but it avoided any awkward situations later. I've been married to my husband for 11 years