Primary school putting kids "in the naughty corner" if they need the toilet

chelle230

I can't believe that the school would treat a child like that, no matter what age, but 6 years old!!! I'd be straight in there telling them exactly what I think.

Nicki- I work in retail, and if I want the loo, then I'll go and no my boss doesn't tell me that I can't. In none of the stores i have worked have any of the staff been told to wait until break.
As an adult I actually do have medical issues and am on medication to prevent me needing to go so much, I cannot control my bladder, unfortunately it controls me, so how the hell do you expect a young child to control it if the urge takes them!

suki1001

I found my children's primary school to have a good policy on "punishments", but in one class the teacher was using it wrongly. The ultimate "punishment" was a trip to lunch time club. The teacher in question started banding the threat to the whole class, this had no effect on the disruptive children, but petrified my son, who is unlikely to ever visit the lunch time club.

What seems scary to me is that the op's situation, is when I contacted the head about this problem, she supported me and said that all the teachers should be following school policy about behaviour, that way it is re-inforced all the way through the school. It seems odd that the head lets teachers make up their own policies/rules for each class.

So in conclusion Nicki, there is nothing wrong with enforcing rules and getting 6 year old to behave appropriately at all. There is nothing wrong with having appropriate rules for using the toilet, but if you class needing the toilet during class times as naughty, all the children who are generally well behaved will get the message that if they ask to go if they need the toilet they will be punished or humiliated. That is not teaching responsible behaviour. It just teaches them to be fearful. There are more appropriate methods in doing this.

When I was 6, I was too petrified to ask the teacher to go to the toilet, because she had got very cross just before with another pupil, I then wet myself. It didn't teach me to be responsible, it just taught me to be scared of the teacher.

I think most 6 years olds do have control, although obviously there will be a few who will try it on. I would have thought a good teacher would be on the ball with this.

Mrs_Arcanum

Good luck Sparklyfairy.

I would just add for your further ammunition, surely the golden rule with children is NOT to make an issue of bladder timings as this aggravates any problems. The total opposite of this teachers appalling class management style.

Sparklyfairy

Daska, that experience sounds awful - I'm sorry to hear you had to go through that. People can be shocking & I always wondered WHY a person who is so controlling like the people we have mentioned on here are even in teaching - it's almost as if they get a sadistic kick out of humiliating children...that's what has driven me to make the stand to complain to them (and the option to take it further..) Too many people are apathetic & just do NOTHING & when I see my child suffering - I cannot just sit there & accept it. I'm glad to hear you had support from friends & complained - well done! x

chelle230, thank you! xx

vickynleon

omg i would go insane if i found out that was happening in my son's school, how cruel i can understand that it must take quite alot of time out of teaching with kids going to the toilet but these teachers and assistants get paid a fair amount of money to deal with things like this.
This has made me so angry reading this post, i havent read through all the post's but op was enough. i just hope your little girl isn't afraid to go to the toilet from now on the poor little thing. i hope that your complaint works and to be honest with you if i was in the same school i wouldnt of thought twice about going to complain.

System

http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/4088846/Disabled-girl-forced-to-clean-up-after-weeing-herself-in-school.html

Sparklyfairy

suki1001 wrote: »

It seems odd that the head lets teachers make up their own policies/rules for each class.

I personally feel that the head lied to me - of course the teachers can't just make up their own rules! She's waaay too controlling to ever let that happen - she is the one who implemented it, end of. The teachers/assistants were mearly acting on her instruction..

chelle230

hope you get it sorted asap sparklyfairy.

I'd love it if I could control it, one cup of tea in the morning and I ca be going every 15 mins for the next 3 hours!
Imagine being 6 and not being able to hold it, if my 6 year old wants to go in school they let him, if he had an accident because of them I'd be fuming, he's not had an accident since he was 3

meritaten

you go for it sparkly! everyone has the right to visit the toilet as 'needs must'. so much so, that even prison cells include toilets! to deny a child the right to use the toilet is awful! to PUNISH a child is even worse!
You have my full support here hun!

chelle230

CHRISSYG wrote: »

http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/4088846/Disabled-girl-forced-to-clean-up-after-weeing-herself-in-school.html

omg, that is absolutely disgusting! the teacher should be ashamed, and obviously face the consequences of their actions