Boys into Ladies Toilets

looby75

my ds will continue to come into the ladies with me until he feels uncomfortable doing so...once that happens then I'll let him go into the mens with instructions to go straight in do his stuff and come right out again. If I have any reason to be concerned about the length of time he's been in there then I'll follow him in to check he's ok. Mens loos or not my ds's welfare comes first...and lets face it once you have seen one set of wedding tackle you have seen them all, so nothing to worry about

jordylass

My sons 11 now and being going in on his own since he was about 8. Do you all think gay peadophiles are hanging around public toilets waiting for little boys?

Pink_butterfly_3

I've not read anything homophobic, just concern about letting children go into an unfamiliar place unprotected.

A few months ago, a 13 year old girl was followed into the toilets in Asda and raped by a 16 year old in a town near me.

This has made me super paranoid and i would only let my kids on their own in a disabled loo.

Nicki

I have a disabled child (girl) who when she needs to go, needs to go right then. It p155es me off enormously when I find that the disabled toilet is being used by a non-disabled person, child or not, and she has to wait. How do you know that a disabled person isn't going to turn up to use the toilet just after your child goes in? In my opinion this is no different to parking in a disabled bay because its closer to the front door of the shop.

If the young boy is too young to safely use the mens on his own take him into the ladies with you. Noone will turn a hair if he is with you - ladies after all perform everything behind closed doors. If he's old enough to feel uncomfortable using the ladies, then he's old enough to go into the mens on his own, and if you're worried get him a rape alarm or a whistle (though I personally think you are massively overreacting, and also confusing homosexuality with paedophilia and they are two very different things!)

Zziggi

Oldernotwiser wrote:

Does anyone else think that there's a great deal of homophobic thinking being displayed on this thread?

DH does exactly the same with DD. Not homophobic, just being careful & cautious with my kids. Anyway when mum takes boys into the ladies, the ladies are doing their business in cubicles behind doors. WHen DH takes daughter into the gents men are at the urinal. I think i would want DH to take DD to the disabled toilet more than i would want to take DS to the ladies.

ooobedoo

I haven't got any experience of this yet, as my daughter is only 10 weeks old. When my DH has to take my daughter to the toilet what will he do?.

Zziggi

Nicki wrote:

I have a disabled child (girl) who when she needs to go, needs to go right then. It p155es me off enormously when I find that the disabled toilet is being used by a non-disabled person, child or not, and she has to wait. How do you know that a disabled person isn't going to turn up to use the toilet just after your child goes in? In my opinion this is no different to parking in a disabled bay because its closer to the front door of the shop.

I understand what you are saying Nicki. DH is disabled and we all get really
pi55ed off at people abusing blue badge bays. However i still let my kids use a disabled toilet. I do this everytime i am out. i can honestly say in all that time I have only ever come out ONCE to find someone waiting - who actually was just walking up to the toilet as we were leaving. Of course if someone was there and disabled, i would of course let them use the disabled toilet and tell my kids to wait. However, like i said, it has only happened to me once in all this time. But nevertheless, i take on board your point Nicki.

Nicki

Zziggi wrote:

I understand what you are saying Nicki. DH is disabled and we all get really
pi55ed off at people abusing blue badge bays. However i still let my kids use a disabled toilet. I do this everytime i am out. i can honestly say in all that time I have only ever come out ONCE to find someone waiting - who actually was just walking up to the toilet as we were leaving. Of course if someone was there and disabled, i would of course let them use the disabled toilet and tell my kids to wait. However, like i said, it has only happened to me once in all this time. But nevertheless, i take on board your point Nicki.

As your DH is disabled, I probably wouldn't tear him off a strip for taking your DD into the disabled loo and I agree it is more difficult for a man out on his own with a girl. I think in those circumstances maybe the man should take the girl into the ladies, as I can't really see any ladies objecting but maybe that would take some chutzpah for the dad! I don't understand though why when you are out on your own with the boys you don't take your boys to ladies if you think they are too young to use mens on their own, rather than blocking what is probably the only disabled loo in the place

Smashing

Nicki wrote:

I have a disabled child (girl) who when she needs to go, needs to go right then. It p155es me off enormously when I find that the disabled toilet is being used by a non-disabled person, child or not, and she has to wait. How do you know that a disabled person isn't going to turn up to use the toilet just after your child goes in? In my opinion this is no different to parking in a disabled bay because its closer to the front door of the shop.

Disabled stalls are not like disabled parking spaces - they are not "disabled only." They are disability-accessible. Big difference.

Everyone has to wait for the toilet at some point.

Nicki

Smashing wrote:

Disabled stalls are not like disabled parking spaces - they are not "disabled only." They are disability-accessible. Big difference.

Everyone has to wait for the toilet at some point.

Which is presumably why many places now fit them with locks so they are only available to those with RADAR keys (ie genuinely disabled people).

Not sure what the big difference is myself. Disabled parking spaces are designed for those who can't walk long distances or need extra space getting in and out of their cars, disabled loos are for those who would wee or poo on the floor if they had to wait in line for a standard loo, or need extra space to use the facilites. Sorry to be graphic, but I assume from the crassness of your response that you don't have first hand experience of disability causing incontinence and therefore need to be educated as to the grim reality. :mad: